I believe that if you put your mind to it, it can be achieved. I, for one, have met many successful cases.
Some even set more ambitious goals, like not winning any money or never getting layed.
It’s a matter of perseverance.
Travistee, just messing around.
I agree with the therapy advice.
If you could get a job where you have contact with a lot of people I think it would be good. At least it was for me at a time I was shutting down, socially.
Good luck, man.
Haha no worries. I’m glad everyone got a kick out of that line.
I weight 155 and bench 195 for 25 reps (5x5) and OHP 90 for the same reps. So honestly I’m big enough in the chest and arms that I’m starting to stretch normal sized shirts. Luckily at 40 my muscle gains are just fine but I’m not looking to turn into a gymcel
This is the weirdest way of expressing it I’ve come across.
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Yea but do you deadlift six plates?
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I’ve deadlifted 60kg for 6 reps. So yes.
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Hang on, hang on! Due to one poster on here who somehow referred to (I believe) a 3 plate squat as a 6 plate squat, since he wasn’t “in powerlifting circles so how would he know” and the bar technically had 6 plates on it, I need to make sure I know what’s being referred to here: 6 plates, or 3 + 3 plates?? 
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I assumed that was the joke?
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So, you have said you have a higher than average IQ, are great at your job, very good at BJJ, among a host of other great things about yourself like being a preacher, a pick up artist, with a slim yet muscular build and so on and so on. Whats that expression “I cried about having no shoes until I saw a man with no feet”. Think on mopey arse.
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@jshaving yea, I couldn’t resist
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Over placement bias at its greatest. Literally had an exam on this yesterday 
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tbf we don’t know exactly to whom he’s comparing himself. It very well might be selection bias, and his sample is skewed to under-achievers 
overplacement just means compared to “average”, so I guess…
Also, the real moral of this story is you and I are dorks…
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Haha ok, I wasn’t sure if you’d been in that thread or not so I didn’t know if you were referring to the joke.
How do your intelligence and earnings make a facade? They’re actual qualities.
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- 5 kids. Wish I had a 401K.
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[quote=“travistee, post:1, topic:262308, full:true”]
My luck with women is horrible. Despite being an intelligent guy who makes decent money, they can see right through my facade [/quote]
Why do you feel the need to put up a facade?
Why? What would it look like if you didn’t maintain a “strict masculine composure” and what does “masculine composure” mean to you?
Why are you holding back showing your “true self”?
Women are very sensitive to in-authenticity and you positively radiate it. I’m guessing your dates sense you’re not who you’re portraying yourself to be and they’re not giving you a chance to show your true self. Or, your true self is actually repugnant but that’s for you to determine.
When you go on a date, be honest about who you are and what you want. If you just want to get your dick wet, that’s fine but tell her that so she can make an informed decision. What you’re doing is a form of manipulation so knock it the fuck off.
Women love bad-boys but they also love good guys and everyone in between. What they hate are liars because a woman who badly misjudges a man can find herself in an unsafe situation very quickly.
If you are on the spectrum than you have challenges that others may not have and I would second Em’s suggestion of therapy. It may be helpful to have someone objective describe how you’re presenting yourself and how it might be off-putting.
Lastly, you write in a weirdly passive way that comes off to me as a bit disconcerting, “…they saw that I could deliver a sermon in front of a small group which eventually led to ministering in front of 150 folks at a small conference…”. I’ve been to church lots of times and I’ve never just found myself ministering to people at a conference. There’s lots and lots of steps inbetween where you could have gracefully bowed out, such as “not delivering a sermon to begin with.” I’m not sure if this is a form of humble-braggng or just your writing style but it too could be something a therapist or trusted friend could help you with.
Edit: What’s wrong with my quote formatting?
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What a great post, from start to finish.
I have on my office wall some documents I call my “I’m not having a bad day” plaque. We all get down, just like you. I certainly do.
The documents consist of my grandfather’s 1938 Nazi Germany passport (complete with a big red “J” on the picture page) and a dirty yellow Star of David armband.
Grandpa was born in 1898 in Berlin. He served in the German Army (as a teenager) during WWI. He was a proud German who happened to be Jewish. Went to college after the Great War and started a business making light bulbs he designed and, at first, he made. Became very wealthy. Employed lots of Germans.
At age 48 or so (I’d have to do the math), he was a skinny, penniless, refugee in a tent with a dirt floor in British Mandatory Palestine. His body was broken. His wife was dead, as were his children. His business long lost. He was in a strange land, still surrounded by people who did not like him very much.
He just started over.
Got a job delivering whatever needed to be delivered and then became a pipe fitter in a refinery, which led to a job in Pasadena, Texas – as a pipe fitter. Eventually, he met a Jewish woman in the same boat as he. She was a typist. They had three sons. One died in Vietnam. One went to Rice University and became the CEO of the company that owned the refinery. One went back to Israel and became my father.
Grandpa has been dead a while now, but he would talk of his times in the camps, and tell funny stories. Like the time American B-17s came over and dropped food (canned turkey, as he told it. Probably SPAM, but who cares!).
When people talk about him, they always talked about how happy and optimistic he was, even when things were objectively horrible. He just wouldn’t let the bastards win.
This doesn’t mean he wasn’t sad. Sure he was. Plenty. He was very sad about lots of people and times lost. Opportunity destroyed.
He just kept going, kept trying, and things worked out.
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