Proof Gay Marriage is Wrong

[quote]DOMK wrote:
I can only assume you live a very isolated existance. I can tell you now as fact that most all men i know have had sexual relationships without their wife knowing.
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I think you have to take his generation into consideration. Many of the people I know who have been married have either gotten a divorce or cheated on their spouse without the other knowing. The worse case that I know of was a relative of mine finding out that his son wasn’t his after two years of marriage.

The entire state of affairs is pretty sad and I would have a hard time ever stating that most people are happily married. I do remember a thread a while ago about guys going half on the date as far as paying and how many who responded to that thread seemed split right down the middle as far as opinion.

There is a HUGE generation gap as far as the current dating scene. I wouldn’t expect most people over 40 or 50 to truly have any type of real grasp of the way things currently are in the dating/marriage scene with younger couples.

With that in mind, why are you or anyone else arguing as if the other side will change their mind? How many guys in middle age or beyond change their entire perspective? Without some type of near death experience, I would guess somewhere in the neighborhood of “zero”.

I don’t think most/the majority of spouses and significant others cheat. But I wouldn’t be surprised if it was 40-50%. Which is pretty damn high. It is a sad state of affairs.

If this is the reaction to same sex marriages, just imagine the shock these politicians/campaigners will have when two lesbians/homosexuals can have children of their own using stem cells.

Listen to ProfX. Like I said, ZEB is just old.

Not knockin’ ya, Chin Master ZEB, it’s the damn truth!! :slight_smile:

Remember this guys, and maybe try to avoid falling into the trap that so many others before us have. ZEB thinks he is soOOO right. Don’t let this be you when you hit eighty-five or whatever ZEB is. LOL

Open mind = Good

Things will continue to change. There may come a time in your life some years down the road where an issue arises that you just can’t see the other side of no matter how hard you try. All I’m saying is remember to have a good reason to be against something besides “Well, in my day…” or “This nation’s goin’ to hell in a handbasket! You’re all a bunch of no-good lazy heathens!”

Because after that, you’ll be that crusty old fart who’s always shakin’ a stick at those damn kids to GET OFF MY DAMN LAWN YOU LITTLE BASTARDS!

Don’t be that guy. Because I will be laughing my ass off at you from my rocking chair. Just because your body ages doesn’t mean your mind and your mindset has to.

[quote]lothario1132 wrote:
Listen to ProfX. Like I said, ZEB is just old.

Not knockin’ ya, Chin Master ZEB, it’s the damn truth!! :slight_smile:

Remember this guys, and maybe try to avoid falling into the trap that so many others before us have. ZEB thinks he is soOOO right. Don’t let this be you when you hit eighty-five or whatever ZEB is. LOL

Open mind = Good

Things will continue to change. There may come a time in your life some years down the road where an issue arises that you just can’t see the other side of no matter how hard you try. All I’m saying is remember to have a good reason to be against something besides “Well, in my day…” or “This nation’s goin’ to hell in a handbasket! You’re all a bunch of no-good lazy heathens!”

Because after that, you’ll be that crusty old fart who’s always shakin’ a stick at those damn kids to GET OFF MY DAMN LAWN YOU LITTLE BASTARDS!

Don’t be that guy. Because I will be laughing my ass off at you from my rocking chair. Just because your body ages doesn’t mean your mind and your mindset has to.[/quote]

lothario:

But just because you age doesn’t mean that you can’t change either.

Very good put downs, and good job in making it personal while still masquerading as an open minded social liberal. I think it’s your use of humor that allows this sort of discrimination acceptable. Let me think now how would I be taken if I rolled out gay put downs, using humor of course. Naw…I don’t do that sort of thing. In fact, I don’t even know any gay jokes. I never thought that hurting someone for my own enjoyment was ever a good idea.

Forgive me this one thread hijack. Anyway, it’s probably time that someone hijacked it and kept going!

Let’s keep the topic on age since this is your second or third post directed at me on the matter: Fact is, there are a whole bunch of things that are “age restricted.” Can’t drive until you are 17 (depends on the state). Can’t drink until you are 21. Can’t vote until you are 18. Most banks won’t even look at you for a loan until you have a decent work record and that takes a few years after you are out of school, mid 20’s maybe? And you can’t even run for President until you are 35.

Can you run for President lothario? No probably not. You just can’t be trusted at your tender age. Now why do you suppose that is. I guess that in many cases wisdom comes with age. I know not in my case, I could not possibly have any wisdom I disagree with you on the gay issue (eye roll). I have found through the years (there I go with that pesky experience factor again) that most twenty something’s will have an “opinion change” over the next 10 to 20 years. When this happens does that mean that they are “old and out of it?” Or does it just mean that you have had more experiences to base your decisions on?

I know that there are plenty of social liberals who are well into their 60’s and beyond. But that doesn’t mean that they didn’t have any sort of change of heart on various issues through the years. Just as I have had and you will have as well. You just have to live long enough, which has not happened yet in your case.

I have not found it necessary to even mention that I have been debating (for the most part) twenty something’s on this issue. I am able to debate you on this topic without resorting to pointing out your youth and inexperience (except this one time perhaps :). The fact that you and your fellow social liberal decided to make my age an issue sort of smacks of a certain bias don’t you think? A bias that you would not tolerate if it were directed at one of your many “gay friends.”

Sorry, sometimes I forget the rules of your game: It’s okay to be a young gay atheist. Not so good to be a middle aged white male Christian. At least that’s how you look at things in your world. Someday, you will look at it again and it won’t quite look the same. Time is the only thing that needs to pass in order for that to happen. Just hang in there and you will automatically get smarter. (Okay that could be an exaggeration, forgive me).

Maybe in 15 years or so you will be called a crusty old codger because you are just not for the legal age of consent to be lowered to 13. I know that those who would defend NAMBLA 15 years from now might just be calling you worse than that! Remember to hang in there.

You and your twenty something cohorts may not agree with my stance on gay marriage, and that’s okay. In a free society it’s fun to debate the various issues of the day. We might even find ourselves on the same side on certain issues, like the war in Iraq for example. I guess I’m not “too old” that I hold the wrong opinion on that one, according to you at least.

