I would be interested in participating, should you want to bring up this discussion again.
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The acronym in itself means it is not an option. A man doesnāt choose to be unable to get a woman.
Though I donāt think having hate or anger for undue time periods is healthy, there are only a few things in this world that make men angrier than being womanless.
To me it shows that men and women behave similarly.
The article title seems to leave out the fact that the bottom 50% of women donāt fair much better on their percentage ālikesā. This isnāt a āmatchā I donāt think? The bottom 50% getting 4.3% match rate wouldnāt be an issue (4-5 matches per 100 swipes).
How does hinge work? You like a profile and it letās the person know that you liked their profile? I am married, so I donāt have to worry about these things.
Only speaking to the hateful part. I think thatās the part they choose.
I think there are a few guys out there that are so disadvantaged that they are incels. Is a guy who is a 3 and wants a 7+ and only pursues 7+ really an incel? Is a guy who doesnāt try to meet women an incel? I think a lot of the guys that claim they are fit into one of those categories.
I think the maximum amount of time men who desire women can go until becoming miserable is one year, generally speaking.
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I just have a hard time believing that a man that tries hard to find a woman and is going for women that are appropriate matches for him is not going to find one in a year.
I think a lack of effort is a common thing among that group. They have given up.
If you really are that hideous (not you, the man that canāt get any women after trying hard), Iād say move somewhere else. Somewhere where your qualities are valued by women. A guy who is sub par in the US might desirable in a different county.
Though that is the cause of some Inceldom, there are other factors. I actually made a lengthy list of what has lead to the incel crisis. Iām not sure if I should keep going with this considering Iām further derailing this thread. However I can tag you and @Andrewgen_Receptors if you want in the other, appropriate thread.
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Sure, tag me over.
Couldnāt tell you TBH. I imagine itās instagram with a swipe left or swipe right option.
I think thereās a pretty big difference but yes, it is similar. The top 10% of women getting 45.7% of matches while the top 10% of men getting 58% matches is quite significant IMO, but the trends of both are to be expected.
@BrickHead Iām in
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Itās a lot more depressing in a graph.
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At least us ugly folks can look good naked
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If you have female friends that have tried online dating, you should ask them for their war stories. Men are just stupid. Opening up with āI really want to destroy your P*ssyā. Sending unsolicited dick pics. A lot of guys just think they are owed a woman no matter how big of a POS they are.
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You canāt make a claim and then give two examples that run completely counter to your claim.
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Nah, was just being sarcastic about the way he sounded.
Women are often attracted to different things as we all know.
My wife is a smoke show and I am average at best in the looks department. I also had NOTHING when she met me, but a lot of muscles and a lot of ambition.
Money is the easy woman attractor. But, I think confidence and knowing how to talk to them goes a long way too.
I feel this in my soul.
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Thatās an issue with the younger generations. They lack character and personality because they donāt need to develop social skills or coping skills. They can get away with being bland, talentless, unambitious (unless wanting to become an influencer is ambitious), mediocre (at best), narcissistic, etc. That is, until reality inevitably shows up and they find out that winning and losing are real outcomes in life. So why wouldnāt a so called incel have problems when he believes he has the right to have certain things, like a woman, by virtue of simply existing. Itās a version of the participation trophy.
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I am more so talking about someone with way less going on than you.
I was recently just doing some research on cost of living in different parts of the world. I was looking into the Philippines. I read a quora post where this old, fat, bald, disabled dude moved there. He found a wife half his age quickly. He didnāt even have that much money (was spending ~4K USD/month). He posted pictures of his place, him, his wife. I kinda felt bad for everyone involved TBH. It is obvious his wife isnāt actually attracted to him so I feel bad for him. For her, because she isnāt attracted to her partner, but less so cause she a gold digger. I guess I didnāt feel bad for her relatives that got a free ticket.
I am talking really bottom of the barrel guys, which wouldnāt include you (I donāt think haha). These are the type of guys that are actually trying and incels. I tend to thing most guys that try will find a woman.
I was a confident asshole even when I had no money. I never hurt for women and pulled basically what I wanted. A LOT of older women in my early 20ās were very upfront and aggressive lol.
I have known a feel older Dani Devito looking guys do the mail order bride / Philippines / Thailand thing and it always makes me cringe.
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The funny thing is, Danny Devito is a very successful person who obviously didnāt let his, no pun intended, shortcomings hold him back. He has most of the things that women might find attractive
Iike talent, fame, money, ambition, personality etc., that make up for his physical looks but instead of going after models or hot actresses, he married Rhea Perlman.
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Danny Devito is so attractive a girl who couldnāt get the real thing brought a cutout Danny to prom.
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Yes, he is talented, funny, and rich.
Those things can definitely make up for any shortcomings.