His wife was cheating on him for ten years and he didn’t figure it out in all that time? And now he wants to get back together with her? This guy’s an idiot.
[quote] John wrote:
A steady balance of emotional connection, love and finance is what I will strive to give.
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Especially finance. What a chump.
Pathetic, desperate little beta puppy. No wonder his wife was cheating on him.
Clearly a fake. Australian men are too busy killing things that make Americans squeal to have this type of cry.
[quote]tsantos wrote:
Clearly a fake. Australian men are too busy killing things that make Americans squeal to have this type of cry.[/quote]
Lol well it seems you have some things to work on over there.
Seems too typical to be fake.
[quote]therajraj wrote:
Seems too typical to be fake.[/quote]
Okay you base this off what exactly?
How many 40 year old losers do you know?
[quote]countingbeans wrote:
[quote]Derek542 wrote:
[quote]countingbeans wrote:
[quote]Derek542 wrote:
Do we really care about people in Australia? [/quote]
nope
noguns = nofuns
[/quote]
Does anyone care about a 46 year old loser Eunuch? [/quote]
I’m going to be honest and some people here will take exception but: no.
At 18 I would have laughed at this due, 23 I would have laughed and then thrown up the insane amount of booze I just drank, at 27 I would have from a tropical beach, at 30 I would have laughed at him while practicing to make some babies with my wife, and at about to be 35 I laugh at him as I enjoy my career, love hanging out with my kids and have hobbies, interests and community involvement that fulfills me.
I don’t even feel bad for him… Maybe a touch of pity, but not really.
Enjoying life really isn’t all that hard (assuming your chemical makeup is in order), and this dude really shouldn’t be an inspiration. [/quote]
I dunno. This guy’s tone is a little off for me, sure. That said, I’ll admit that I sometimes look at my life (which I thoroughly enjoy) and think, “dammit, I really need to tear the roof of this MF before they put me in the dirt!”.
Do you know how many days we get on this rock on average? About 25 000. That number scares the shit out of me a little. Not because I’m afraid to die, just because that’s so little time relative to the scope of my passions and aspirations.
I mean, if you had a maximum of $25 000 to spend in your lifetime, could you afford to waste any of it? It’s shocking to me how easy it is to fritter away so much of something so precious, irreplaceable in fact, on things that are so meaningless.
Hmmm… Maybe my midlife crisis is hitting early. I should buy a Harley and call it good.
[quote]jbpick86 wrote:
I mean I see his point in some regards. Sometimes I get the feeling that I pissed away promise by coasting through school and taking the path of least resistance. I hopped on the first job that came along with a pretty low ceiling (public accounting), so the job aspect of it I guess I understand. However letting that spill over into all areas of your life is more on you than anyone else. Hell the main reason I keep the job I have fallen into is because it provides a lot of off time and being given those opportunities to spend with my family are worth me having to trudge through the daily grind.
I originally wanted to be a pediatric oncologist and work at st. Jude, then switched to wanting to go to law school so I went to get an accounting degree. Then I met a girl and just wanted to get a job and start my life so I figured, hey accounting is pretty solid work. Ended up staying with the school district I was working part time for in school and hear I am. A school business manager in training. Not that anyone cares about my life story and not really sure what the point of that was.
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My question to you is then: are you happy?
If you answer is yes, then who gives two shits about anything you wrote? You’re happy. Life is good. Enjoy.
If your answer is no, you need to figure out if that is due to the choices you outlined, or the fact you wouldn’t have been happy in those other paths either.
THAT is my issue with this dude. He allowed his life to get away from him. He expected all this “shit” he wanted to do to define him, and when plans changed and real life happened, he never bothered to define himself.
I know people who work 70 hours a week, 52 weeks a year, just to say a nose above water, and are very, very happy people. I know clients that pay more in medicare than you or I made last year that are miserable pricks.
You are not your kakis and all that.
[quote]batman730 wrote:
[quote]countingbeans wrote:
[quote]Derek542 wrote:
[quote]countingbeans wrote:
[quote]Derek542 wrote:
Do we really care about people in Australia? [/quote]
nope
noguns = nofuns
[/quote]
Does anyone care about a 46 year old loser Eunuch? [/quote]
I’m going to be honest and some people here will take exception but: no.
At 18 I would have laughed at this due, 23 I would have laughed and then thrown up the insane amount of booze I just drank, at 27 I would have from a tropical beach, at 30 I would have laughed at him while practicing to make some babies with my wife, and at about to be 35 I laugh at him as I enjoy my career, love hanging out with my kids and have hobbies, interests and community involvement that fulfills me.