The fact that you and Prof X would play the age card speaks more of your inability to come up with valid points “for” gay marriage than anything else. It speaks to a frustration, which transcends the mere issue. You appear so young and foolish that you actually think you are going to change someone’s mind with a few posts on a message board? (I’m smiling)

What you have to learn, and will someday when you mature (sorry I had to), is that there are good people on both sides of this issue. Well- intended folks who really want to get their point across, and don’t hate anyone! How can I hate anyone who is trying to get equal financial coverage for his good friends who happen to be gay? I can’t! As a matter of fact I am very sympathetic to anyone who is treated with less than the utmost respect simply because they are different. Matters not what the reason is: Black, short, tall, fat, female and yes even for a behavior such as being gay!

You can call me an old fuddy duddy, now. I know you feel that it gives you some power over me. But I think I was an old fuddy duddy even when I was in High School. I was the “semi-athletic” kid who always stuck up for the geeks (do they still call them that, I’m old and don’t know the current terminology)when the bully’s came around. I didn’t especially care for name calling or bullying of any sort then and as I get older I even like it less. See, we all change with age at least somewhat. :slight_smile:

I have tried to keep this debate on a respectable level. No name calling, no personal attacks etc. I admit that I have not always succeeded. A couple times when attacked I have responded and I’m not proud of that. This could be a generational thing. Should I expect any of you to feel badly after attacking me personally? No probably not, after all I’m against gay marriage I must be evil.

During the many posts on this thread I have been called: homophobic, closed minded, bigoted, fascist, a combination of profanities to numerous to mention, and I have even been compared to Adolph Hitler! And now when all else fails you and your little buddy decide to play the age card. Surprised? Me? not really…

Play away my friend because I’m not going anywhere! I’m going to continue to speak out for what I think is the correct position on gay marriage (and every other issue). While at the same time I confess that I know I’m not always going to be right. None of us can be so sure of our positions that we can always assume that luxury. However, one does have to be wise enough to know that staying silent always leads to not having your views considered. That I go about this (or any other debate) with plenty of zeal might speak to the amount of “T” that I still have at this advanced age. :slight_smile:

With that said, I will promise you that I am going to continue to keep this debate (at least my posts) on a certain level. It makes me feel better that at least I’m trying to communicate in the same way that I would if we were having this discussion face to face. Should I apologize for this? After all that might be a trait of my generation. I could be telling my age.

Oh my…

Now come get me you young whipper snappers :slight_smile:

I have a few topics to discuss:

  1. I think that Professor X was pointing out Zeb’s age, in order to illustrate the fact that he may be out of touch with the current dating/relationship situation amongst people in their 20s. I don’t think that even Zeb himself would refute this fact. I could be wrong.

I’m only at the high end of the 20s, and I already feel out of touch with the people at the other end of the decade. Relationships seem much more transitory these days, or at least that is how they are portrayed in the media.

I don’t think that this (probably) valid point can then be extrapolated to mean that Zeb is entirely close minded. He may be, but I don’t think that arguing age as conclusive proof is fair or accurate.

  1. Zeb, I asked you earlier to outline what you saw as the unique advantages a man-woman partnership brought to society as a whole.

You declined to do so and instead indicate that if homosexuality was found to be 100% genetic, like gender, you would re-examine your views on gay marriage.

This is a long thread, and I know that you have held this debate on previous threads, but I would like to summarize your non-religious based objections to gay marriage:

i) The gay population as a whole is much more promiscuous than the heterosexual population, which is not conducive to the monogamous nature of marriage.

ii) Children rose without both a clear masculine and feminine role model are statistically less well adjusted.

iii) Gay parents are more likely to raise gay children.

iv) You feel that recognizing gay marriage is another step down the slippery slope of recognizing other traditionally unacceptable personal relationships, ie. polygamy, incest, NAMBLA, etc.

I know that you are probably tired of repeatedly posting your reasons for your opinions, but I would like to get a handle on where you are coming from.

Please correct me if I have paraphrased you incorrectly or misinterpreted your viewpoints.

Cheers,

Soup

[quote]soupandspoons wrote:
I have a few topics to discuss:

  1. I think that Professor X was pointing out Zeb’s age, in order to illustrate the fact that he may be out of touch with the current dating/relationship situation amongst people in their 20s. I don’t think that even Zeb himself would refute this fact. I could be wrong.

I’m only at the high end of the 20s, and I already feel out of touch with the people at the other end of the decade. Relationships seem much more transitory these days, or at least that is how they are portrayed in the media.[/quote]

There is no question that I have been out of the dating scene for many years. And…that makes my wife rather happy :slight_smile:

I do however stay “in touch” with those who are in the dating scene; relatives, friends children etc. Must one actually experience something in order to get a decent understanding of it? Sure that is the best way (to experience it), but not the only way. I don’t think you have to actually “have” cancer in order to understand, at least somewhat, what those who are battling cancer are going through. The same goes for most things. If you are paying attention and observing you can certainly understand what’s happening outside your own immediate lifestyle.

It’s interesting how in some societies age is looked at as something that is honorable. In America we are disgusted and ashamed of our senior citizens. Tell me how many television programs are there where we see anyone over the age of 45 on a regular basis? Much less someone into their 60’s or 70’s. There is real age discrimination which is ongoing in this country.

One of the discriminatory comments is always: if you are over a certain age you are automatically closed minded.

Speaking of closed minded: It’s strange that if one “opposes” something they can be called “closed minded” However, if one is “for” something they are then “open minded.” Even though both sides seem pretty much determined not to change their view point. Is not lothario just as “closed minded” as I am relative to changing his view?

Furthermore, is he not “closed minded” and in fact bigoted when it comes to his religious view? Or, doesn’t making fun of Christians count as being intolerant any longer? Lothario happens to be in his 20’s. Therefore, he is viewed as “open minded?” How does any of that make sense? It doesn’t!

[quote]2. Zeb, I asked you earlier to outline what you saw as the unique advantages a man-woman partnership brought to society as a whole.

You declined to do so and instead indicate that if homosexuality was found to be 100% genetic, like gender, you would re-examine your views on gay marriage.[/quote]

Good question, sorry that I somehow missed it. Believe it or not I don’t view every post. I avoid the long ones like this one :).

