[quote]enlightened wrote:
This is an interesting one but what do you guys think of someone like Jesus as a man. He wasn’t competitive obviously and didn’t want a relationship. [/quote]
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Sorry but is this the Jesus of the Bible? Because if it is you are off. He challenged almost everyone he met. And he spent much of his time around women. Also he lived to 33 the Bible does not mention if he was or wasn’t in a relationship.
The Jesus you’re talking of seems to be from movies or other stories other than the Bible.
[quote]335i wrote:
I’m 27 and I’ve jumped from girl to girl for the majority of my life. It’s exciting and much less stressful while I try to focus on my career growth and other aspects of life.
I met a girl who was a great match for me last November. She is beautiful, has a great personality, and she is a very kindhearted person. I fell for her and it provided me with an excitement that I never felt before. But, as time went on, I started to grow tired of having sex with the same girl and my eyes began to wander.
Since the concept of a relationship was new to me, I just assumed that this was a temptation that I needed to resist to make the relationship work. But, this became more difficult over time and I decided to break it off with her. I still felt like I loved her, but I didn’t trust myself to stay faithful and I didn’t want to hurt her.
Am I just not ready to settle down? I found this girl to be a nearly perfect match, so I don’t think another girl will turn out to be any different. Is it normal to have these feelings while dating? She became more and more attached to me as time went on while I seemed to experience the opposite. Maybe it was because the challenge and excitement of the chase was no longer there.
Any advice is welcome.
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When you meet your true love, the desire to be with othe women will simply not exist. You will only think of her and no one else. Those who say its human nature to look at other women are full of crap living in an age where true love no longer exists, cause we settle for someone that we can tolerate. But true love isn’t “settling” for someone.
[quote]335i wrote:
I’m 27 and I’ve jumped from girl to girl for the majority of my life. It’s exciting and much less stressful while I try to focus on my career growth and other aspects of life.
I met a girl who was a great match for me last November. She is beautiful, has a great personality, and she is a very kindhearted person. I fell for her and it provided me with an excitement that I never felt before. But, as time went on, I started to grow tired of having sex with the same girl and my eyes began to wander.
Since the concept of a relationship was new to me, I just assumed that this was a temptation that I needed to resist to make the relationship work. But, this became more difficult over time and I decided to break it off with her. I still felt like I loved her, but I didn’t trust myself to stay faithful and I didn’t want to hurt her.
Am I just not ready to settle down? I found this girl to be a nearly perfect match, so I don’t think another girl will turn out to be any different. Is it normal to have these feelings while dating? She became more and more attached to me as time went on while I seemed to experience the opposite. Maybe it was because the challenge and excitement of the chase was no longer there.
Any advice is welcome.
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Yes, you’re mistaking your inability to view her as a person, rather than an object, with her inability to keep your attention.
[quote]335i wrote:
I’m 27 and I’ve jumped from girl to girl for the majority of my life. It’s exciting and much less stressful while I try to focus on my career growth and other aspects of life.
I met a girl who was a great match for me last November. She is beautiful, has a great personality, and she is a very kindhearted person. I fell for her and it provided me with an excitement that I never felt before. But, as time went on, I started to grow tired of having sex with the same girl and my eyes began to wander.
Since the concept of a relationship was new to me, I just assumed that this was a temptation that I needed to resist to make the relationship work. But, this became more difficult over time and I decided to break it off with her. I still felt like I loved her, but I didn’t trust myself to stay faithful and I didn’t want to hurt her.
Am I just not ready to settle down? I found this girl to be a nearly perfect match, so I don’t think another girl will turn out to be any different. Is it normal to have these feelings while dating? She became more and more attached to me as time went on while I seemed to experience the opposite. Maybe it was because the challenge and excitement of the chase was no longer there.
Any advice is welcome.
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When you meet your true love, the desire to be with othe women will simply not exist. You will only think of her and no one else. Those who say its human nature to look at other women are full of crap living in an age where true love no longer exists, cause we settle for someone that we can tolerate. But true love isn’t “settling” for someone.[/quote]
You are like Tommy Lee Jones in The Fugitive and Harrison Ford is reality. Unfortunately Harrison continues to elude you.
[quote]335i wrote:
I’m 27 and I’ve jumped from girl to girl for the majority of my life. It’s exciting and much less stressful while I try to focus on my career growth and other aspects of life.
I met a girl who was a great match for me last November. She is beautiful, has a great personality, and she is a very kindhearted person. I fell for her and it provided me with an excitement that I never felt before. But, as time went on, I started to grow tired of having sex with the same girl and my eyes began to wander.
Since the concept of a relationship was new to me, I just assumed that this was a temptation that I needed to resist to make the relationship work. But, this became more difficult over time and I decided to break it off with her. I still felt like I loved her, but I didn’t trust myself to stay faithful and I didn’t want to hurt her.
Am I just not ready to settle down? I found this girl to be a nearly perfect match, so I don’t think another girl will turn out to be any different. Is it normal to have these feelings while dating? She became more and more attached to me as time went on while I seemed to experience the opposite. Maybe it was because the challenge and excitement of the chase was no longer there.
Any advice is welcome.
