[quote]imhungry wrote:
[quote]nlmain wrote:
[quote]imhungry wrote:
[quote]nlmain wrote:
[quote]pch2 wrote:
Can guys tell when a girl is thinking about sex?
I may have gone through all of the T-Vixen thread this morning (great motivation to get up and go do some cardio), and have sexy time on the brain.
I’ve had three ‘how you doin’ approaches already today, and I wasn’t flirting with any of them.
Mere correlation or causation?[/quote]
I vote pheromones.[/quote]
Then, Greenys’ and my phermones need to have a power lunch and do some serious brainstorming, so that we can have better “Message sent-Message received” communication.[/quote]
I still have that problem to this day with my hubbie and we’ve been friends for 17 yrs and screwing for 11 of those. The best advice I can give you is you both need to learn to be direct. Sending out “hints” is all nice and cute in the movies but when you both are stressed over work and such being direct gets the job done.
Frenchie “Chewy, I need to get off. Either you come here and help me or I get the job done solo.” He has yet to answer me to get the job done on my own. 
On the other hand he likes to ask me if I had any plans for the evening and gage my response. I’ve learned to be incredibly direct in my answer. “Yes I plan to screw your brains out” is nice and clear. “I’m not sure, let’s see how much energy I have later” has usually led to him playing computer games.
My one criticism is that ONCE in our lifetime I would love for him to just grab me caveman style over his shoulder, throw me on the bed and do it thoroughly. Problem is we both have had abusive pasts and we just can’t seem to overcome the “I’m afraid to trigger a negative response”.
Also with time we have learnt WHEN we are better timed for play. Near bedtime I am sleepy. I want to sleep. In the AM I am grumpy. I want coffee, not sex, or very rarely. I’m a 3pm happy girl. Plenty of energy left for having fun. My belly’s not bloated with alcohol or supper and not sleepy yet. And it’s also a perfect time for a nice afternoon nap in the leftover sweat and smells all rolled up against eachother. Problem is we have adult lives and jobs. The solution was to stop OVERBOOKING our freakin weekends. Seems simple enough but it took me years to figure this one out.
Chewy in true manhood has no prefered time 
just reread. sorry if this is long.
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Hey… this was quite unexpected, Main. 
See, our communication IS pretty damn good, I must say. It’s not really a big issue, really… And, if it was, I wouldn’t be posting it on TN.
Stress, the timing, and just learning what each other needs when your life is “off” is a learning process and we’re going to run into these issues from time to time, I know. It’s HOW we handle them is what’s important. It’s neithers’ fault. Just a learning curve.
I’ll stop here, since Greeny isn’t home from work and I don’t want to put her on the spot, either. She can add her 2 cents and we’ll go on from there.[/quote]
Greeny’s 2 Cents Time!
Hi! wave
I agree with IH completely. We’ve done everything backwards. I mean, we spent actual time together of about 4 weeks before I moved here. Also, I’ve never had sex not on prozac so I don’t know if my libido is inhibited by that or not. I did go 3 years before having sex twice with a friend and then another 3 years before IH. The reason for the first 3 year abstinence is personal and I won’t discuss it on here and the second 3 year abstinence is partly for the same reason and partly because I was focused on getting done with school before I could “start my adult life” so to speak. Right now we’re out of synch because both of us do have some work stress and my hours changed the last two weeks. We’re definitely in the “courting” or “getting to know” stage still, just while married and living together. 