But, let me answer your question: I think it brings first and foremost stability. A good marriage brings stability to children and to society as a whole. I have seen children raised in other environments and there is something missing in many of them. That is not to say that children cannot thrive in all sorts of environments. However, my biggest problem with gay marriage is that there is no long term study to see how it effects children.

Who really knows? those who are in a rush to legalize gay marriage don’t really seem all that interested in how it might effect children. That is not to say that they don’t care. But, I don’t think they care enough to even slow down their failing charge toward what they see as legitimacy.

[quote]This is a long thread, and I know that you have held this debate on previous threads, but I would like to summarize your non-religious based objections to gay marriage:

i) The gay population as a whole is much more promiscuous than the heterosexual population, which is not conducive to the monogamous nature of marriage.[/quote]

I think that is one of my more mild objections. While there are clear statistics to demonstrate that this is the case, it is not any where near MY biggest objection. I do however think that the typical American is turned off by what they see and hear regarding the gay communities promiscuity.

I never stated that they would be “less well adjusted.” I have no conclusive evidence to demonstrate that this is the case. I would however like some long term studies to see exactly how children raised with in a gay relationship turn out. Before, we rush out and legalize gay marriage. It’s only fair to the children.

I never once stated that and don’t know if that is the case. However, why don’t we wait and see exactly the effect would be on children. How many times have I read on this and other gay oriented threads things like “I wish I wasn’t gay I hate it.” What effect will it have on children? No one knows and until we find out a bit more we should not have gay marriage.

The social liberals never like the above argument. However, if you look closely at what has happened over the past 40 or 50 years no one can deny that there has been a moral decline in general. I’m not picking on gay people specifically. However, some things that were once taboo are now generally accepted. In some cases this is good, such as interracial marriage. In other cases this is horrible, such as the rise in child molestation cases.

Is there a moral slide…oh yea. Start a new thread on it and I’ll be posting :slight_smile:

[quote]I know that you are probably tired of repeatedly posting your reasons for your opinions, but I would like to get a handle on where you are coming from.

Please correct me if I have paraphrased you incorrectly or misinterpreted your viewpoints.

Cheers,

Soup
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Soup, you are one of the few who seem to be able to keep the debate on a civil level. I thank you for that.

I have tried, and to be quite honest I cannot think of any good reasons why gay marriage should be allowed or encouraged in any way, at this point. It seems to me that we are still in the infancy of trying to figure out why (or how) people become gay.

I have heard the following and I’m not convinced:

  1. It would make many gay people happy.

I like making people happy. But I don’t like the idea of changing a 5000+ year old institution (which is primarily religious by the way) for about 1% of the population. can we “make them happy” some other way? Have we even tried to do this?

  1. Being gay is like being a Black or a woman years ago.

Not true as one is a behavior and the other two are genetic. That is a very, very big difference and when we begin to make special rights for one group based upon behavior where do we draw the line? If it was proven conclusively that being gay was 100% genetic then I would not have the same opinion.

  1. It’s just basic fairness.

I wonder how many other fractional groups can use this one down the road? No one wants to be considered “unfair.” Hence, we need to make sure that every sort of “different” behavior is given special sanctions. Again I bring up the issue of Polygamy and adult incest. How can those who are in favor of gay marriage possibly think of denying “fairness” to those two groups. And there are others …

  1. The silliest argument that has yet been presented: Some people are born without really knowing their own gender.

Therefore, we need to rush out and sanction gay marriage in order to protect the rights of transexuals. YIKES!

There were other equally invalid reasons to sanction gay marriage. And quite honestly to this date I have not read even one legitimate reason to legalize it! However, let the debate continue (not here this thread is already too long). I’m open enough to listen read and wait for that one argument, or piece of science that will change my mind.

Let me summarize:

If being gay is not a conscious choice, and I don’t think that it is. Then, it is either fully genetic, partially genetic or it was caused by some sort of childhood experience(s). I want to know how this occurs before I rush off and endorse gay marriage.

Most of you demand to know the exact effects of one particular training modality before you even give it a try! Am I asking so much to wait for more facts before rushing off to change a (here it comes again) 5000+ year old societal tradition? I don’t think so.

The pro gay marriage people seem to be saying that it matters not how they became gay, just give us the right to marry. I just can’t buy into that until all the facts are in. There is too much at stake. Not simply tradition, moral values and Christian principles, (which would be enough).

There are children at stake! And I don’t think that we, as a society, have the right to gamble with their future. Maybe there would be no problem at all with a gay couple raising a child, and I hope that is the case. But, maybe, just maybe there are problems and plenty of them. Can we wait and see before we commit a generation of people to an “experiment?” Those who disagree need to cough up some serious long term studies before flying off the handle!

In the mean time, I would like to offer some sort of compromise. Let’s begin by changing some laws where single people are able to have hospitalization visits for someone they hold near and dear.

If you live with someone for X amount of years, whether you are gay or not, that person should be bestowed certain rights and privileges. What those would be are up for discussion. I am not for causing any undue pain and hardship on anyone for any reason.

Some adivce on how to move the gay marriage ball forward:

  1. Stop trying to paint everyone who opposes gay marriage as a homophobe, hateful, narrow minded or bigoted. In the process you sound hateful, narrow minded and bigoted. (Odd how that happens huh?) And that friends wins you no points with middle America.

  2. Sometimes in a negotiation it’s better to get part of something than nothing at all. The various polls and referendums which show that opposition to gay marriage rising over the past several years is directly related to all of the “in your face” demands which have been pushed forward by the radical left. I know you feel good doing it, but it has hurt you badly with the very people who could have easily given you victories on election day instead of round after round of lopsided defeats!

  3. If you think that the average American is impressed with the somewhat promiscuous lifestyle that seems to be the gay community think again. If you want to even attempt to obtain gay marriage (or nation wide civil union) acceptance it might be time to send a message to those who are in the gay community to act more responsibly.

