Now before I start I’d like to quote a great man and say “The title bitch don’t apply to all women, but all women got a little bitch in 'em”. That being said here’s my 2 queries.
Do/how often will a girl try to gain a guys attention by hanging on other guys around him. For example, I see this very sexy young lady around campus now and again and we’ve definitely thrown eachother the fuckeye back and forth a few times. I’ve never spoken to her but recently seen her a few times at some parties and she knows some of my friends. My hatin ass friends won’t introduce me because they all don’t want to see me hit it first. 2 x’s now I’ll show up at a party and she’ll see me then come right over to one of my boys and give him a huge hug act all happy to see him for about a minute (not even look in my direction) and then resume whatever she was doing (getting drunk). However, then I’ll catch her glancing at me several times throughout the night. I figure,
A. If she’s not interested in me then eventually she’ll fuck one of my friends, and my intuitions will have been proven wrong (it does happen).
B. She’s a little game player and by not acting like I give a flying fuck she’s just gonna want the backside beatings even more.
How acceptable/unappreciated is the standard “not call” procedure the day after a date. Example, I went out with this green eyed temptress on sunday. Had some drinks, bullshited, and we both had to be up early the next day (she had a funeral to go to:-( So we ended the night fairly early. The night went fairly well, she was a little quite but naturally said it takes her awhile to open up. I discretely suggested we go inside her place and chill for awhile, but she seemed unsure. Well, how about a goodnight kiss. OOHH BOY! We were at it for a good 2 1/2 to 3 songs (not sex). Then after saying she acting like she was going to leave 3-4 more times followed by more of the same sweetness. She finally got her sweet ass out of my car and went home. That seemed to go well I thought. I told her to call, she said she will. Well it’s 2 days later, I hit here with one text message just to say Hi and no response. Now IMO this girls about only a day away from getting dropped. However she does have class on T/Th with a very long commute + will the person wasn’t that close to here she did just have to go to funeral on mon. So the ? is am I being an impatient/ insensitive prick or just playing the game?
i blame you for not talking to the girl yet. by now she probably thinks your a wussy that lacks the confidence to approach her. when she came over to your friends you had the green light to break the ice.
i would not immediately call a girl the next day after a date. therefore i wouldnt expect her to call me. shes probably just trying to show you that your not the only thing on her mind. a girl has got to play hard to get or you would dump her anyway, right?
3 standbys, 2 solid, one about to be removed from rotation. BTW scrub, I don’t always like to approach females. Sometimes it’s cause I’m bitching out, other times it’s because it seem to strategically be the right thing to do. In this sit. u apparently don’t think so. I’m not so sure.
One more thing, to all the t-females I’d probably be more interested in your opinions. Seems like there’s alot more intelligent/attractive women on this forum than in the few years I’ve been on here. It’s nice to see, and being that on a certain level you ladies all share a similar passion (ie. an aesthetic pyhsique) to us t-men it’s likely your opinions would probably be more in tune with those of a woman I’d not just…“tag and bag”. Thanks in advance.
Go talk to the girl! She probably thought she misread your interest when you didn’t approach after she gave you a clear signal. I am not afraid to make the first move but I love it when a man has the balls to just come and get it. Makes me feel totally “female” and it really turns me on, not just sexually.
A text message? Personally, I would be offended by a text message, but maybe that’s just me. If I am dating someone and the ground rules have not been discussed, I am never the first one to call after any sort of monkey business has taken place. In my experience men always think you are making assumptions about a relationship that may or may not exist and start reading all sorts of stuff into something as benign as a phone call. It sounds like she has a lot going on so I wouldn’t take it too personal. I usually give a guy a week and if he doesn’t call (and not a bullshit call when he knows I am not going to be there and he can leave a message ;)), he’s done. Although, if he hasn’t called by then that is probably already the case.
Anyway, it sounds like she has a lot going on this week, school, funeral, sadness over said funeral, maybe doesn’t usually make out on a first date and feels weird about it, maybe doesn’t want to appear overeager and scare you off, blah blah. I say just call her.
