Lets say, someone tried to present himself as a proper electrician.
He would say that electricity actually works, he has made it work.
And yet, anyone using electricity was so terribly insecure…
Lord, have mercy…
Kyrie elei-ei-son…
[quote]orion wrote:
Lets say, someone tried to present himself as a proper electrician.
He would say that electricity actually works, he has made it work.
And yet, anyone using electricity was so terribly insecure…
Lord, have mercy…
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And here is exactly my point illustrated once again.
Humans and woman are not to be controlled and operated as electricity.
That is why you found yourself electrocuted by your own admission.
Wasn’t there today. Hopefully there tomorrow. Ill ask to get a drink NOT dinner lol
[quote]Spock81 wrote:
Dinner might be a little weird, she might be self concious about her chewing, HAHAH (me).[/quote]
This for me x100. When I actually think about myself chewing I worry excessively about whether or not I look like a dazed cow chewing cud. That, plus food that that can’t be easily nommed on (no big sandwiches, large leaves of lettuce or anything with the potential to haphazardly discharge a sauce, glaze, broth or juice in the vicinity of my shirt for the first 8 or so dates is a rule I live and die by) are surprising sources of anxiety for me.
Eating in general is my dating kryptonite and I have no idea why. Oreos and brownies give me panic attacks if there isn’t a drink nearby and I eat my cereal one Capt’n Crunch at a time.
[quote]Spock81 wrote:
ASK HER TO THE ARCADE[/quote]
This for OP x1000. Action “dates” are usually best if you have yet to build rapport (takes the edge off of forcing conversation), and she should be receptive to it since she is, ostensibly, into moving about and shit.
Alpha Male Protip: you can swing by the prize counter, figure out what she likes, make a big deal out of (effortlessly) winning a bunch of tickets and then proceed to trade them in for something YOU want to have for YOURSELF… just to make her feel insecure about whether or not she is making a good impression/living up to your standards while also setting the precedent that YOUR needs come first in the relationship.
Total panty dropper, for realsies.
[quote]tnationer wrote:
Wasn’t there today. Hopefully there tomorrow. Ill ask to get a drink NOT dinner lol[/quote]
Don’t ask her to get a drink. What if she’s repulsed by the idea? Some people are. I agree you shouldn’t ask her out to dinner. It’s a little too formal and maybe too much pressure on her. There’s nothing wrong with saying “Hey, we should go grab a bite some time.” That’s totally different. “We should catch a movie sometime” Is perfectly good to.
I actually think the movie thing might work better for you. You seem a little intimidated the way you focus on her age when she’s barely even older than you. A movie will give you time to relax and give you material to talk about after. You could also at that time, after the movie, say let’s grab a snack or even a drink. If getting a drink isn’t the center piece of the engagement it’s not a blunder if she’s not interested.
[quote]anonym wrote:
ASK HER TO THE ARCADE[/quote]
This for OP x1000. Action “dates” are usually best if you have yet to build rapport (takes the edge off of forcing conversation), and she should be receptive to it since she is, ostensibly, into moving about and shit.
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I agree with this.
It’s so obvious but I’m going to say it anyways.
Whenever asking for advice, it makes sense to listen to those who have had success in what you’re trying to achieve. So if you’re looking to build a serious relationship, seek out advice from those who have had success in that arena.
[quote]Anonymity wrote:
Humans and woman are not to be controlled and operated as electricity.[/quote]
You make it sound like this maxim is full of wisdom.
And yet, the vast majority of our species’ history says otherwise.
[quote]The Greek wrote:
[quote]jskrabac wrote:
[quote]tnationer wrote:
-she’s newly single
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All I needed to read. Stay away for NOW. Trust me. [/quote]
x2
If you’re looking to be her rebound dick, then by all means, go for it, but if you want anything more serious than that, stay away for now. Newly single bitches aren’t looking to get tied down so soon. She wants to feel attractive and that she’s “still got it” by seeking her fair share of attention and she’s probably going to bang quite a few dudes before she settles down again…just letting you know. [/quote]
lol. So all women who get out of relationships are soley looking for casual encounters? Stereotype much?