I know it’s one of your arguments that the divorce rate is high and couples are cheating on each other so what’s the difference? I can dispute many of those arguments, but that’s not the issue. Keep in mind that we (hetersexuals) already have the right to marry. You won’t win any points denigrating the very institution which you want to become a part of. Right or wrong that is a fact!

The “marriage is bad now anyway” argument won’t work. No one wants to see anything get worse (and that is the general impression if gays are allowed to marry). Show us how stable you can be and how much value that you will in fact add to the institution of marriage. I know you don’t want to hear that, but it would help your cause greatly.

These are simply some suggestions from someone who opposes gay marriage (right now at least). These are insights which you can toss aside and flame me for, or ideas that you can use to help you get at least some of the things which you so badly desire.

I hope this gives you more of an insight into how I feel about the issue.

Now, let me ask you-Where do you stand on gay marriage and why?

Thanks again,

Zeb

Just incase anyone missed this post on the other page; for some reason the good argument posts seem to get overlooked:

Jimmy Tango wrote:
ZEB, since you are so quick to forget, I’ve compiled a list of how I’ve made points to counter you and Lorisco, and your subsequent responses. As you’ll see, it’s a very frustrating exercise trying to keep the two of you within the boundaries of reasonability. For those wishing to verify my points, all direct quotations of ZEB and myself can be found in this thread. For the sake of completeness, some quotes are drawn directly from sources I posted earlier. At any rate…

SOME VERY GOOD REASONS FOR SAME SEX MARRIAGE (SSM):

ZEB said (quite recently):

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“But I think that the pro gay marriage crowd needs desperately to find at least one good reason FOR gay marriage, which so far they have been unable to do.”
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I posted these much earlier (others have posted similar sentiments to these, and more as well) and yet I have not seen anything addressing these points from the anti-SSM side:

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"- marriage would conceivably prevent the transmission of STD in the gay population in that these vows would be not only socially upheld, but legally upheld as well.

  • health benefits that cover spouses would be extended to gay couples, thus also decreasing the risks of spreading STDs in the population.

  • provide stability in society by creating more instances of the primary or core family unit (2 adults who are both able to provide for the direct caring and raising of children while earning a living through employment) who could then go on and adopt otherwise orphaned children.

  • the effect of legally sanctioned unions between same sex partners would have a “normalizing” effect on the gay population as a whole and thus help to bridge the gap in understanding/association between homosexuals and non-homosexuals in general, while doing much to curb rates of the higher-risk lifestyles associated with homosexual populations at large."
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ON COMPARING SAME-SEX MARRIAGES TO OTHER GROUPS:

ZEB countered the pro-SSM side’s argument that not granting rights to same-sex marriage is tantamount to discrimination with the following:

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“If your comparison is correct then tell me why Polygamists should not have the right to marry how ever many people they choose? They are being discriminated against are they not?”
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To which I had pre-emptively countered:

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"in a legalized union, there is supposed to be equality, a sharing of all resources, but how is it possible to begin ensuring that all members of a polygamous marriage are protected equally if the relationship is hinged upon one point (usually the lone male) with all other parties (usually multiple women of varying ages, appearances, abilities, etc.) held together by this one, and therefore more inherently valuable, male “linch-pin”?

“No, polygamy by it’s very definition is not about equality at all and therefore cannot possibly be equated to any monogamous relationship (homosexual or otherwise).”
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I might also like to add at this time that incest, a monogamous relationship between two closely-related individuals, is categorically wrong because of the fact that continual practice of incest will result in children being born with increasing genetic maladies and defects–incest is an unethical practice if practiced on any sort of multi-generational scale. To make a legal exception for only one couple and then not their children and then their children’s children is illogical.

But perhaps jsbrooks summarized it best:

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“Here is an argument for society as a whole: we are better off as a nation and in keeping with our principles of liberty and equality when every non-criminal citizen has the same legal rights.”
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And I think this source encapsulates what both jsbrooks and I are trying to say:

http://legal-dictionary.thefre
http://legal-dictionary.thefre

Polygamy and incest are considered criminally punishable offences, so it just makes no sense to allow legal benefits to extend to those unions.

At this time, luckily, simply being the same sex as someone else isn’t a crime–at least, I couldn’t find any sources saying that the act of being same sex as someone else is a crime.

So why does then follow that it is illegal for two people of the same sex to enjoy the same priviledges as two people who are of opposite sexes? No crime is committed!

If I stand next to another male, if I embrace him, hold him, tell him that I love him, provide support, encouragement, protection, advice, work together with him, live in the same dwelling, eat the same food as him, go shopping with him, etc. I have committed no crime. You could even be so bold as to say the same thing for two women.

Yes, some States have laws about consensual sodomy, but that has no bearing on whether or not we should allow two women or two men to be married–one man and one woman are as equally capable of committing the same crime of sodomy and yet they are allowed to marry. Additionally, homosexual males have recourse to oral sex, and external stimulation (hand job) to gratify each other sexually–so there is no presumption that the Government is somehow implicated as being in support of sodomy. In fact, two homosexual women are even less-likely than heterosexual couples to commit this crime.

http://legal-dictionary.thefre

However, after all that is said and done, regarding the relevance of ZEB’s point in the first place, the onus isn’t even on the pro-side to prove that incest and polygamy shouldn’t be practiced because the pro-side can effectively counter the comparison by saying, “Sure, we discriminate against those people too–maybe they should have marriage rights as well.”

The anti-SSM side might then counter in the exact same way that the pro-SSM side does, by stating the illegality of those acts as currently defined by law… but it wouldn’t apply to the act of being the same sex.

The pro-side is not concerned about polygamists or those who engage in incest. The pro-side only cares about making same-sex marriage legal. Those who practice polygamy, incest, or sodomy are already addressed by separate and unique laws. SSM is not adequately addressed by law… yet.

ON DISCRIMINATION BASED ON RACE AND GENDER VERSUS SEXUAL BEHAVIOUR:

ZEB and others have ridiculed my use of the NAACP, but they do not understand why I quoted them as a source in the first place. Perhaps they will understand from the following.

