“Please don’t show me that at this point in time.”
[quote]lostinthought wrote:
Loth, what the hell do you think this kid learned? You think he learned RESPECT?! That’s one of the most ignorant things I’ve ever heard! Getting beaten by a parent most definitely does NOT teach a child respect. The only thing it teaches them is to fear that parent…fear is not the same as respect. [/quote]
First off, I’d like to thank you for choosing to work in a field as difficult as child services. I know first hand myself what kind of crap is out there and how awful some families (I use that word loosely) can be.
Now. Did you see where the child hit his mom right in the face? I suppose the mom should have just stood there and let her son (who is a little punk obviously) just walk all over her, hmmm? That would have taught him respect, I guess.
My advice to you is to take a damp washcloth, dab a little hypoallergenic soap on it, and gently wash the sand out of your vagina. What we saw on the video might be a little excessive for some of our tastes, but I’ll be damned if I let any of my kids try that shit on me, and I sure as hell hope you don’t let your children walk all over you.
Ignorant? It’s attitudes like the permissiveness and weakness in parenting that is so prevalent in our society today which is responsible for many of our children’s ills. I love my kids, and I know that they respect me, and would never do something like that little shit that kept trying to hit his mom. But God forbid my son get a hair up his ass or something someday and smack me like that… because then it’s his ass.
In closing, I’d like to say: Grow a set. They will serve you well.
PS Fear and respect aren’t the same thing, I agree. But they are related.
[quote]lothario1132 wrote:
lostinthought wrote:
Loth, what the hell do you think this kid learned? You think he learned RESPECT?! That’s one of the most ignorant things I’ve ever heard! Getting beaten by a parent most definitely does NOT teach a child respect. The only thing it teaches them is to fear that parent…fear is not the same as respect.
First off, I’d like to thank you for choosing to work in a field as difficult as child services. I know first hand myself what kind of crap is out there and how awful some families (I use that word loosely) can be.
Now. Did you see where the child hit his mom right in the face? I suppose the mom should have just stood there and let her son (who is a little punk obviously) just walk all over her, hmmm? That would have taught him respect, I guess.
My advice to you is to take a damp washcloth, dab a little hypoallergenic soap on it, and gently wash the sand out of your vagina. What we saw on the video might be a little excessive for some of our tastes, but I’ll be damned if I let any of my kids try that shit on me, and I sure as hell hope you don’t let your children walk all over you.
Ignorant? It’s attitudes like the permissiveness and weakness in parenting that is so prevalent in our society today which is responsible for many of our children’s ills. I love my kids, and I know that they respect me, and would never do something like that little shit that kept trying to hit his mom. But God forbid my son get a hair up his ass or something someday and smack me like that… because then it’s his ass.
In closing, I’d like to say: Grow a set. They will serve you well.
PS Fear and respect aren’t the same thing, I agree. But they are related.
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Right on. If I ever have a kid dumb enough to hit his mother…well he’ll never make that mistake again.
And I know you’ve all met someone who obviously wasn’t beat enough growing up.
[quote]lothario1132 wrote:
lostinthought wrote:
Loth, what the hell do you think this kid learned? You think he learned RESPECT?! That’s one of the most ignorant things I’ve ever heard! Getting beaten by a parent most definitely does NOT teach a child respect. The only thing it teaches them is to fear that parent…fear is not the same as respect.
First off, I’d like to thank you for choosing to work in a field as difficult as child services. I know first hand myself what kind of crap is out there and how awful some families (I use that word loosely) can be.
Now. Did you see where the child hit his mom right in the face? I suppose the mom should have just stood there and let her son (who is a little punk obviously) just walk all over her, hmmm? That would have taught him respect, I guess.
My advice to you is to take a damp washcloth, dab a little hypoallergenic soap on it, and gently wash the sand out of your vagina. What we saw on the video might be a little excessive for some of our tastes, but I’ll be damned if I let any of my kids try that shit on me, and I sure as hell hope you don’t let your children walk all over you.
Ignorant? It’s attitudes like the permissiveness and weakness in parenting that is so prevalent in our society today which is responsible for many of our children’s ills. I love my kids, and I know that they respect me, and would never do something like that little shit that kept trying to hit his mom. But God forbid my son get a hair up his ass or something someday and smack me like that… because then it’s his ass.
In closing, I’d like to say: Grow a set. They will serve you well.
PS Fear and respect aren’t the same thing, I agree. But they are related.
