[quote]countingbeans wrote:
Have you talked to her about why you go limp?[/quote]
I’ve told her about it, she’s understanding and is really good about it.[/quote]
She’s a woman. So, no matter how much she may say the opposite:
[quote]Be_Sound wrote:
Pretty sure she’s worried and blaming herself for being unattractive, if OP wants anything else to consider while plowing.[/quote]
Is certainly on her mind. Which is only going to make your issues even worse, lmao… But I’m not in a sugar coating mood.
Buy a vibrator, go down on her for a while, whatever you need to do to make sure she is having fun. Then… Do your best to hit it appropriately. Stop worrying about your junk and just try and make her bust a couple.
If you still can’t get it up, make her kiss you after, wait 15 mins and go back down on her.
There’s very little that can’t be fixed by eating at the Y. Forgot to pick up milk and eggs, go down on her. Forgot her birthday, go down on her. Forgot to feed her cat while she was out of town, go down on her.
I had the same problem when I was in my teens. The first girl I had sex with was a friend and I had no problems. The second was a bit out of my league and I was intimidated by her when we first started to have sex. I would get erect just fine, but by the time I got the condom on, I was having troubles. Once we had sex a couple of times, I relaxed and the problem went away.
[quote]YamatoDamashii92 wrote:
Yes pedophilia is natural. It occurs naturally in every society and every species. The difference is it harms other people.
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I’ll play the devil’s advocate here: does it necessarily?
Sometimes I question what kinds of things actually cause inherent psychological trauma, or whether it arises because society conditions us to believe that certain experiences could or should traumatize us. IIRC, pederasty was a part of growing up as a male in Sparta and sexual relations between mentors and their learners was seen as normal and a bonding experience. If there was something inherently traumatizing about the act in and of itself, I have a hard time believing that such an advanced society renowned for its martial prowess would have emerged. Contrarily, there are some cases of PTSD today that really make you wonder. If people are inherently that easily traumatized, we probably would’ve gone extinct a long time ago considering how common all sorts of shitty life experiences were in the past.
I’m not saying that pedophilia is okay. It definitely has issues with consent, and in today’s society can be very damaging to the children involved. It’s more that I wonder whether society has too low thresholds for what experiences it deems to be “traumatizing”. I guess this is what happens when society gets emasculated…
[quote]Apoklyps wrote:
[I’m not saying that pedophilia is okay. It definitely has issues with consent, and in today’s society can be very damaging to the children involved. It’s more that I wonder whether society has too low thresholds for what experiences it deems to be “traumatizing”. I guess this is what happens when society gets emasculated…[/quote]
Technically it wasn’t paedophilia (sex with prepubescent’s), it was ephebophilia which is sex with post pubescent’s in the 15+ range. The thought of having sex with a child would have been as anathema to the Classical Greeks as much as it is to us.
Depending upon which part (and time) of Classical Greece you are talking about, a boy would be placed in training from the age of 7 (Spartan Agoge) or at about 14-15 years of age for the Macedonian Royal Page School. In either case mentors were generally older students and occasionally much older men. The relationship was one which did not necessarily have a sexual component. FYI. The sexual component was not always of the ‘bend over and bite the pillow son, I’m going in dry’ variety. Loving relationships which passed the test of time are known, think of Alexander and Hephaestion.
Girls had a similar treatment, but again this varied tremendously on location. Spartan girls could expect a formal training in Calisthenics. It was arduous enough to produce the best looking women in Greece. A girl having a sexual relationship with other girls or women was not considered remarkable.
Sometimes I question what kinds of things actually cause inherent psychological trauma, or whether it arises because society conditions us to believe that certain experiences could or should traumatize us. [/quote]
It’s an interesting question and one I’ve always wondered about. Not sure that experiment would ever make it past the ethics board, though…
