I have recently completed a MAJOR goal in my life. I have been studying for a professional exam for about 7 months, every day, for about 10-12 hours a day. A couple of weeks ago, I took the exam and passed it with flying colors. Now that it’s over, I feel empty as hell, and it’s hard to get motivated to do anything.
Has anybody ever experienced this? How do you deal with it?
any more insight on what this exam was for?
Well dude, you just worked your ass off, congrats. Now stop posting here and DON’T DO SHIT for a couple more weeks. Have no worries, down some beers, eat some good food, and fuck some bitches.
Then back to work.
exacto! You worked hard and now you can relax.
In fact, this would be a great time for you to reflect on your accomplishments and think about where you want to go from here. Maybe do something you really wanted to do but weren’t able to b/c of the studies. Or pick up a hobby.
In the meantime though, “Have no worries, down some beers, eat some good food, and fuck some bitches.”
[quote]PB Andy wrote:
Well dude, you just worked your ass off, congrats. Now stop posting here and DON’T DO SHIT for a couple more weeks. Have no worries, down some beers, eat some good food, and fuck some bitches.
Then back to work. [/quote]
x100 thousand trillion
seriously man.
personally i’d just walk around exclaiming how much of a badass you are. and get two chicks to blow you at the same time. that’d be sweet.
or ask mascherano to give me her phone number. that’d be a pretty kickass thing to acomplish
I managed to get accepted to a pretty good law school, and that really threw a wrench in my work ethic. It took me about a month before I seriously hit the books again. For me, what motivated me to get back to work was this: Yes, getting in was pretty sweet. However, them letting me in was really only the first step in a series of difficult steps before I get where I want to go. If I stopped now, how would I ever get there?
I guess the first piece of advice is don’t freak out, what you’re going through is totally normal given the situation. Sometimes people freak out because they’re freaking out… it’s normal to feel that there is an emptiness in your life as there actually is.
If you had this thing that was taking up so much of your life and now it’s not there anymore it’s going to feel like there is a void now. I guess the best advice I would give is to think of it as a relationship that ended. How would you advise people to move through that?
Personally I’d say it’s about building your life back up again. You had all your eggs in one basket and now you’ve eaten all the eggs. Go plant some wheat, corn, beans, grow some cows. Multi task, find out what you like and fill your life back up again!
Seriously, I’ve been there, done that, it’s sometimes a necessity to put yoru life on hold for a goal but the you have to be ready to leap head first back into life when it’s over.
It’ll feel like a rest because it’s different (change is as good as a holiday), you don’t need to do ‘nothing’ as that’ll probalby make the emptiness worse (rumination, thoughts, anxiety etc) just get out, take your mind off it and find some activities and people to fill your life again.
All the best mate!
It’s normal, don’t freak out! I always brace myself for that when going into monomaniac mode for some project.
You just have to ride it out for a few weeks. Read some self-help books, figure out what you think is fun to do in life, do more of that.
Yup, that’s what passing the BAR does. You study forever, pass, then turn into a soul-less ginger. For some the transformation is faster than others, the hair color is usually the last thing to change.
Personnaly I had something similar happened to me a few years ago (4 years of constant hard work…)
When I finnaly reached my goal I:
-tryed to enjoy the fact that I did accomplish that goal (and be gratefull)
-then reflected upon the long hard but rewarding road that I travelled
-figure out what I did learn throughtout the whole process (about myself,life in general…)
-give myself and my wife (who’ve been more than supportive) some big memorable reward.
-set some new goals to work towards for (short, med and long term…)
[quote]sexy_animal wrote:
I have recently completed a MAJOR goal in my life. I have been studying for a professional exam for about 7 months, every day, for about 10-12 hours a day. A couple of weeks ago, I took the exam and passed it with flying colors. Now that it’s over, I feel empty as hell, and it’s hard to get motivated to do anything.
Has anybody ever experienced this? How do you deal with it? [/quote]
While I can understand, I don’t think I have ever in my life only had ONE goal I was going after at a given time…and that includes board exams.
Maybe that is what bodybuilding gives you that “fitness trainers” don’t have. Accomplishing that would have me simply working even harder in the weight room now that is was over.
I think it’s normal.
After I finished my last bit of work for my last class in university, and after I celebrated and was thrilled with it all, I became a bit depressed in the following weeks as I was in a bit of a state of not sure what to do and I was coming down of the high.
I ended up convincing some folks to go on a tough 2 week backpacking trip because I wanted the thrill of accomplishment again. Which I got and I sought it ought again and again after that. The trip really did help though because it also allowed me to properly relax and move on to the next thing.
I still get depressed if I’m not actively working towards something or visualizing a future accomplishment. You still need to relax but I think if you have some ideas floating around about what you’re going to do next without too much pressure to get it going now you might feel better.
Thanks for the advice y’all, it’s much appreciated. I figured this would be the right place to ask because people here are striving hard toward something. I keep a notebook just for writing out my goals on a daily basis, and when I sit down to write them out, it takes me about 15 minutes, so there is no shortage of goals. They just all sort of temporarily lost their luster.
Guess, I just didn’t have any time to reflect on my progress because I was constantly surrounded by people. Now, my girl is out of town and my boys are coming over with some vodka and some weed. Looking forward to giving my brain a “hard reset”. 
PS: debraD, holy shit!
Get yourself another goal and start at it
The kind of dedication you’ve shown blows my mind. With such a huge investment of your time for so long you’ve earned some down time so yea, take a few weeks. Just don’t become one of those all or nothing people who shine bright for a minute then crash for years. Once your down time is done life goes on.
I was like that with high school football. Everyday I spent trying to improve for football or practicing or something. Then, midway through my senior year, I tore a tendon in my hand, had surgery, and my football career was over.
On top of the emptiness, I felt guilty every time my team lost like it was my fault. Then, I couldn’t wrestle for the same reason and of course I couldn’t lift for months. So yeah, I felt a void.
Also, I recently got accepted to Penn State. Now high school seems completely pointless.
But, I can lift now. That fills a big part of the void. I’m looking forward to the start of track season. That should pretty much fill it up.
[quote]HolyMacaroni wrote:
seriously man.
or ask mascherano to give me her phone number. that’d be a pretty kickass thing to acomplish[/quote]
ACCOMPLISHED!!!..and by that I mean in progress, and by in progress I mean 1 in 1000000 shot.
OP: enjoy the vodka and weed.
It must feel good. 7month average 30.5 days a month * 10 hours a day : 730.510= 2135 hours. I want to know what did you study for? tell me tell me plz
It must feel good. 7month average 30.5 days a month * 10 hours a day : 730.510= 2135 hours. I want to know what did you study for? tell me tell me plz