I don’t even feel bad for him… Maybe a touch of pity, but not really.
Enjoying life really isn’t all that hard (assuming your chemical makeup is in order), and this dude really shouldn’t be an inspiration. [/quote]
I dunno. This guy’s tone is a little off for me, sure. That said, I’ll admit that I sometimes look at my life (which I thoroughly enjoy) and think, “dammit, I really need to tear the roof of this MF before they put me in the dirt!”.
Do you know how many days we get on this rock on average? About 25 000. That number scares the shit out of me a little. Not because I’m afraid to die, just because that’s so little time relative to the scope of my passions and aspirations.
I mean, if you had a maximum of $25 000 to spend in your lifetime, could you afford to waste any of it? It’s shocking to me how easy it is to fritter away so much of something so precious, irreplaceable in fact, on things that are so meaningless.
Hmmm… Maybe my midlife crisis is hitting early. I should buy a Harley and call it good.[/quote]
FTR, the irony of lamenting the frittering away of time whilst frittering away time on the webz is not lost on me 
[quote]batman730 wrote:
FTR, the irony of lamenting the frittering away of time whilst frittering away time on the webz is not lost on me
[/quote]
LMAO
Nah man, you aren’t wasting time, particularly in this thread. You’re contemplating your life, and the biggest point of emphasis is you said you are happy with your life.
So enjoy it, celebrate it. Give your wife/kids an extra hug when you get home today. Fucking smile at a random stranger, hold the door for them and keep on dreaming.
Just don’t let your dreams define you to the point where they stifle your ability to enjoy your life. We all have to play the hand we’re dealt. Strive for more, always be improving, but don’t fail to enjoy today because it didn’t all go as planned.
[quote]countingbeans wrote:
[quote]jbpick86 wrote:
I mean I see his point in some regards. Sometimes I get the feeling that I pissed away promise by coasting through school and taking the path of least resistance. I hopped on the first job that came along with a pretty low ceiling (public accounting), so the job aspect of it I guess I understand. However letting that spill over into all areas of your life is more on you than anyone else. Hell the main reason I keep the job I have fallen into is because it provides a lot of off time and being given those opportunities to spend with my family are worth me having to trudge through the daily grind.
I originally wanted to be a pediatric oncologist and work at st. Jude, then switched to wanting to go to law school so I went to get an accounting degree. Then I met a girl and just wanted to get a job and start my life so I figured, hey accounting is pretty solid work. Ended up staying with the school district I was working part time for in school and hear I am. A school business manager in training. Not that anyone cares about my life story and not really sure what the point of that was.
[/quote]
My question to you is then: are you happy?
If you answer is yes, then who gives two shits about anything you wrote? You’re happy. Life is good. Enjoy.
If your answer is no, you need to figure out if that is due to the choices you outlined, or the fact you wouldn’t have been happy in those other paths either.
THAT is my issue with this dude. He allowed his life to get away from him. He expected all this “shit” he wanted to do to define him, and when plans changed and real life happened, he never bothered to define himself.
I know people who work 70 hours a week, 52 weeks a year, just to say a nose above water, and are very, very happy people. I know clients that pay more in medicare than you or I made last year that are miserable pricks.
You are not your kakis and all that. [/quote]
Yeah, I guess I didn’t do a very good job conveying that I am in fact very happy. I have a good job, I hate it but its a job and that’s something. It affords me lots of time with my family which means more to me than anything and is the ultimate source for my happiness. My wife is hot and takes good care of me at home. I hunt, fish, and go to the gym which provides me with enjoyment. Feeling that my job is fulfilling is really my only gap, however, its not enough to bleed into any other part of my life or affect my mood.
I was more or less using that little story to illustrate how I can understand someone who considers themselves measured by their career (which I consider unhealthy) to get to a point where unhappiness in there job causes problems in other aspects of their lives.
[quote]countingbeans wrote:
[quote]jbpick86 wrote:
I mean I see his point in some regards. Sometimes I get the feeling that I pissed away promise by coasting through school and taking the path of least resistance. I hopped on the first job that came along with a pretty low ceiling (public accounting), so the job aspect of it I guess I understand. However letting that spill over into all areas of your life is more on you than anyone else. Hell the main reason I keep the job I have fallen into is because it provides a lot of off time and being given those opportunities to spend with my family are worth me having to trudge through the daily grind.
