Well Vel, with an attitude like that I think you will never find anyone worthwhile, so you will never have to “deal” with trust and fidelity. People are not “things” that get passed around from hand to hand and shared. The rather unfortunate thing is you will never know that intense high that comes from truly being one with another person. There is nothing like it in this world! Too bad for you.
I once thought honesty is the best policy. But why should it be? Your little pre-teen-style hanky panky with your classmate really didn’t mean anything, so why would you hurt your woman’s feelings by telling her? Girls might tell you they want to know everything,but they don’t,believe me. Yeah,it’s cheating,and if you feel like shit, you learned your lesson, and you won’t behave like that the next time.
Alcohol is no excuse and if you catch yourself behaving like that again, than my boy, let go of that rugby girl,and have fun before you start a true serious relatioship.
Hey, sorry I’m so late, kind of fell off the face of the earth. I’m with MDLP, NEVER, EVER EVER, EVER (in a Chris Tucker sort of voice.) tell em’ anything. SHe will ALWAYS wonder now. And the booze? Bad excuse burt. You’d have been better off just saying your testosterone was off the charts. BTW, how’s the classmate look. Better set something up just in case things go south with your GF. No one wants to play ‘beat the snake.’
Draz, that’s the best damn advice I’ve gotten from anybody so far. Thanks. It looks like things are going to work out with the gf after all.
Spare me.
Spare you what?
Stop the problem before it starts again. Simplly don’t get drunk, it’s a personal responsibility thing.
Four years ago, a frustrated psycho-bitch tried to play mind games with me and two of my buddies. At the time, she was in a 7 year long relationship with a pencilneck computer geek who gave her the feeling of security and long-term obligation but obviously did not take adequate care of her other needs. She also tried to sell love story separately to all of us in order to justify sex - in fact, three of us. I was the first one to figure out what she was up to, so we guys had a meeting and made a little arrangement. Over the course of next few weeks, we all fucked her brains out and then suddenly pretty much stopped having any form of communication with her. I think she was more than just pissed off when she realized her own game backfired to her bigtime. On one occasion, when she was fucking my friend, she talked at the same time on the phone with her boyfriend who called to wish her all the best in the New Year. 
Anyway, what is the morale of this story? We all fucked her brains out, but none of us is the man who married her. The computer nerd went across the ocean to the States, busted his ass to get a job and married her a few months ago, so she left for the States too. If somebody told the poor bastard his wife had more mileage with other guys than 1968 Corvettte while she was oficially with him, the story probably would not have such a good end. :-)))) Therefore, I have to agree with Draz and Veljko. Honesty is a very nice thing, but some things are better left unspoken and should definitely be on a need to know basis. 
I meant, spare me of any more criticism. I dont care, really. Sex buddy? OK, thats one way of looking at it. Cool.
Vel, I didn’t critticize or plan to. It was an honest curiosity. Not a big deal, just wondering.
I’m an RA at University of Maryland, College Park. Where’d you get roped in?
“Roped in?”…LOL. Interesting choice of words, considering that I was an RA at Montana State University. Roping is offered as a class here (no shit). That was probably the most fun job I ever had. Enjoy your time as an RA. It flies by all too quickly.
The answer to “is this cheating” is always, always this: do you feel guilt about it?
I think you answered your own question when you indicated you wouldn’t have kissed this old classmate had you thought of your girlfriend first. If you know your girlfriend would object, then it’s cheating. Put another way, use the Golden Rule: If you wouldn’t want her to do it to you, don’t.
CHEATER!!! On a more serious note, as slimy as that was, I have to give you a little respect for confessing. You obviously are sorry and actually seem to care about this girl even though you slipped up. I also should give you a little respect for not going home with the other girl. Just DON’T do it again and expect to EARN your guirlfriend’s trust back!
Good Luck!