What's It Like to Be Older?

MattyXL · August 10, 2009, 3:59pm

Im living proof that if you dont get your shit in order in your twenties you will be playing catch up in your thirties and its not cool. I fucked around too much and finished everything late (with regards to education espescially).

Im now 33 and just starting my Masters, no not too old, but def not youung. And getting a Masters is difficult with a wife two kids and three dogs…lol. Top it all off Im in a career where if I had to the chance to change I would in a heartbeat.

Thank God I have a great woman who stood by me when I was quite frankly I was an immature idiot.

So I guess what Im saying is Work Hard now, play when you could and you will thank yourself for it in your thirties.

imhungry · August 10, 2009, 4:49pm

[quote]anonym wrote:
I’m damn glad this didn’t turn into another lolcat thread (which I was afraid of after the ‘stoned’ comment). I don’t really have any older males in my life who can share their wisdom and “life lessons” so it’s always cool when threads like these crop up.

Thank God the right crowd got here before the 4chan-wannabe Nationers did.

edit: ain’t nuthin’ wrong with a well-placed lolcat, though.[/quote]

Remember, you brought it up…

anonym · August 10, 2009, 5:14pm

[quote]imhungry wrote:
Remember, you brought it up…[/quote]

I shoulda known!

I’ve actually been using catnip and laser pointers to sedate my outdoor kitty while in a temp. apartment (moving to a new house in a few weeks). I gotta keep him worn out so he doesn’t claw at the screens or meow to the point where I want to microwave him.

A “dog person” stuck with a cat has to be some circle of hell. It really is the cruelest joke of all.

greybeard · August 10, 2009, 5:22pm

nomorewar-

Buddy, I’m 55 and from my vantage point you are already on the autopilot called pussypatrol. Can’t get any more basic biology than that, no higher brain functions needed. Even your lifting is pussy oriented–look good to get laid.

Take imhungry’s advice. Plus find a mentor to tell you when your head is in your ass. Listen and think.

Iron_Dwarf · August 10, 2009, 5:33pm

[quote]thr_wedge wrote:
I can’t even be around 20 year olds without wanting to puke. [/quote]

X2

Dedicated and ImHungry already laid down some excellent points.

To add:

I’m 46 and my priorities list didn’t look like the OP’s.
I never made money the focus of my life. Doing so often leads to doing jobs you hate. I always wanted to be an artist, and that’s what I do. I do it very well (from working hard at it) and of course the money followed.

If you think big bucks is what gets you laid, then you must have problems in other areas of your life. Before I got married, (especially in college and right after), I got laid a lot with a variety of women… and I barely made any money to get by.

I’ve been in and out of the gym since I was 15. But I’m only now realizing the goals I had back when I was a teen.

Mredanderson · August 10, 2009, 5:40pm

[quote]imhungry wrote:
nomorewar wrote:

I mean 35+

I’m 21 right now and My top priorities are;

Getting laid
getting in shape
making lots of money so I can regularly fuck 20 year olds when I’m 40+(not going so well)

does any of this change??

do you lose the eye of the tiger?

Is there a point where you stop giving a fuck and put your life on auto-pilot??

I realized only a select people from this forum can answer this. For the rest, your opinions are welcomed…

I think these are better options:

1.) Work on being a decent human being.
2.) Find a career that will challenge you and not make you dread waking up every morning.
3.) Have fun, but not at the expense of other people.
4.) Work out, but don’t let it rule your life. Or, anything, for that matter…especially money.
5.) Make good use of the time that you have right now, to LIVE and do things that you can’t do when you’re married with children.

Your thoughts and priorities will probably change many times before you get my age.

Working out and staying healthy, makes getting older a little easier.
[/quote]

Awesome post! - I am only 19 at the moment and have realized I dont know as much as I once thought when I was younger - in fact I know very little in the grand scheme of things.

My aims in life are to do a job I love, take care of my family and freinds (I have only realized the imprtance of that recently) and generally work on being a better human being overall (Im no asshole - but have a lot to learn lol!)

I Have printed out your 5 tips and stuck them next ot my bed so I see it when I wake up

Basically I am saying thanks - given me a real kick that was needed.

Ed

bond_james_bond · August 10, 2009, 5:41pm

It suck’s that I take longer to heal.

Dog person stuck with a cat. No shit. I(we) have two cats and although I love them both and they’re fun sometimes, when they croak I won’t lose any sleep. I had to put my german short haired pointer down two years ago and that hole it left in me is still empty. Don’t know if I’ll ever get another dog. Too painfull. Cried like a baby that day,right in front of the vet nurse, getting choked up as I type this. Is that another sign of getting old and wimpy? Oh well…on a positive note sex has never been better with the wife…to me anyway,mayhaps I should ask her lol.

pittbulll · August 10, 2009, 3:37pm

[quote]imhungry wrote:
nomorewar wrote:

I mean 35+

I’m 21 right now and My top priorities are;

Getting laid
getting in shape
making lots of money so I can regularly fuck 20 year olds when I’m 40+(not going so well)

does any of this change??

do you lose the eye of the tiger?