OP,
I don’t really have anything to add beyond what has been said by the “old folks” above. Good luck. Let us know how it goes.
Just a few tips.
You don’t have to define the date when acquiring her number.
Remember you don’t know her or her interests plus building a little suspense and mystery isn’t a bad.
I would avoid a bar for a first date. If she is involved in fitness find a nice walking trail and go for a walk. Sure it sounds cliche, but it works.
I’m sorry, but if she is older and he is younger. An arcade may be a bad idea as she will be evaluating his level of maturity.
[quote]Captnoblivious wrote:
An arcade may be a bad idea as she will be evaluating his level of maturity. [/quote]
Agreed. Exposing your personality to your romantic interest is like getting into a pool of unknown water temperature: you test the waters with your toes, ease into it holding onto the handrails, brace yourself for the final head dunk, and then be sure to urinate while swimming to obviate the chance of someone detecting the slight discoloration building up around your crotch.
Back when I was stationed in Hawaii I used to meet girls at the gym. Some would ask me out and I asked out a couple. One even ran out of gym and flagged me down in my car when I was leaving - we ended up dating for 3 years. You never know. Just be natural and when you are talking to her ask if she would like to get a drink sometime. Its very casual and a good approach. Be confident with yourself and if she passes, don’t let it bother you. You mentioned she is recently single so she may not be ready. BLUF - ask her out bro. Good luck!
I agree that a bar is a bad idea, but I like something along the lines of “would you like to grab a coffee or drink some time? or maybe a protein shake?” Very little pressure and it can mean whatever; daytime, evening, or an OJ first thing in the morning. I’d say a grill type place is good, even a chain is fine.
I’d be okay with a walk, and that could even be a right-now kind of thing: “hey, it’s really nice out…would you be interested in extending your workout by a walk around the lake?”
[quote]chillain wrote:
[quote]Anonymity wrote:
Humans and woman are not to be controlled and operated as electricity.[/quote]
You make it sound like this maxim is full of wisdom.
And yet, the vast majority of our species’ history says otherwise.
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I actually wanted to preface that with “While we’re on the topic of pseudo-analogies”.
I was speaking more from a standpoint of healthy long term sexual relationships. From my experience, I can’t say I know any which have succeed through the 1-sided control where someone is simply treated like a lightbulb.
If that helps clarify.
[quote]anonym wrote:
[quote]Captnoblivious wrote:
An arcade may be a bad idea as she will be evaluating his level of maturity. [/quote]
Agreed. Exposing your personality to your romantic interest is like getting into a pool of unknown water temperature: you test the waters with your toes, ease into it holding onto the handrails, brace yourself for the final head dunk, and then be sure to urinate while swimming to obviate the chance of someone detecting the slight discoloration building up around your crotch.[/quote]
LMAO!
I would never go to an arcade anyways, why would I take a woman there?
take her to the zoo!
The zoo is a very underrated place for dates.
[quote]Captnoblivious wrote:
[quote]anonym wrote:
[quote]Captnoblivious wrote:
An arcade may be a bad idea as she will be evaluating his level of maturity. [/quote]
Agreed. Exposing your personality to your romantic interest is like getting into a pool of unknown water temperature: you test the waters with your toes, ease into it holding onto the handrails, brace yourself for the final head dunk, and then be sure to urinate while swimming to obviate the chance of someone detecting the slight discoloration building up around your crotch.[/quote]
LMAO!
I would never go to an arcade anyways, why would I take a woman there?
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why would you not take a woman there? Scared to find out that she might like video games? DAMN!
I went out on a date to playdium (an arcade place) and we BOTH had a great time. I couldn’t care less where I took a girl…the only reason for the date is to spend time with HER and not at the destination.
[quote]rds63799 wrote:
take her to the zoo!
The zoo is a very underrated place for dates.[/quote]
I’ve never been to a zoo and would love to go…perfect date idea I think too. Going to consider that to the lady friend when the weather is warmer.