[quote]Powerpuff wrote:
[quote]fiftyplus wrote:
Powerpuff,
I think it is natural in many cases to think we need what we don’t have, especially those constantly striving for a better version of ourselves. I would love to be taller, smarter, and have hair!
We are constantly being bombarded by direct and indirect messages about some social ideal. In my opinion, the real understanding is that really beautiful people come in all sizes, shapes, and packaging. Seeing and appreciating that beauty is the messaging we should seek and do our best to ignore the rest.[/quote]
For sure. It’s better to try to live your life by your own internal standards, instead of in comparison to others, but it’s easier said than done. Part of that awareness is what makes us human. The economics of happiness has a lot to do with our perception of how the people around us are doing. I’m really happy with a B on the test if everybody else got a C, but if I know everyone else got an A, I’m no longer happy about it.
Of course, some things we just don’t care about. My friend can drive a new Porsche and I can be completely happy with my 2003 Toyota. I can pat myself on the back about the virtues of not being materialistic, but the fact is, it’s not a big virtue on my part because I just don’t care about cars. I might care about other things more. We’re a complicated bunch of star-bellied sneetches. 
It is better to try to develop your own sense of self, your own standards for success, and your own value system that is tied to something deeper than what the Kardashians are doing, or what your neighbor is doing, or a beauty standard that’s been influenced by the porn industry, or whatever. And then try to not judge other people, because their motivations aren’t always what they seem. This is very true.
BTW, I’d also like to be taller and smarter. As for hair, men make too much of that. There are lots of attractive bald guys. The unattractive thing is the guy with the comb-over. Same goes for short men, it’s not a deal, IMO.
Nice to talk to you guys! Have a good weekend. [/quote]
I like to think most people have an innate drive to better ourselves; and I think this is what may motivate women to try to improve their appearances. I hope that the women athletes of CrossFit can inspire women to engage their drive for self improvement into healthy exercise and diet rather than into the unhealthy eating behaviors which seem to correlate with the skinny runway model ideal.
I will never be satisfied with my body’s progress; I can always be leaner, bigger or stronger. This is good for me because this drives me to healthy behaviors specifically eating better and training smarter and harder.
I do not agree with the notion that women should be taught to accept their bodies; rather I feel they should embrace better role models.