Is there a point where you stop giving a fuck and put your life on auto-pilot??

I realized only a select people from this forum can answer this. For the rest, your opinions are welcomed…

I think these are better options:

1.) Work on being a decent human being.
2.) Find a career that will challenge you and not make you dread waking up every morning.
3.) Have fun, but not at the expense of other people.
4.) Work out, but don’t let it rule your life. Or, anything, for that matter…especially money.
5.) Make good use of the time that you have right now, to LIVE and do things that you can’t do when you’re married with children.

Your thoughts and priorities will probably change many times before you get my age.

Working out and staying healthy, makes getting older a little easier.
[/quote]

Good advice

comus3 · August 10, 2009, 8:05pm

I am 40. You don’t stop chasing girls when you get older. You usually end up chasing the same girl. It can be younger. That is nice, but that 25 turns into a 35 year old in ten years. You have to deal with it. It is not a bad thing to deal with it.

Agree completely on the money and getting laid comments. It helps, particularly if you are going after the 25 year olds and you are 40. But it is a lousy way to measure your success and God help you if don’t like what you are doing to make that money because you will see it as the measure of your value and always be afraid to do something else.

Eye of Tiger you get more of, because you realize that you can’t put things off forever. You will run out of time.

nomorewar · August 10, 2009, 8:34pm

[quote]Professor X wrote:
nomorewar wrote:
Mettahl wrote:
Drunk posting?

lol… more like… stoned posting…

It shows. We’ll see how strong you go at it when those years of only focusing on getting laid lead to 3 or 4 children with women you really don’t like so most of your paycheck gets spread out before you ever get any in the bank. Most people fall into a rut because that is where they are in life and responsibilities keep them from focusing on anything other than the very next paycheck. The current economic environment doesn’t exactly allow most people over the age of 35 to do much else but work even more so they can maintain their lifestyle.

Unless you are working a career that pays six figures a year, the chances of you even having much to put away in savings is greatly decreased.

I am not 35 but unless you are already well on your way to making 6 figures, claiming your goal is to make lots of money is a little flimsy.

What are you doing now that will lead to you making lots of money to attract those 20 year olds? You are signed in the NFL or NBA? You are in med school or some equivalent that makes roughly the same a year? You inherited millions from a dead family member?[/quote]

I understand I have to wear a condom every time or else I could get fucked paying child support. My goal is to be a Entrepreneur… I have some ideas and I know it will happen if I stay focus. This should really be number one on my list. This is just what I really want for my life.

nomorewar · August 10, 2009, 9:17pm

I came from a family that was dirt poor and mom and dad fought all the time( physically)

I guess this is where all of these goals are coming from. Money was always a problem so I don’t want that problem to follow me… and being single and getting laid forever is much better then being married and fighting all the time without getting laid…

Yes, some of you are are happily married. Congrats but your the rare exception.

Thanks to everybody that posted. I read all your advice and will try to apply what I can.

Professor_X · August 10, 2009, 9:18pm

[quote]nomorewar wrote:
Professor X wrote:
nomorewar wrote:
Mettahl wrote:
Drunk posting?

lol… more like… stoned posting…

It shows. We’ll see how strong you go at it when those years of only focusing on getting laid lead to 3 or 4 children with women you really don’t like so most of your paycheck gets spread out before you ever get any in the bank. Most people fall into a rut because that is where they are in life and responsibilities keep them from focusing on anything other than the very next paycheck. The current economic environment doesn’t exactly allow most people over the age of 35 to do much else but work even more so they can maintain their lifestyle.

Unless you are working a career that pays six figures a year, the chances of you even having much to put away in savings is greatly decreased.

I am not 35 but unless you are already well on your way to making 6 figures, claiming your goal is to make lots of money is a little flimsy.

What are you doing now that will lead to you making lots of money to attract those 20 year olds? You are signed in the NFL or NBA? You are in med school or some equivalent that makes roughly the same a year? You inherited millions from a dead family member?

I understand I have to wear a condom every time or else I could get fucked paying child support. My goal is to be a Entrepreneur… I have some ideas and I know it will happen if I stay focus. This should really be number one on my list. This is just what I really want for my life. [/quote]

Well, it’s nice to dream but none of those dreams come true without you working your ass off for them and making sacrifices…something you don’t really come across as making too many of.

“Entrepreneur” is about as broad an generic and you can get. Is there some reason you aren’t one right now if you have the ideas to be great at it?

hedo · August 10, 2009, 9:40pm

I’m 46.

Biggest change, you are going to be responsible for others not just yourself. Wife, kids, aging parents. It’s not a burden but it gives you a lot to think about.

I’m happily married so I’m not chasing tail around but when you are in your 40’s and in good shape the Milf’s throw themselves at you. A man in good shape in his 40’s is rare. A guy with muscle in his 40’s is very rare and if you have a good career you will have your pick of the litter.