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Actually, we don’t see how this fight started. The kid might have totally been in the right in this one. Anyway, if my son ever got the bright idea to take me on, I’d take him down in one shot, and not hit him while he was down and call him a motha*****. It’s never cool to play with an opponent that you outclass, especially if he’s your offspring.
BTW, when the cop car drives by, there’s nothing going on. Cops around here would jump at that stuff, probably unnecessarily in the neighborhood’s point of view.
[quote]lothario1132 wrote:
Yeah RJ, nothin’ like crying and spackling at the same time…
Childhood was great.
One time, I thought I was tough and called my mom a bitch. I can’t tell you what was worse, feeling my jaw come loose from the pimp-slap I justly received, or having to go to the dentist afterwards.
What was your favorite flavor of soap?[/quote]
We didn’t do soap at our house. We did the, “You sit right there on that couch until your dad gets home, mister. And your telling him EXACTLY what you said!”
I think I just felt a tear roll down my cheek.
[quote]rainjack wrote:
We didn’t do soap at our house. We did the, “You sit right there on that couch until your dad gets home, mister. And your telling him EXACTLY what you said!”
I think I just felt a tear roll down my cheek.
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You don’t know what you missed out on pal! Jergens… with a little hot sauce… mmmm…
I had to do the “sit in the corner” thing as well. Soap was more like a rare treat for when I was especially an asshole about something.
The more I think about it, the more I realize just how much of a little pecker I was (and maybe still am). How I didn’t end up on video getting my shit served to me is a friggin miracle, honestly. My kids are NOWHERE near as bad as I was. How the hell did that happen? 
I swear that once driving back from Abilene, my best friend and I were being little shits in the backseat. My mom (doing at least 70mph) comes over the backseat of the Delta 88 with a golf shoe in her hand swinging for the fences. To this day I don’t know if she was steering with her foot or if God took the wheel, but she commenced to spiking the holy hell out of the both of us. It probably didn’t help that my friend always called my mom “Old Bagger”.
A golf shoe? That’s great, doogie!
I once sized up my Dad in a yelling match when I was 16. Being stupid, I sized up my stepdad since I didn’t actually brawl with my own Dad. Well, I can’t remember how it went down, exactly. I do remember being REALLY dizzy. That has a way of making a young person humble and respectful. Don’t know how that whole mother-son fight got going, but that boy won’t likely be talking back to her any more.
[quote]lothario1132 wrote:
Ignorant? It’s attitudes like the permissiveness and weakness in parenting that is so prevalent in our society today which is responsible for many of our children’s ills.
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Don’t forget to add in lawyers and jurisprudence. I suspect it’s a good part of the reason why parents lowered and softened their standards.
It’s not that parents probably don’t want to go back to the old school way of doing things, it’s probably they don’t want to end up in front of the judiciary system one way or another. Buying a playstation and gifts almost acts like an insurance policy. Sigh.
[quote]lothario1132 wrote:
You don’t know what you missed out on pal! Jergens… with a little hot sauce… mmmm…[/quote]
My fav is the cheep little bars of soap that all the hotels have (jermac i think). My dad used to travel alot and he alwase brougt home a ton of soap and shampoo.
La’
Redsol1
[quote]ChrisPowers wrote:
“Please don’t show me that at this point in time.”[/quote]
I noticed that line from the mom too and it completely perplexed me. Totally surreal since it sounded so lucid in the midst of something so f-ed up.
Loth, I guess the part I struggle with is even though he was swinging at her which I agree is way wrong and deserves punishment, due to her WAY bigger size and obvious strength, all she had to due was hold his hands down, or just sit on him until he quit or she had help. There’s no way in hell to justify kicking and hitting someone while they’re on the ground defenseless.
As parents, we have to be the bigger person and know how to handle the kids in a healthier way…That’s all I was trying to say. Don’t get me wrong…I’ve had a real hard time not tearing into some of the kids I’ve come across, but…as adults, parents, people in trust, we have the tools, knowledge and maturity to know better…
I used to get alumn powder.That stuff was horrible.
Looks and sounds like mom was trying to teach the kid how to fight.
On the violence thing- The only thing I learned from treatment like that was that violence solves problems. A couple of problems solved, a few stays in jail, and years of probation later, I’ve changed my mind.
That’s stright up DISFUNCTION right there!
Someone already said it, but Mom is damn quick! That kid was throwing some haymakers, and she just ducked without any problem. Truthfully, Mom was a big bitch…not sure it would have mattered if he would have landed one! She prolly would have brushed it off without a problem.
J