“Or maybe wait three weeks, then call her and tell her you were just cleaning out your wallet and found her number and then ask her if you fucked.”
i am not an ugly man, but i am not a pretty boy… i am just a artsi singer dude that just happends to lift… but AAAAANYWAY… i have gotten more girls that should be out of my kinds “league” just by talking…but then they hate that I am in a band and leave me in 43days… so hgroi;edhagnjvkrehdngd
Straight away… no waiting… why wait? If you are interested and if it took her 10mins to get out of the car then why not text her when you get home and say something like… “wow… that was some goodbye… i’m still thinkin about it…” something silly like that will make her smile and make her think that maybe she’s got under your skin… then follow up in a day or two to ask her out for coffee… simple really…
Maybe she’s feeling vulnerable for taking 10mins to get out of the car? Maybe she thinks that now you think she’s gonna be an easy tag?? Maybe she is still a little upset from the funeral???
I know… maybe you should actually CALL HER!!! lol!
P-DOG I am so proud of you. You actually said something inteligent!
I totally agree with the idea of you approaching her. You should’ve done it when you first noticed her eyeing you. At this point she is probably questioning whether or not you are interested. Jump on the opportunity before one of your buddies does.
Don’t all guys abide by some sort of 3-7 day rule? Sounds like she’s got a lot going on. So, I would say give it a few days and if you don’t hear from her then bag the other chick.
Merlin, I was about to say that myself, gotta wait 6 or 7 day before you call the girl. Make her wonder if you are interested, cos that’ll raise her interest in you, especially if the date went well.
Even I can see that she’s interested at some level, and I’m pretty much oblivious to any and all signals women give off. Just sack up and do it, preferably when your friends aren’t around, if they won’t introduce you I wouldn’t trust them to not mess something up for you. Be bold, be victorious.
I gotta think that calling and asking if she’s allright after going to the funeral/can you cheer her up is an obvious move. Even if you don’t end up hitting it, she’s hot so you might, plus it’s a considerate thing to do.
In terms of the chick who you haven’t broken the ice with you should tell her, “The cool points are out, you’ve got me all wrapped up in the game” if she has any idea what you’re talking about you’re so fucking money.
You want advice? Come on man! She wants you to GO TO HER! Gawdamn, if only I were that young and single again! Let me make this really simple for you. If you’ve had this many fuck-eye encounters, she wants to fuck or at least explore the idea. So quit being a lil’ bitch and go to her. SHE WANTS YOU TO BE A MAN. If you wait another day, she’s going to write you off as a little pussy. If you don’t take this opportunity, I’m gonna hunt you down and step in and hit it for you.
What is this… dating for the new millenium??? I’m years removed from what is the current dating scene, but I have young adult children, and this what I would advise to them.
What’s wrong with going with your feelings. If you see a girl that you find attractive or interesting…it’s simple, talk to her. It’s still the best way to find out of if she is interested, and if you are attracted beyond first impression.
Second question. Again, what’s the problem with going with your instincts and feelings. It sounds as if you found this girl worth further effort…go for it. Call her, tell her you enjoyed her company, and wish to see her again.
I don’t get it. What’s to loose here in putting yourself forward a little bit. Hell, NO is just a word. In most cases it’s not personal and has more to do with other people’s perceptions than it does with anything thats wrong or lacking in you.
How do you ever get anywhere in your life or emotional growth if you constantly throw your own mental resistance in your own path (looking for motives in others).
This isn’t meant as a flame or critism…I just really don’t understand. Why is just being honest, self-confident, and receptive such a bad way to deal with people of any gender?
women on this forum than in the few years I’ve been on here. It’s nice to see, and being that on a certain level you ladies all share a similar passion (ie. an aesthetic pyhsique) to us t-men it’s likely your opinions would probably be more in tune with those of a woman I’d not just…“tag and bag”. Thanks in advance.