ZEB said:

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“Any comparison to African Americans struggle for equality is an insult to Blacks everywhere. And the same goes for the womens suffrage movement, before you go there.”
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But ZEB’s personal notion of what constitutes an insult flies in complete contradiction to this, taken directly from the NAACP website from an article dated November 23, 2005:

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“Speaking before Maryland’s largest lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender (LGBT) civil rights organization, Bond [the NAACP Chairman of the Board] said that marriage is a fundamental institution of civilization…”

“People of color ought to be flattered that our movement has provided so much inspiration for others, that it has been so widely imitated, and that our tactics, methods, heroines and heroes, even our songs, have been appropriated by or served as models for others.”
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Now, if anyone wishes to still counter that the NAACP has no authority to speak when it comes to “African Americans struggle for equality” then I would like to hear from other African American sources equally or better equipped to speak about the “struggle for equality”. No one has provided any better source of this representation than I have to this point.

As I see it, and have presented throughout my other posts, there is much to be compared between various “struggles” for equal and fair treatment, whether they have been based on gender, race, or sexual orientation.

But granting my own bias, perhaps ZEB still does have a point in saying that race and gender are different from sexual orientation in that it is a behaviour, something that due to its changeable nature, cannot be used as a basis for discrimination.

Well, let me first clarify that the issue at hand, as it is presented to the courts, is about SAME-SEX marriage, and not just gay marriage. Yes, perhaps the vast majority of people who are seeking same-sex marriage are gay, but it erroneous to believe that they are the only ones involved in this issue–there is another population that is as equally interested in the outcome of this battle, and they are transgendered people. For those possibly confused by the term “transgendered”, this refers to all persons who have or are currently undergoing a biological and psychological process whereby their gender identity has been changed. I have tried to use the example transgendered individual’s to show that ZEB’s (and other people’s) notions of defining marriage as being “one man and one woman” is still sorely lacking when it comes to real world application.

ZEB said:

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"In this case you want to take an infinitesimal example of some sort of mistake at birth and turn it into a reason to sanction gay marriage.

I would wager that every reader will recognize the weakness of your pro gay marriage argument with this one.

In fact, you have won the award for the silliest reason to sanction gay marriage!"
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And, in another instance:

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"Well, as you know race and gender are not “behaviors.”

I want to know where we stop once we begin special rights for certain behaviors. When you equate behavior with race and gender you insult those who really are (factually) born that way!

How many behaviors can you name? Where would you like to draw the line?

Behavior: comportment, conduct. Actions in general or on a particular occasion.

One more time: Race and gender are not a behavior!"
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Without going over every detail, let me now pull key quotes from a rather exhaustive source that I had previously provided to illustrate the applicability of transgender issues for the pro-SSM argument, specifically in regards to gender:

(All quotations provided are indexed with documented legal and statistical sources in the original, the link for which is provided at the bottom of this section.)

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“Same-sex marriages already exist in the transgender community. Such trans-marriages exist when one or both partners in a legal marriage are transgendered.”

“In many states, the marriage laws state that you cannot get married if you are of the same sex. Legally married couples have remained married even after one partner has changed sex, thereby creating a legal quandary.”

“In the second paragraph of the opinion in Littleton, Chief Justice Hardberger wrote: “The deeper philosophical (and now legal) question is: can a physician change the gender of a person with a scalpel, drugs and counseling, or is a person’s gender immutably fixed by our Creator at birth?” Compare that question to the pronouncement of the trial judge in Loving:
‘Almighty God created the races white, black, yellow, malay and red, and he placed them on separate continents. And but for the interference with his arrangement there would be no cause for such marriages. The fact that he separated the races shows that he did not intend for the races to mix.’”

“Then the court made law by announcing that genitals were no longer the legal standard for determining an individual’s sex, and that the legal standard is now predicated upon an individual’s chromosomes.”

“Incredibly, by choosing a chromosomal standard, the Fourth Court also ignored the highly publicized evolution within sports medicine. Neither the International Olympic Committee (I.O.C.), nor the International Amateur Athletic Federation (I.A.A.F.), perform the so-called ‘chromosome femininity tests’ today, but only require a physical examination by a qualified physician.”

“Due to the Fourth Court’s presumptions, Mrs. Littleton was put in the position of having to defend herself by presenting test information in violation of state law and of the American Medical Association Code of Medical Ethics.”

“The Fourth Court’s legal sex test, which defined chromosomes to be the only immutable characteristic, ignores everyone whose chromosomal make-up is not XX or XY. It also failed to consider that some women are XY and some men are XX. This population is considered ‘intersexed.’”

“Are those individuals with XO, XXY, XXXY, XYY, XYYY chromosomal sequences to be classified as a new gender type?”

“The estimated percentage of intersexuals among the general population ranges from one to four percent. In the United States, with a population exceeding 266 million, anywhere from 2.7 million to 10 million people are intersexual, according to the most recent medical science. With the population of Texas exceeding 20 million, there could be from 200,000 to 800,000 intersexual Texans. In addition, the Fourth Court’s ruling can considerably affect all of the people who have married or plan to marry someone without knowing for certain if that person is intersexed, and the children who are born to or adopted by those people.”
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http://www.transgenderlegal.co

Can anyone say, after seeing the court decisions and statistics of which these quotes speak of, that the question of transgendered individuals has no bearing on the question of same-sex marriage?

Surely we need to take a closer look at how we determine who is a man and who is a woman before we can even say that the Bible’s definition of one man and one woman should be used. And, if the basis of the “one man, one woman” definition is tradition, society has not traditionally had the medical ability to identify a person’s chromosomes.

Even if that were true, saying that a person with XX chromosomes is legally a woman and that someone with XY chromosomes is legally a man fails to address the hundreds of thousands, if not millions, of people living in the US alone who carry genes that defy this definition.

Resorting back to physical appearances or the presence of genitals to determine gender is equally problematic for many reasons that may be best illustrated by the many medical cases of surgical and hormonal gender re-assignment documented throughout the last century.

Doubting that, Julia Sweeney, developed a recurring character named Pat Riley (from “It’s Pat!” fame) which plays with the problem on a level anyone can understand.

So, I think it’s fair to conceded that gender is really a behaviour based largely, but not exclusively, on genetics.

If you still need an example of what I mean when I say how gender is a behaviour, just look at the difference in women’s fashions versus men’s fashions and ask yourself if Fashion is derived through genetics or an expressed behaviour.

