[quote]SkyNett wrote:
It does suck that a young kid died - I couldn’t agree more.
However I couldn’t disagree more about your “arrogance as a myth” belief. There’s self confidence, and then there’s just being a self-important prick. Self confidence is healthy, being hugely arrogant is not. No one likes an asshole.
I once saw this kid refer to a girl who gave him a compliment as “genetic garbage that he wouldn’t touch” - any way you slice it, that kind of shit is not cool. [/quote]
I agree, it’s not cool for him to insult her (however creatively). I don’t care for that.
We’re going to run into an issue with words and our own reactions to both denotation and connotation.
For me:
Vanity: being exceptionally concerned with appearance or achievements. <== okay
Conceit: thinking that your appearance makes you superior to other in any regard BUT appearance. <== Not okay
ex - it’s fine to understand that you’re better looking than someone. It’s not okay to think that makes you a better person than them.
Arrogance doesn’t factor in, because the actual definition talks about self-importance–and, again, I truly believe that in order to achieve success, you need to feel you are important.
I dislike Zyzz’s comment about the girl mainly because it’s rude and hurtful. The underlying thought that she simply isn’t good looking enough (by his standard) for him to hook up with is, to me, completely fine.
For people who believe in arrogance, it’s not fine–despite the fact that we all make such distinctions constantly.
I’m not saying he wasn’t abrasive, and in that instance he was a bit of a dick.