Decisions, Decisions (Jobs)

SARG · June 12, 2007, 6:06pm

[quote]DF85 wrote:
What feild are you in?

Not to often but I have seen something like this, run your situation by a manager or any higher up that you are closer to than he runs it by someone higher, ending up with an incentive to keep you there if you are worth it.

far shot but you never know.[/quote]

Construction Management.

That’s actually a thought I had, to run it by my current management. I really doubt they will fight that hard to keep me here as I haven’t been here that long. Which is understandable.

Zap_Branigan · June 12, 2007, 6:16pm

[quote]texasguy wrote:
analog_kid wrote:
CaliforniaLaw wrote:
analog_kid wrote:
Is the commute that terrible? I mean, yeah it sucks to drive a hour to and from work every day,

How long is your daily commute? How long have you been commuting?

First job is about 30 mins each way, second job is like 7. I enjoy driving, call me crazy. I don’t think I could function if I didn’t have that time in the morning cruising the back roads, listening to music and sipping coffee.

I can see breaking a few traffic laws coming home on Friday however.

30 minutes isn’t a commute. it’s a typical, short jaunt through traffic in any respectably sized city. An entrance ramp and an exit ramp three exits up followed by four traffic lights plus the time spent searching for a parking space will take 30 minutes no problem. And you wouldn’t have even traveled 5 miles. Milk a cow for me will you?[/quote]

Exactly.

I used to commute 7 miles in one direction. It usually took at least 20 minutes.

Now I work 35 miles in a different direction and it takes me 40 minutes to get to work.

There are a lot of variables besides distance.

SARG · June 12, 2007, 6:19pm

[quote]SWR wrote:
CaliforniaLaw wrote:
texasguy wrote:
30 minutes isn’t a commute. it’s a typical, short jaunt through traffic in any respectably sized city. An entrance ramp and an exit ramp three exits up followed by four traffic lights plus the time spent searching for a parking space will take 30 minutes no problem. And you wouldn’t have even traveled 5 miles. Milk a cow for me will you?

Gotta agree with you here. I wonder how many of these posters live or have lived in a major metropolitan area?

Many people do not understand what a commute really is. Unless you’ve sat at an office planning your exit strategy around traffic patterns (and hoping there wasn’t an accident that will set you back a couple of hours), you just don’t get what a commute really is.

You ever commute from Newport News, VA to Chesapeake, VA, through Norfolk, when most of the Aircraft Carriers are in port?

California’s not the only place where traffic is bad. LA might have the worst (or might not, I don’t know, I’ve only lived in 7 different large cities), but that doesn’t mean nobody else can give advice about commuting. [/quote]

No CA is of course not the only place with bad traffic, but I don’t think that was what he was saying.

The main issue is that I’ve done the commuting thing before. Five years ago, I worked 240 miles from home for 6 months and stayed nearby during the week. So I drove there and back once a week.

Eight months after that I did the same thing at a project 90 miles away, this time going up throught LA, and the worse parts, traffic wise. I had days that it took 4.5 hours to get home at the end of the week.

After that, I went to another one 80 miles away, and again stayed out near work during the week, this time it was a 2 hour commute each way. Of course there and back once a week since I was staying out there.

Then I was sent to downtown LA, which is a 1.5-2hr commute each way and did that drive everyday for about a year.

So, needless to say, I’ve done a lot of commuting and driving. After all that I decided I had enough driving and I found a company with work near home. Which brings me to the present and a great opportunity that will require some sacrafice.

I’m comfortable right now. But I think you guys are right, if it’s a good opportunity and my GF is the right girl for me, then it should all work out and I should take it. I would hate to not take it and regret it later.

SARG · June 12, 2007, 6:35pm

[quote]texasguy wrote:
If it were me, i’d pack up and move closer to the new, higher paying job.

If your relationship with your girl is really as serious as marriage, she should be supportive right?

and if your friends are real friends they will still be there for you too, maybe just less frequently. but, there are always new people in new towns to befriend.

what if you just moved 15-30 minutes closer? you would have a short commute to work and wouldn’t be all that far from your current neighborhood either. [/quote]

I thought about moving, but I know my GF would not go for it as she works locally also. Plus I like where we’re at now. So moving is more of a very last resort. And it’s very possible that I could be working closer to home once the first 6 months passes.

Got a chance to talk it over with my girl last night and she seems supportive about the posibility of the new job and realizes that it could be better for both of us in the long run, so that’s good.

I think with that said I’ve defeated most of the negatives and need to look at the finacial impact vs. the raise to make sure it’s worth it. If that works out then I think it’s definitely a no-brainer from there.

SARG · June 12, 2007, 10:11pm

And thanks for all the input guys, much appreciated.

tmoney1 · June 13, 2007, 8:13pm

I know you love your GF, and you have friends in the local area, but in the end, you gotta do what’s best for you. If you are a religious person, pray to God and ask for guidance. After about 3 days, you’ll know what to do.

If not, sit down and write out all the advantages and disadvantages of your current job and new job, and see if one outweighs the other.

If not that, then just go with your gut instinct. The instinct is there because you feel a certain way for a reason.

Whatever path you choose, we wish you good luck, and we know you will make the right decision.

system · June 13, 2007, 9:09pm

[quote]tmoney1 wrote:
I know you love your GF, and you have friends in the local area, but in the end, you gotta do what’s best for you. If you are a religious person, pray to God and ask for guidance. After about 3 days, you’ll know what to do.

If not, sit down and write out all the advantages and disadvantages of your current job and new job, and see if one outweighs the other.

If not that, then just go with your gut instinct. The instinct is there because you feel a certain way for a reason.

Whatever path you choose, we wish you good luck, and we know you will make the right decision.[/quote]

praying to god is the same thing as making a pro and con list.

all you do is voice your concerns to an imagined ear in the sky rather than write them on paper. (until god is seen physically, he is imagined and hope is all there is to it)

then you look for “his” answer which basically means you keep the issue at the forefront of your mind just like when you analyze a list.

the only difference is that when you come up with your own answer, you credit the imaginary ear that you hope is real instead of your list.

it’s the same end psychological result, just through different means.

/rant

SARG · June 13, 2007, 9:54pm

[quote]texasguy wrote:
tmoney1 wrote:
I know you love your GF, and you have friends in the local area, but in the end, you gotta do what’s best for you. If you are a religious person, pray to God and ask for guidance. After about 3 days, you’ll know what to do.