And if gender is a behaviour (a choice that one can make) then, by ZEB’s logic, we can’t protect people with special laws if they are discriminated against because they are a woman or a man.

ZEB said:

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“I want to know where we stop once we begin special rights for certain behaviors. When you equate behavior with race and gender you insult those who really are (factually) born that way!”

“Behavior: comportment, conduct. Actions in general or on a particular occasion.”
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What ZEB fails to notice is that there are already many behaviours which are currently granted special rights.

The practice of a Religion is a behaviour (by ZEB’s own definition), and there are many special legal rights extended to this protect this behaviour (deservedly so, I might add), with one notable one being that the US government offers religious institutions a very generous tax-relief scheme so that they can afford to operate and function with minimal economic hindrance.

It’s definitely no stretch for anyone to say that a person’s Religious convictions can change over time, so any point about “changeability” or “choice” being a determining factor for whether or not people can be discriminated against is really without any merit.

In fact, it might be said that religion and sexual preference share the commonality of being a “choice” and so are equally worthy of being protected by legal rights.

SUMMARY:

I have provided logical reasons why SSM is a good thing. I have shown why it is illogical to lump to people who want to practice illegal acts in with groups of people who are not yet adequately addressed by current laws. I have shown that same-sex marriage is not an attack on or belittlement of those groups who have already fought for their rights. I have shown that many problems arise when trying to apply the traditional/biblical definition to marriage–problems that would be fixed by extending the same rights to SSMs.

I have shown many critical flaws in the case against SSM, as it has been presented, while at the same time showing how SSM is a beneficial social change that should be welcomed by society.

If I have made a mistake in my logic, I fail to see it–I can only hope that ZEB, Lorisco, and any others will take due care in pointing it out to me, just as I have attempted to point out the problems in their logic.

SWR-1222D, looks like an interesting post with some good stuff. But who can really take the time to read all that? lol

Zeb, I don’t think you are bigoted or homophobic. But I do think you are close-minded. Not because of your age. I had no idea how old you were. But because of your conduct on this thread. Namely your insistence that no arguments were advanced for civil unions and/or same sex marriage. There were plenty of arguments presented time and time again on this thread for both (I won’t go into them again). Your inability to recognize their existence is shocking. I didn’t agree with those arguments you presented or find them particularly compelling, but I recognize that they exist.

[quote]ZEB wrote:

The pro gay marriage people seem to be saying that it matters not how they became gay, just give us the right to marry. I just can’t buy into that until all the facts are in. There is too much at stake. Not simply tradition, moral values and Christian principles, (which would be enough).
[/quote]

The facts are there; go ask at the source. What do you mean by ‘too much at stake’? A little while back you backed off saying you didn’t mean anarchy and chaos would prevail when I cheekily accused you and others really thinking that.

This ‘experiment’ is in progress in several adjusted-minded societies already.

Middle America includes many liberals too so stop assuming liberals and others are from another planet.

Polls against today can change to polls in favour within a few years. So where will that leave you at that time of enlightenment… I bet you’re proud you voted Bush.

Promiscuous you say…hmmm, what’s the population of China, India…etc, sex is popular everywhere. Hetero teens aren’t abstaining. Seen the rise in popularity of swinging of heteros meets on the internet lately? Perhaps you missed the point about gay marriages meaning those commiting to each other only.

Who’s ‘show us’?? You mean ‘show you’. What’s the current divorce rate of ‘we’ Heteros? Stable you want YOU say!

Toss aside

Zeb,

Thank you for summarizing and articulating your position. I find that these discussions tend to go off the tracks the fastest when two people misunderstand eachothers positions.

I understand your take on things and I agree with certain aspects of it.

Your strongest arguement, as I see it, is that there is a large knowledge gap in terms of what this change would mean for a generation of children raised by/in proximity to gay couples.

I agree that this would be a good thing to know. From what I have read, adoption by a single gay adult is currently allowed in 22 states. While it is legal, I’m not sure what the situation is in reality. How hard is it for any single individual to adopt a child in the states? I assume the adoption agencies would favour married couples to single people.

I’m not sure what the statistics are on gay adoption, but I imagine they are very small, which would make a large study of children raised by a gay couple very difficult. I would be very interested in the results, and I hope someone is carrying out this study as we speak.

I think that there is a certain compromise that you are willing to accept, which is an incremental increase in the rights of committed non-married couples. Each increment would be an evaluative tool to determine if we are trending in the right direction. I think that this is a good idea and an excellent compromise that, if successful, ultimately leads to jsbrook’s suggestion of civil unions.

You’ve asked me to outline my personal position, and I think that’s fair, as up to this point I’ve been fairly non-commital.

My opinion is that the term marriage will always be contentious. I can understand that a lot of people view marriage as a largely religious ceremony and as such will never accept a change to it that they see as being against the laws of the bible or their religion. I completely support their right to this opinion and I think that seeking religious acceptance of gay marriage is ridiculous.

I don’t understand why gays would seek to force religions to acknowledge their “marriage” in a religious context. The gay people that I have personally spoken to are only interested in the government recognition and benefits associated with a civil union. This I can understand.

Personally, I don’t like the promiscuity which is apparently high amongst the gay population, and I don’t think that atmosphere is conducive to a stable environment in which to raise a child. However, I know completely monogamous, committed, long term gay couples that I can see being absolutely fantastic parents.

It is for these couples that I can support governmental recognition of their relationship through a civil union.

While I believe that gay couples will eventually prove, to a majority of the population, that they are worthy of this recognition, I think that a gradual increase of new rights and privileges is an excellent way to introduce this issue to society and convince that majority. This would allow the gay population to demonstrate the positive things that they bring to the societal tableau, leading to greater public acceptance and awareness, which is what I believe they ultimately strive for.

I think that the largest problem surrounding this issue is that the public discussion is being dominated by the extremes, who clearly have no way to meet in the middle.

You have given me a number of things to consider Zeb. Thank you for helping me to examine this issue from a different perspective.

