[quote]on edge wrote:
I’ve got a new question related to all this. How do you people who have stressful jobs deal without bringing it home?
I’ve decided on a plan, and that plan is to stay put for two years to get management experience then take my services elsewhere. At this point I’m shelving the plan I mentioned of getting a job offer then using it as leverage with my current employer. I’m holding too much of a grudge to even consider that.
The problem is, having this plan isn’t bringing me clarity. I’m still lying awake most of each night seething. Two years of this and my health is going to be shot. I’m also having a hard time imagining I can keep my mouth shut for two years. I’m going to get fired because I’m going to end up speaking my mind.
So, those of you with high stress jobs, do you just get used to it or are their tricks to compartmentalize and keep it out of your home life?
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In short, if you are simply showing up each day and biding your time until you can put down on your resume that you have 2 years of experience in management, you’re going to be absolutely miserable.
On the other hand, if you channel that anger and make a promise to yourself that you are going to make the most of every minute at that company by teaching yourself to be the best manager you can be for when you leave (or start your own thing), things will go a lot better for you mentally.
I see you have pretty much decided to stay for professional development. I hope there is some good personal development too. It isn’t easy but most often necessary. I hear all the guys saying F them and move on but I am willing to bet none of them have 16 years doing anything consistently. Either way, I look forward to hearing how this develops. Hang in there. Be faithful. Do what’s right. Always.
Take care,
Ed
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Actually, I am one of the ones telling him to move on because my wife had just gone through something similar after seventeen years as a department director. No one is telling him to go off half cocked, just to start the ball in motion.
If he stays, odds are things will go further downhill. I see it going a couple of possible ways. Either his attitude goes to shit because they keep taking advantage and he never gets that management position or in a couple years he quits/gets fired for the same reason. They just fucked him and he didn’t even flinch, why do you think they will change?
Thank you for these recent posts. You guys are right, I need to work on my perspective and make it work for me to keep my mind in the right place for the next two years.
I see you have pretty much decided to stay for professional development. I hope there is some good personal development too. It isn’t easy but most often necessary. I hear all the guys saying F them and move on but I am willing to bet none of them have 16 years doing anything consistently. Either way, I look forward to hearing how this develops. Hang in there. Be faithful. Do what’s right. Always.
Take care,
Ed
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Actually, I am one of the ones telling him to move on because my wife had just gone through something similar after seventeen years as a department director. No one is telling him to go off half cocked, just to start the ball in motion.
If he stays, odds are things will go further downhill. I see it going a couple of possible ways. Either his attitude goes to shit because they keep taking advantage and he never gets that management position or in a couple years he quits/gets fired for the same reason. They just fucked him and he didn’t even flinch, why do you think they will change?
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Most likely, they aren’t going to change and leaving may be the best option. However, I think it is best to make sure a person’s perspective is in the right frame before making deicisions like this because our perspective can contribute to the negativity in a way that we become less than objective. Once we move past the emotional reaction of getting screwed over then we are in a position to check out the landscape and compare apples to apples. While the bending over is still fresh, every opportunity or chance to jump ship looks like the right thing to do.