[quote]angry chicken wrote:
Very interesting thread. I am a member of SEVERAL of the most discriminated against classes in our society: I am a felon (try getting a job when you’re a felon!). I didn’t graduated High School (guess that means I’m stupid, huh?). I grew up in poverty (electric getting cut off in the winter poverty). I was physically and emotionally abused growing up and left home at sixteen (as in hospitalized for two weeks with a punctured lung and broken ribs when the 2nd out of four stepfathers beat the shit out of me when I was 8 years old). I was the only white boy on my block and experienced racism directed at me for being white on a daily basis - including being jumped and beaten on a number of occasions where I was outnumbered. My teenage years were spent in criminal activity, blasting NWA on my boomin’ system, doing drugs and fucking bitches until I got busted for robbery and incarcerated for about 4 years.
I guess I should curl up into a little ball and cry myself to sleep every night, huh? I mean, I’m a VICTIM, here right? I experience racism, I grew up poor, I subscribed to the “evil” hip-hop culture (sarcasm), I had it pretty bad, right? I was 22 when I got out of prison and I started pushing a broom on a construction site…
… at age 32 my net worth was over a million dollars. I guess it’s because I’m white, right? LOL I mean busting my ass building a blue collar career as an electrician didn’t make me that much money. I didn’t have a degree in finance or anything. I didn’t have any family to help me out (most of my family wrote me off when I went to prison). I certainly don’t have any “special interest groups” or “affirmative action” programs to look out for MY white ass… So how on earth did my poor little disadvantaged self become successful?
First of all, I didn’t feel sorry for myself - not once. Second, decided that I wasn’t happy with where I was with my blue collar career and committed to making a change. I started reading the Wall Street Journal on the advice of an older friend. I had to rule out ALL of the possibilities that I believed wouldn’t give me a chance based on my “questionable” background, lack of marketable skills and lack of education (I’m pretty much computer retarded, so IT was out). That left selling insurance, real estate, mortgage, or starting a small business. I had no help with this process. Just my own dissatisfaction with my career and a desire to make better money. So back in 2003, I chose to get into mortgage.
So I got up at 4:30AM, went to my job at 6:00AM, got off at 2:00PM, drove home and showered and changed, drove to work by 4:00PM and worked until 10:00PM as a loan officer learning the job, making mistakes, learning how to network and develop a consistent pipeline, etc… And the rest is just hard fucking work, long hours and a desire to succeed.
Tell me why ANYONE, white, black, spanish, asian, whatever - CAN’T do this? I experienced racism, I was poor and don’t have an education (something I handled on my own through disciplined study), I can’t be hired by most companies because of my felony… If I can succeed, I am not buying all of the bullshit excuses I am seeing here about “institutionalized this, and victim that”. If an individual WANT’S to succeed, they CAN succeed here in the USA regardless of their race, color, national origin, sex, level of education, or what ever “self limiting” belief you have imposed upon yourself.
Excuses stink. And making excuses for a whole generation of a particular group is completely disenfranchising them more than racism ever could. ANYONE can succeed. If they don’t, they just don’t want it bad enough. I’m not saying it will be fair - LIFE ISN’T FAIR. But opportunity exists for those who have the eyes to see it and the work ethic to pursue it.
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People come to you for advice and you give them what are basically self-esteem excercises. So presumably you respect the power of psychology. What if a million times over for four or five generations you saw your culture and your people put in a box marked other? If you werent of extra-ordinary talent and ability it might affect you deeply. If you were of extra-ordianry ability you might be able to scratch and claw out of your hole.