Cheers,

Soup

[quote]jsbrook wrote:
I don’t think most/the majority of spouses and significant others cheat. But I wouldn’t be surprised if it was 40-50%. Which is pretty damn high. It is a sad state of affairs.[/quote]

I saw a news article some time back that said a major university did a survey of several thousand couples that had been married for more than five years…

the results stated that ~73% of men admitted to have cheated on their wives and ~71% of women admitted to cheating on their husbands at least once…

wish I could remember the exact source…

if it’s accurate that’s pretty damn sad…

[quote]Professor X wrote:
The worse case that I know of was a relative of mine finding out that his son wasn’t his after two years of marriage.
[/quote]

I’ve seen reports that this behavior is not all that uncommon…

depending on which ‘expert’ you talk to, anywhere form 5% to 20% of children are not the child of the father written down on the child’s birth certificate…

[quote]ZEB wrote:
lothario:

But just because you age doesn’t mean that you can’t change either.

Very good put downs, and good job in making it personal while still masquerading as an open minded social liberal. I think it’s your use of humor that allows this sort of discrimination acceptable. Let me think now how would I be taken if I rolled out gay put downs, using humor of course. Naw…I don’t do that sort of thing. In fact, I don’t even know any gay jokes. I never thought that hurting someone for my own enjoyment was ever a good idea.[/quote]

I’m not masquerading as a liberal, I am one. And why take my post so personally? Is it the truth? Yes. I would be ashamed of myself to lie to make a point about something or to someone. However, this is not the case. Maybe it could be seen that my jesting was cruel, but… have you yelled at kids to get off of your lawn yet? :slight_smile:

And about the “life experience change of heart”… too late. You see, mine was weird because it was in the opposite direction. I have always been quite conservative in my views, supported republican ideals (and still do for many parts as you know), but actually getting out there and experiencing life has taught me that there is more than one way to skin a cat. I have met all kinds of people, good and bad, and have refined my viewpoints to arrive at where I am now.

I never knew any openly gay people until I was in my late twenties. I didn’t have any close black friends until my late twenties. I had led a very sheltered (in a way) life in that I had never seen the world from the other side of the fence.

So let’s look at some of your smug “pat myself on the back for my life experience” articulation, shall we?

[quote]You wrote:
Can you run for President lothario? No probably not. You just can’t be trusted at your tender age. Now why do you suppose that is. I guess that in many cases wisdom comes with age. I know not in my case, I could not possibly have any wisdom I disagree with you on the gay issue (eye roll).[/quote]

Roll your eyes somewhere else, ZEB. You do not know any gay couples who want to get married. You have not “experienced” shit. You just made up your mind because somebody told you what was right and what was wrong. Being gay is like driving your car off of a cliff. It is a mistake. Oh, but you tolerate and pity them, those hell-bent, poor, poor souls. You know what sucks about this? Before I had my “change of heart”, I was just like you.

I felt sorry for gays and through my belief in science and naturalism, I saw them as a sort of unnatural genetic abomination. Kind of like being born with three non-functioning arms or something. And then I met some. I got to know them. They’re not “freaks” after all. They’re just like us, only a little different. I overcame my negative opinions I formed out of my ignorance (oh but I had thought my viewpoint made so so so much sense at the time), and if I can do it, that means that anybody can.

Even you.

Hey, I have already repeatedly given you my points to which you have been unable to come up with anything other than “back in my day” and “you’re all a bunch of lazy heathens, and the world is going to go to hell”. You constantly point out to all of us that so so many people agree with you as per voting results like that makes your prejudices justifiable somehow. STOP ZEB!! YOU’RE DRIVING YOUR CAR OFF OF A CLIFF!!!

Yeah, I’m foolish enough to care to point out that you are needlessly being a fuddy-duddy. Sorry.

Okay. Prove it. The next time this issue comes up for a vote, vote yes for gay marriage. One vote… that’s all. Prove that you aren’t close-minded. Prove it to yourself.

You are a very silly man. There is definitely hope for you. :slight_smile:

Do you want me to apologize to you again? Did I lie to you or about you? Hey, you gotta shake the tree to get some coconuts, man! Apathy is a hell of a thing. You are complacent in your “wisdom”, it’s obvious. So a little gentle heckling… hey, It can’t hurt THAT much, I’m just an anonymous voice on the internet… maybe you might even think twice about why you feel the way you do.

You are close-minded… I wouldn’t go so far as to call you a bigot. You are a little hung-up on gayness… I wouldn’t go so far as to call you strictly “homophobic”. Fascism… well maybe the church which tells you what to think about people is mildly fascist. I’d have to definitely draw the line at Hitler, though. No f’n way Hitler could chin like ZEB. He wishes… that little nazi prick. :smiley:

LOL

[quote]With that said, I will promise you that I am going to continue to keep this debate (at least my posts) on a certain level. It makes me feel better that at least I’m trying to communicate in the same way that I would if we were having this discussion face to face. Should I apologize for this? After all that might be a trait of my generation. I could be telling my age.

Oh my…

Now come get me you young whipper snappers :slight_smile:
[/quote]

LOL I’d still heckle you in person, I swear to metaphorical God. I heckle pretty much everybody… but it’s easier on you when we are face to face, because then you know better than to get your feelings hurt. I can only LOL and :slight_smile: so many times during my posts without looking like a friggin’ girl.

And there’d be beer, too. Good stuff, like Old Milwaukee’s Best… because my T-brethren (even the old crusty ones) deserve the very best.

<raising my glass, er… can of beer>

“Here’s to aging… because it beats the alternative. NOW CHUG YOU FRIGGIN PUSSIES!!”

[quote]lothario1132 wrote:

I’m not masquerading as a liberal, I am one.[/quote]

Your reading comprehension is not all that good my friend. I stated: “while still masquerading as an OPEN MINDED liberal.”

Yes you are a social liberal, but you are a very closed minded one!

When you dedicate a few posts that are obviously off topic and calling my points invalid because of my age, I would say that that is making it personal. And joking about it does not really change the facts. you want to make this about age because you are not happy with sticking with whatever “facts” you have.

Sort of like a conservative denouncing a gay man based on the fact that he is gay and ignoring his points. Oh my…

Yes, you are for the war in Iraq.

