Disowned by Parents / Change Name?

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Hey Mikey, I just wanted to touch on something you mentioned about the disowning. With my mom being sick I have seen some things come about in my family. One sister is at odds with another (who I am also at odds with) because one sister is mean to the other sisters husband. Now my father also goes through periods of being mean or intolerant of the husband because we are country and he is bronx. So there is understandable differences in mannerisms and thus friction.

What I keep trying to instill to my one sister (married to the guy from bronx) is that your family is your family, but your husband is your husband. I mean I don’t spend 70% of my life with my mom and dad, or my sisters. I spend that time with my wife, and if anyone in my family bashes my wife, I’ll lite them up one side and down the other (unless it’s a 100% valid reason and then I’ll still lite them up and tell them it’s none of thier business and that I handle stuff like that). My sister just hems and haws when other memebers of my family bash him, treat him rudely or openly get into it with him about how he is.

My family has a long histopry on both sides of siblings screwing eachother and end up not talking to eachother for long periods of time. I don’t know if you need any validation for your choices, but I guess what I’m saying is that if your family is in the wrong, I’d have done the same thing.

V

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[quote]Mikeyali wrote:
Some good ideas gents. As I said, I’m hesitant to change my last name since I’ve kind of made my own mark on it at this point, but I’m almost sure to change my first two names. However, my knowledge of my last name doesn’t travel past my own grandfather. The man was an abusive drunk (but he did fight in WWII). In other words, beside my siblings, as I see it, I’m the only credit to the name so far.

I’d really rather keep the specifics as to why I was disowned to myself. Considering all the reasons a person could be disowned makes my father’s reason extremely minor, especially since I’ve actually done nothing to bring shame to the name. All the more reason for me to disconnect myself from parents who treated me well as a child, but poorly in this second half of my life as an adult. In general, I was disowned for not allowing my parents to disrespect my wife and child. The end result was that they felt I was not giving them enough attention or sufficiently catering to them when we did see each other.

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Are you doing this to upset your parents? Because if you are then it is the wrong decision!

Anyway…

Have you ever considered taking the name of your grandfathers wife? That would be in keeping with your family roots!

Or if you are looking to completely disassociate yourself from your family why not take the name of your wife!

This is just a thought but if you went back 10 generations starting with your father and mother you would have had 512 great grandfathers’ or 1024 great grandparents in total! Potentially all of them would have had different last names so the question arises’ what are you/we really clinging onto?

My point is I think bloodlines are total bollox! Unless there is some close proximity to you and the relative you deem important, then whats the point. The genetic pool gets too dilute to claim any attachment to one particular distant relative to be of any relevance!

I know Kennedy’s who claim shared ancestry with JFK. That may be 100% true but really’ what does it prove?

What are surnames anyway but a mishmash of different spellings and pronunciations that until recently have been never been completely accurate as very few people could actually read or write way back when.

Anyway as someone has already stated the practicalities of changing your name would be a nightmare and it is YOU not your parents that have made a mark in this life with the name you have. But if you feel strongly about it and you got the support of your wife then go ahead.

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[quote]Vegita wrote:
Mikey, I say man up and force your Parents to change THEIR name. Or you could go with Mike Litoris. Allthough it won’t be an origional name.

V[/quote]
or Mike Hunt.

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Anyone old enough to remember the old “Bob Newhart Show” from the 70’s? How about the guy that was the dentist? His real(?) name was Peter Bonerz. Are you kidding me?

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I know two people named Richard Seamon. Father and son, in real life.

There is absolutly no way father didn’t get “dick seamon” all the time and to name his son that. Just horrible.

V

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Make them change their names. You have just as much right to it as them.

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