I originally wanted to be a pediatric oncologist and work at st. Jude, then switched to wanting to go to law school so I went to get an accounting degree. Then I met a girl and just wanted to get a job and start my life so I figured, hey accounting is pretty solid work. Ended up staying with the school district I was working part time for in school and hear I am. A school business manager in training. Not that anyone cares about my life story and not really sure what the point of that was.
[/quote]
My question to you is then: are you happy?
If you answer is yes, then who gives two shits about anything you wrote? You’re happy. Life is good. Enjoy.
If your answer is no, you need to figure out if that is due to the choices you outlined, or the fact you wouldn’t have been happy in those other paths either.
THAT is my issue with this dude. He allowed his life to get away from him. He expected all this “shit” he wanted to do to define him, and when plans changed and real life happened, he never bothered to define himself.
I know people who work 70 hours a week, 52 weeks a year, just to say a nose above water, and are very, very happy people. I know clients that pay more in medicare than you or I made last year that are miserable pricks.
You are not your kakis and all that. [/quote]
Countingbeans speaks the truff! Either you’re happy or you’re not. I started towards the 70/hr corporate ladder grind, but I quickly found I hated that person. What did I do? I assessed, decided and acted. These people who “life just happens to” don’t get the fundamental truth, that they could be in control of their life if they actually wanted to be.
If you are not happy, CHANGE.
[quote]pushharder wrote:
[quote]TheKraken wrote:
If you are not happy, CHANGE. [/quote]
CHANGE is tough. CHANGE is scary. For many.
Others thrive on it.[/quote]
Like a Taiwan Tranny
[quote]pushharder wrote:
[quote]TheKraken wrote:
If you are not happy, CHANGE. [/quote]
CHANGE is tough. CHANGE is scary. For many.
Others thrive on it.[/quote]
The thing for people to keep in mind is, you don’t always need some drastic change like a career swap or anything like that. The little things in life really are worth everything.
An additional kiss and hog for the wife each day, telling your daughter you love her an extra time every day. Buying your wife and kids a bag of M&M’s and flowers, randomly, for no other reason than you love them and want to say “thanks for being my family”.
An extra 10 mins staying up at night to read a funny blog… Turning off the TV for one day a week and doing something else. A new hobby. Learning to weld…
Shit man, the possibilities are endless. Start small if you’re afraid, but be focused on the prize, which is so simple it is silly, a smile.
Also, man do I sound like a tree hugging hippy right now, lmao.
[quote]countingbeans wrote:
[quote]jbpick86 wrote:
I mean I see his point in some regards. Sometimes I get the feeling that I pissed away promise by coasting through school and taking the path of least resistance. I hopped on the first job that came along with a pretty low ceiling (public accounting), so the job aspect of it I guess I understand. However letting that spill over into all areas of your life is more on you than anyone else. Hell the main reason I keep the job I have fallen into is because it provides a lot of off time and being given those opportunities to spend with my family are worth me having to trudge through the daily grind.
I originally wanted to be a pediatric oncologist and work at st. Jude, then switched to wanting to go to law school so I went to get an accounting degree. Then I met a girl and just wanted to get a job and start my life so I figured, hey accounting is pretty solid work. Ended up staying with the school district I was working part time for in school and hear I am. A school business manager in training. Not that anyone cares about my life story and not really sure what the point of that was.
[/quote]
My question to you is then: are you happy?
If you answer is yes, then who gives two shits about anything you wrote? You’re happy. Life is good. Enjoy.
If your answer is no, you need to figure out if that is due to the choices you outlined, or the fact you wouldn’t have been happy in those other paths either.
THAT is my issue with this dude. He allowed his life to get away from him. He expected all this “shit” he wanted to do to define him, and when plans changed and real life happened, he never bothered to define himself.
I know people who work 70 hours a week, 52 weeks a year, just to say a nose above water, and are very, very happy people. I know clients that pay more in medicare than you or I made last year that are miserable pricks.
You are not your kakis and all that. [/quote]
Thank you. That’s kind of what I was thinking. I turn 50 next week. I work 9-5 in a job I enjoy but does nothing to really impact the world in any significant way. I have kids, a husband, a fun hobby. None of it is earth shattering yet I’m very happy with my life and don’t feel as if I’ve missed the boat.
I’m afraid I would have no time for this guy. He’d bum me out. He’s entire sad commentary reminds me of an ex boyfriend who spent his life eaten with envy over what he would never be, do or have.