A word about careers and money. Work hard now. Build a reputation and put in the time when you don’t have any responsibility. Go broke now if you have to. When you have a family you will want to spend time with them, not your job or employees.

Losing the eye of the tiger…not yet. It does take longer to heal and recover but age and treachery is worth just as much as youth and skill in most sports!

nomorewar · August 10, 2009, 10:00pm

[quote]Professor X wrote:
nomorewar wrote:
Professor X wrote:
nomorewar wrote:
Mettahl wrote:
Drunk posting?

lol… more like… stoned posting…

It shows. We’ll see how strong you go at it when those years of only focusing on getting laid lead to 3 or 4 children with women you really don’t like so most of your paycheck gets spread out before you ever get any in the bank. Most people fall into a rut because that is where they are in life and responsibilities keep them from focusing on anything other than the very next paycheck. The current economic environment doesn’t exactly allow most people over the age of 35 to do much else but work even more so they can maintain their lifestyle.

Unless you are working a career that pays six figures a year, the chances of you even having much to put away in savings is greatly decreased.

I am not 35 but unless you are already well on your way to making 6 figures, claiming your goal is to make lots of money is a little flimsy.

What are you doing now that will lead to you making lots of money to attract those 20 year olds? You are signed in the NFL or NBA? You are in med school or some equivalent that makes roughly the same a year? You inherited millions from a dead family member?

I understand I have to wear a condom every time or else I could get fucked paying child support. My goal is to be a Entrepreneur… I have some ideas and I know it will happen if I stay focus. This should really be number one on my list. This is just what I really want for my life.

Well, it’s nice to dream but none of those dreams come true without you working your ass off for them and making sacrifices…something you don’t really come across as making too many of.

“Entrepreneur” is about as broad an generic and you can get. Is there some reason you aren’t one right now if you have the ideas to be great at it?[/quote]

i don’t want to get into any specifics… I’m just working right now and saving money for my ideas… But your right… I have to start working my ass off.

angry_chicken · August 11, 2009, 12:34am

[quote]nomorewar wrote:

I mean 35+

I’m 21 right now and My top priorities are;

Getting laid
getting in shape
making lots of money so I can regularly fuck 20 year olds when I’m 40+(not going so well)

does any of this change??

do you lose the eye of the tiger?

Is there a point where you stop giving a fuck and put your life on auto-pilot??

I realized only a select people from this forum can answer this. For the rest, your opinions are welcomed…[/quote]

Oh to be your age again… Fuck that - Being 35 and successful is where it is at!

You say you want to be an entrepreneur? Go for it! That’s what I did and I’m happy as shit. I love my career and I am my own boss. Make sure you really like what you do. Don’t just do it for the money. If you like what you do, and choose to be the best at it, the money WILL come. I know I must sound like a broken record player to some of you guys, but I will repeat my self again when I say to study the “five excellences”: English, Communication, Sales, Marketing and Public Speaking. As an entrepreneur, these skills will serve you dramatically.

I am 35, I fuck when I want (you grow out of the 20 year old’s quick), I am in pretty good shape for my age (still have a six pack), and I am successful by anyone’s definition (low to mid five figures a month).

Your priorities DO change, however. I will admit I am somewhat of a workaholic. When you start your own business, that becomes a pretty big priority - you don’t just “clock out”. It got to be so time consuming that I took on a partner and hired employees because there are only so many hours in a day, so I now have to consider not only MY livelihood, but that of my company, partner and employees as well - It’s a lot of responsibility. Be prepared for that.

Some of the following may sound random or silly but think about it anyway: EVOLVE consciously. Make sure you have a good accountant and get your business and personal finances squared away and separate. If you decide to have a family, WAIT until you are ready and can afford it. Get a pre-nup! Don’t do it unless you have all the running around out of your system. Use a condom every time - even when she’s on the pill. Babies cost money. Hang out with some older guys that are moving in a positive direction. Get a mastermind group with other entrepreneurs. You become who you hang out with, so choose your friends carefully. Provide value first, in business and in friendship, and watch how the quality of those relationships improve. Save your money for a rainy day - have at least three months in the bank, liquid. Make smart investments early (I invested in real estate in the late 90’s and it is paying dividends now).

Most importantly in business, take some time periodically to work ON your business as opposed to working IN your business - examine your systems, metrics, relationships, client experience, etc…

That’s some of the shit I worry about now that I’m “old”. LOL. I still have the eye of the tiger, by the way. In my mind, I’ll still take on any of you younger fuckers any day of the week! If I go down, I’ll go down swingin’! LOL That doesn’t go away - you just have to continue to hunt bigger and better prey. When you stop hunting, you die.

strongaaron15 · August 11, 2009, 3:34am

is it weird im 16 and have plans for what im naming the kids and what im going to train or have them train in?

nomorewar · August 11, 2009, 5:53am

[quote]angry chicken wrote:
nomorewar wrote:

I mean 35+

I’m 21 right now and My top priorities are;

Getting laid
getting in shape
making lots of money so I can regularly fuck 20 year olds when I’m 40+(not going so well)