[quote]EmilyQ wrote:
[quote]angry chicken wrote:
[quote]EmilyQ wrote:
[quote]angry chicken wrote:
[quote]EmilyQ wrote:
[quote]DarkNinjaa wrote:
[quote]on edge wrote:
I don’t think Jay is sleeping well. He told Raven he’s divorced yet in his facebook picture he’s with a woman who is most likely his wife (probably the older one). This means he’s scared Raven will talk to his wife. It’s also a tip off to guilt.[/quote]
Whether he’s married or not, the main guilty party here is OP’s wife. She’s the one who strayed. (Or didn’t. Op has no proof anyway…) A woman who values her marriage will reject flirting/sex advances.
Like I said, it’s always easy to go for whoever '‘stole’'your other half, but it achieves nothing when your relationship was already in trouble.
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Yes, EXACTLY. Male advances have no power over a happy woman.[/quote]
Au contraire mon frere 
Two things:
- Women are NEVER 100% happy - there is always a chink in that armor which can be exploited.
2)Women make emotionally based decisions. Emotion can me manipulated.
Given these two FACTS, it is possible that when the stars properly align, a window of cheating potential CAN (and often does) get exploited.
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NO ONE is ever 100% happy, but only a child expects to be.
[/quote]Plenty of women out there with that childish expectation who “want the fairy tale” - ESPECIALLY the attractive ones, as they feel they “deserve” it. [quote]
Personally, I would not want a man who wanted me knowing I was committed to someone else. Obviously you’ve met some women who feel differently, but that’s a skewed sample.
[/quote]LOL at my “skewed sample”. We’ve covered this ground before, hon. And the criteria for a man wanting a woman has NOTHING to do with her availability, or lack thereof. Rather it has more to do with her hip to waist ratio, her tits and her facial symmetry. MANY (not all of course) women WANT to feel WANTED. And they don’t get that from their husbands. The old saying “for every hawt supermodel you see, I’ll show you a guy who’s tired of her shit”, is VERY VERY true. Women, especially attractive women, are particularly vulnerable. Especially as they get a little older. MANY (not all) lack the self esteem to age gracefully and make “mistakes” (that they later sweep under the rug, justify and confabulate away) to fill their emotional needs. [quote]
I believe that my mind is responsible for the guidelines within which my emotions are allowed free rein. All major life issues work this way: I don’t go to bars and leave children out in the car. I don’t simply blow off work, I call in sick if need be and make sure nothing essential is missed in so doing. I don’t overspend.
[/quote]I assure you, Em, that my mental image of you, gathered through several years of online interaction, is the EPITOME of responsibility and frugality. With a bit of sexy and “responsible excess” thrown in there for good measure. As for your mental guidelines that contain your emotions, methinks you are overestimating yourself a little (predictably and adorably so I might add)… You are a woman, not a robot.[quote]
Relationships are the same way. I don’t cheat, period. It doesn’t matter about opportunity; I value my integrity more than the highs I can presumably get from exciting men looking for cheating woman.
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I believe you. I know that your integrity would NEVER allow you to go out with the intention of cheating. But one can never say with absolute certainty what one would or would not do when the fell clutch of circumstance raises it’s ugly head.
But as I’ve said before over the years of our respectful debates about the sexes, MY experience has been with many woman who’s actions have often not been in lockstep with their “proclaimed values”. Maybe you’re different, maybe you’re not, but until you’ve spent eight hours with a man of exceptional understanding with opportunity present, I don’t think you can say for sure. I know what you can “SAY”. But we’ll never know what you’d “DO”. No matter what you’re intellect (prefrontal cortex) tells you, your emotions (deep limbic system) and instincts (amygdala) are what’s really running the show. Deny it all you want. But every man who understands women and understands seduction KNOWS this to be true. YOU (your conscious mind) is NOT who we are communicating with, I assure you.
This also has nothing to do with your integrity. You, as a woman, would be absolutely operating entirely within your biological/evolutionary programing. If the right switches get flipped, in the right sequence and with the right intensity, it’s like opening a complex combination lock - the legs just magically open…[/quote]
It has to do with all sorts of things that start with my integrity and the decisions I make about life. I curb my instincts and drives continually, it is necessary to do so in order to live a fulfilled life. Hunger, sleep, sex – all of these must be repressed to one degree or another if I want to look the way I want to look; perform optimally at work, home, and in the gym; and maintain the quality of intimate relationships I feel I need.
I also believe that if other men can so easily turn my head, I am with the wrong man and my next set of decisions needs to be the consideration of change on that front. THEN, perhaps a return to the man with the mad seduction skillz.[/quote]
Integrity and responsibility ( response-able - the power to choose your response).
No one can take these two things from me - they are character defining concepts. And lack of - is the reason people stray.