one time… I think it was because I was worried it would blind her or choke her…
wayyy too pent up beforehand. And it was kind of a bad blowjob too.
Doogie - I’ve had some killer bj’s in my day and most didn’t involve any manual stimulation. Maybe I’m confused by what you mean by the term.
This is a great thread because it brings up an issue that is probably dear to many of us quite often.
Lets face it, sex is a very very very very funny thing. Extremely capricious and everyone has there own baggage or ideas about it. I think Kaleb said it best, just enjoy yourself and have a good time. I know I’ve been guilty in the past and recently of worrying about petty things - how many times did she orgasm? How long can I last? Can I get it up again?? The important thing isn’t that you give your absolute best sexual performance every time, the important thing is that you let the other person know that it means something to you besides fluids and noises, and rugburns, and bruises, and scratch marks, and teethmarks, and woken neighbors, and lactic acid buildup in your hip extensors (if you are fortunate).
YEAH!!! Franks and Kaleb got it! Sex is all about having fun! Laugh, joke, giggle, gasp and moan… as long as both of you have a good time it’s all good! If she only came once but thought her head was going to rocket off her shoulders then trust me, she’s not counting. grin
Oh yeah, Striker asked for 'secrets'...
From Katie and Me...
Tell her what you want. If you are more sensitive on the shaft or on the head let her know, and where on the head... you get the idea
Eye contact is important too. Sure it looks silly on porns, but if you can see each other it seems to... help
If you are worried about her being satisfied, make sure she comes first... then you've 'covered all the bases' and any other orgasms are a 'bonus' and you'll both have a good time. This also works if you are haveing size 'difficulties', cause you'll be sure she is well lubricated and in the mood.
let her be creative... as long as it doesn't hurt you it's not bad to experiment. You may find you like to have a finger up your ass.
Halls cough drops or other candies can provide interesting stimulation
Ice can be your friend.... as can hot beverages
do a search for the Gang O' Babes columns, there are a number of tips there.
An important note: If oyu jerk off all the time you have conditioned yourself to yourself.. and it will be difficult to come if you are not taking care of things. The best advice I can give is practice... lots and lots of practice...
Gotta disagree with on a couple of points raised above:
Best head I ever had did not involve hands. Doesn’t mean that hands are bad, just that they’re not strictly necessary.
Eye contact (for me anyway) is a distraction during a really good blowjob. I just like to sit back, tilt back, lie back and enjoy…
After 30 I found that I prefer a lighter touch. At least until those last few moments…
And for a totally new piece of advice: There was a book published 15 years or so ago by a woman named Cynthia Heimel (I think that’s the spelling). It was called “Sex Tips for Girls”, and it has some excellent advice on giving blow jobs, as well as many many other topics near and dear to my heart. Search the Internet for it, and give it to your girlfriend (along with a nice massage and a pithy comment about “exploring the contents together” - one piece of advice that was straight on was that bit about sex meaning more than just the physical stuff).
yeah, i hardly ever blow my top off of a blow job, could never figure out why. I think it’s cause i spend too wayyyyyyy much time with rosy palms and her 5 sisters and i’m too used to her way of doing things.
Yeah I’ve got that same problem but I know why - first ever “successful” blowjob and the girl spits it back on my stomach, almost throws up on me and takes off to the bathroom to rinse her mouth for about 20 mins… I can sort of laugh at it now but obvious psychological damage and 6 -7 years later and I’m now considering legal charges! I guess I shuld of had the whole spit or swallow talk a few minutes earlier.
Oh dear, Martin, I am sorry to hear your sad story! You are right, she should be responsible for your therapy bills… grin And yes, it’s always a good idea to have a spit or swallow discussion, and it doesn’t hurt to eat a lot of pineapple to ‘sweeten’ things up!
Nothing is wrong with you. Some men can’t cum from blowjobs. Unspoken secret. I can only cum from a blowjob if I use a f**king motion with my hips or if I am close to cumming from intercourse already.
omg some how i knew you were going to say something about the finger and the choclate star fish. i would toatly freak if some girl stuck her finger up my ass or anything else for that matter. and yes the wrenching effect during a bj is the best, treat it like a motor cyle hand throttle. and ofr the around hte block issue, if your under 26 and have been with more than 5 guys, well thats too much for me (that is to be in a relationship) one nighter thats different. I have more respect for a women that has been with a guy for a couple of years and has done it a thousand times with him, than doin a thousand guys. jmo nothing worse than having guys come up to you sayin yeah i did her.
Well, mdog, I guess it’s good I don’t have any interest in dating you… grin
The whole 'around the block' issue is a pile of horse shit. If it is in her past and she is no longer doing anything that moves, then fine. If she still wants to 'sow her wild oats' that's fine too - you just both have to be honest about your past and your intentions. If a woman has been with more people than you but she wants to 'settle down' and just be with you then what's the problem??? Have a relationship, and reap the benefits of her experience. The past is just that - the PAST. let it go.
You are not alone. It doesn’t necessarily have to be a bad BJ. People are all different, some are more turned on by one thing than another. Some men have less feeling in their penis and therefore need more stimulation than just a BJ.
Others, like myself, are overly sensitive, so that it usually hurts when receiving a BJ, even after coaching her and it just causes me to shutdown and not enjoy it.
As others have pointed out it could be a bad BJ or a new partner and the anxiety that some people get when with a new partner. In my case it also includes feeling a LACK of connection with my girl (even when we 69).
So to summarize this, everyone is different. Just enjoy your time together, laugh, cum, and in general celebrate your sexuality in the way that you see best.
actually i’d rather not bring up the past. I don’t want to know how many she’s been with. the only thing i want to know is if there has been any STD’s. this is all due to my ALMOST close encounter. you would have never known from looking at her, she had only been with 3 guys. Thank god she was honest and said something first(then i took off running) hte way i look at it and it may be wrong but the more dudes she’s been with the STD odds increase. i guess the other main thing is that she hasn’t been with one of my friends or anyone i know. just the thought of knowing who’s schlong has been her mouth, yuck.
mdog - I totally agree on the STD thing, but that is why both parties should get tested before having new partners. Once someone has a clean bill of health, leave the past where it belongs - in the past.
michelle – hey whats that about the finger in the ass ??? what if dogshit comes out ? tell us more about how you do that to a dood. sure ther’s a couple of “sexual mongoloids” like me that want to hear more.
Did it ever occur to any of you that that might have been one of Katie's contributions to the list?
ANYWAY, dog shit can't come out because well, if anything was to come out it would be people shit... but let's not go there.
The anus has a lot of nerve endings and it can be arousing to have it touched. Also, if you have ever had your prostate stimulated while getting a bj (rubbing the 'taint' indirectly stimulates the prostate) you know it feels good. Truthfully, I only know from reading (I used to give sex-ed seminars as part of a peer educator group in college, oh the stories I could tell! *grin*), but evidently the prostate can be better stimulated from inside... A while ago someone posted about his girl doing this, and commented that you had better cover your headboard with plastic. I can't remember who's post it was though....