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When you meet your true love, the desire to be with othe women will simply not exist. You will only think of her and no one else. Those who say its human nature to look at other women are full of crap living in an age where true love no longer exists, cause we settle for someone that we can tolerate. But true love isn’t “settling” for someone.[/quote]
You are like Tommy Lee Jones in The Fugitive and Harrison Ford is reality. Unfortunately Harrison continues to elude you.[/quote]
[quote]DoubleDuce wrote:
I’m still young and haven’t been married that long, but I disagree. I don’t think there is any thing like a perfect person. I think many people waste a lot of time looking for it. Relationships and marriage are more about work and commitment than any specific compatibility and no amount of compatibility can remove the need to maintain your relationship.
Falling in love is great, but it’s just an emotion, and it’s shaky ground for a relationship. You most certainly can and must (if you plan to stay together) choose and work to love that person. But if you are willing to make that commitment, it has been well worth it in my experience.
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So if two people who are not compatible put work into it, it’ll work in the long run? I don’t believe it.
How are you exactly wasting time if you are dedicated to your interests, career, self-improvement, etc. while single compared to jumping from one faulty relationship into another?
I personally think that compatibility is the number #1 relationship “glue”. No amount of work would allow me to stay with someone who doesn’t share the same values, virtues, point of view and share the same vision for the future.
That doesn’t mean it has to be perfect, but the compatibility % has to be very high. Compatibility doesn’t remove the need to work for it, but it’s much easier if both solve problems in the same way…
[quote]335i wrote:
I’m 27 and I’ve jumped from girl to girl for the majority of my life. It’s exciting and much less stressful while I try to focus on my career growth and other aspects of life.
I met a girl who was a great match for me last November. She is beautiful, has a great personality, and she is a very kindhearted person. I fell for her and it provided me with an excitement that I never felt before. But, as time went on, I started to grow tired of having sex with the same girl and my eyes began to wander.
Since the concept of a relationship was new to me, I just assumed that this was a temptation that I needed to resist to make the relationship work. But, this became more difficult over time and I decided to break it off with her. I still felt like I loved her, but I didn’t trust myself to stay faithful and I didn’t want to hurt her.
Am I just not ready to settle down? I found this girl to be a nearly perfect match, so I don’t think another girl will turn out to be any different. Is it normal to have these feelings while dating? She became more and more attached to me as time went on while I seemed to experience the opposite. Maybe it was because the challenge and excitement of the chase was no longer there.
Any advice is welcome.
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When you meet your true love, the desire to be with othe women will simply not exist. You will only think of her and no one else. Those who say its human nature to look at other women are full of crap living in an age where true love no longer exists, cause we settle for someone that we can tolerate. But true love isn’t “settling” for someone.[/quote]
You are like Tommy Lee Jones in The Fugitive and Harrison Ford is reality. Unfortunately Harrison continues to elude you.[/quote]
[quote]DoubleDuce wrote:
I’m still young and haven’t been married that long, but I disagree. I don’t think there is any thing like a perfect person. I think many people waste a lot of time looking for it. Relationships and marriage are more about work and commitment than any specific compatibility and no amount of compatibility can remove the need to maintain your relationship.
Falling in love is great, but it’s just an emotion, and it’s shaky ground for a relationship. You most certainly can and must (if you plan to stay together) choose and work to love that person. But if you are willing to make that commitment, it has been well worth it in my experience.
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So if two people who are not compatible put work into it, it’ll work in the long run? I don’t believe it.
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When did I ever say anything about incompatible people getting married? Oh, right, I didn’t.
When did I ever say anything about other interests being a waste? Oh, right, I didn’t. I said If you are spending your life looking for the perfect relationship that doesn’t require work, you’re wasting your time.
First, you are just plain wrong. Second, as was my primary point, NO ONE on the planet shares all those things with you. You just confessed that you arenâ??t ever willing to commit to a life with anyone. Have fun being alone. If you think youâ??re going to find someone like that, youâ??re delusional. No matter who you are with, there will be disagreements on those issues. I can only possibly think that you have very little experience in serious relationships or you are a hopeless romantic of sorts if you think you are going to magically match up with all those things in a person you fall in love with. Not only will you not find that person, falling in love requires few of those things and youâ??d need to cut and run on a ton of people you love in your quest.
I never insinuated that 2 people who didn’t like each other should or could work to stay married.
[quote]335i wrote:
I’m 27 and I’ve jumped from girl to girl for the majority of my life. It’s exciting and much less stressful while I try to focus on my career growth and other aspects of life.
I met a girl who was a great match for me last November. She is beautiful, has a great personality, and she is a very kindhearted person. I fell for her and it provided me with an excitement that I never felt before. But, as time went on, I started to grow tired of having sex with the same girl and my eyes began to wander.
Since the concept of a relationship was new to me, I just assumed that this was a temptation that I needed to resist to make the relationship work. But, this became more difficult over time and I decided to break it off with her. I still felt like I loved her, but I didn’t trust myself to stay faithful and I didn’t want to hurt her.
Am I just not ready to settle down? I found this girl to be a nearly perfect match, so I don’t think another girl will turn out to be any different. Is it normal to have these feelings while dating? She became more and more attached to me as time went on while I seemed to experience the opposite. Maybe it was because the challenge and excitement of the chase was no longer there.
Any advice is welcome.
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When you meet your true love, the desire to be with othe women will simply not exist. You will only think of her and no one else. Those who say its human nature to look at other women are full of crap living in an age where true love no longer exists, cause we settle for someone that we can tolerate. But true love isn’t “settling” for someone.[/quote]
You are like Tommy Lee Jones in The Fugitive and Harrison Ford is reality. Unfortunately Harrison continues to elude you.[/quote]
I can’t wait until he tries to catch Wesley Snipes to put him in jail.