And the fact that you cannot understand is that as you progress in life you will meet many more “kinds of people.” You will expand your horizons with every new experience.

Will that make your views less acceptable in a debate? How foolish of you to even bring up the age issue.

I met gay people in my late teens and earl twenties in college. I have since met a whole lot more gays. I have far more experiences to draw from than you. about 20 more years worth! (Oh wait that somehow hurts my stance on gay marriage according to liberal logic lol) Therefore, I am LESS qualified to speak on the subject than you? Again, age is a criteria for running for President. Why do you think that is the case? Because somehow become stupid as you live, or you get wiser as you get older?

THINK!

I have written at least three times about the gay couple that I rent to. They indeed would love to have some sort of state recognized union. I have talked to them at length about this and I do have empathy for their position. However, I do not agree with it.

Am I allowed to form my own opinions from the facts that I am presented with? Is that being closed minded? Perhaps in your world it is, but in the real world it’s called free choice and I am allowed to make it

My Christian faith really bothers you and that is a a real “pity.” Gee lothario you seem awufully closed minded on the topic of religion. Now why is that? Is it because you never met the right Christian people? Hmm, maybe it’s because you met the wrong Christian people?

If you only had a group of kind Christian friends. Then you would champion rights for that group instead of constantly belittling them. (more liberal logic)

You are the very epitome of someone who is closed minded. But, since you are closed minded about Christianity and not homosexuality you can be viewed by your liberal brethern as “open minded.” That’s how it works in your little world…

There you go again talking about something you know nothing about. You have no proof that homosexuality is “genetic.” Yet, you spout off on these threads as if that is a fact. You want it to be a fact so badly that you make believe it is. Why can’t you face reality and rely on facts.

SCIENCE my boy! You like science right? That is your God right? But…for some strange reason you just have to make stuff up when there is no science to back you up. Yep…more liberal logic.

[quote]I overcame my negative opinions I formed out of my ignorance (oh but I had thought my viewpoint made so so so much sense at the time), and if I can do it, that means that anybody can.

Even you.[/quote]

You truly are a beauty! No seriously, you need to invest some of your hard earned dollars in some reading comp courses. I have stated repeatedly that I treat everyone equally. You don’t want to believe that because you are closed minded. You really are! You have this image of someone who is against gay marriage and dog gone it you are going to make sure that I fit that image.

More closed minded age related bigotry. I never one time used any phrase even close to that. In fact I never once brought up “age” to make even one point on this thread. Does that make you a liar, or are you simply mistaken? Bigotry can change a recollection they say.

Never said or implied that. Is this another lie, or more closed minded bigotry on your part?

When the debate veered toward groups of people (NAACP was brought up) I mentioned polls. How is that wrong in a debate? Oh, that’s right about 70% of the folks out there are against gay marriage so it is wrong to mention it. I keep forgetting how liberal logic works. Sorry :slight_smile:

[quote]What you have to learn, and will someday when you mature (sorry I had to), is that there are good people on both sides of this issue. Well- intended folks who really want to get their point across, and don’t hate anyone! How can I hate anyone who is trying to get equal financial coverage for his good friends who happen to be gay? I can’t! As a matter of fact I am very sympathetic to anyone who is treated with less than the utmost respect simply because they are different. Matters not what the reason is: Black, short, tall, fat, female and yes even for a behavior such as being gay!
Okay. Prove it. The next time this issue comes up for a vote, vote yes for gay marriage. One vote… that’s all. Prove that you aren’t close-minded. Prove it to yourself.[/quote]

Prove that you are not closed minded and vote against gay marriage. How can two people argue adamantly without either changing their mind, yet one is called closed minded and the other is not? Ha ha more liberal logic!

You did nothing more than try to steer the debate away from legitimate points by questioning those points because of my age. I think that is as disingenuous as someone claiming the following:

  1. Don’t listen to him he’s gay

  2. What do they know they are Blacks

  3. Who cares what she thinks, she’s only a woman.

All of the above are bigoted statements. All of the above compare to your own bigotry regarding age! You are taking away the validity of a persons argument based on your own bigotry

Think about it.

Yes, because I am against gay marriage. But you are not closed minded because you won’t change your stance on gay marriage. Makes perfect liberal sense.

You are also closed minded on the topic of Christianity. And furthermore you are a bigot when it comes to those who have faith. You openly ridicule and belittle those who have faith in God.

How would all of that go over if it were agaisnt the gay community. You wouldn’t like that much, but hey…it’s more liberal logic.

At least you are not closed minded about God…(I’m smiling).

Yea…I’d have a beer with you lothario and also with your gay friends. Would you have one with my Christian friends? Could you even be in a room with them for 10 min without hitting them with a verbal melt down?

[quote]ZEB wrote:
lothario1132 wrote:
Yes you are a social liberal, but you are a very closed minded one![/quote]

Maybe close-minded to supernatural stuff because it isn’t real… yeah.

Hey I am more than happy to stick to the facts. Here’s your counterarguments (again):

#1 : Marriage is a strictly heterosexual thing, and we can’t allow it to expand to include gay couples. (Back in my day…)

#2 : We can’t let gays marry, because then we have to let pedophiles, polygamists, incestuous couples, bestiality, blah blah blah. (This country is going to go to hell in a handbasket…)

#3 : The bible, which I draw my personal viewpoints from, says it’s bad to be gay. (You’re all a bunch of heathens…)

Should I continue? Or do you catch my drift now? You got nuthin. The fact that the majority of the US agrees with your views just means that we all have some growing to do to overcome our prejudices. Nothing more.

The reason why you feel that the above arguments make some kind of sense:

Your generation.

That was my point to bringing up the age factor in this debate. OF COURSE the people you are debating are younger… they don’t have the myopia of their vaunted “wisdom” to hold them back from seeing quite obviously that it doesn’t hurt a damn thing to let gays marry.

I have said it a million times by now. There is nothing close-minded about not buying the kool-aid that the Christian church is selling. I’m sorry you have swallowed so much of it that it has made you a little goofy. I also don’t believe in: fairies, dragons, the magical land of the gnomes, flying unicorns, and Barbra Streisand.

And before you get all riled up about this yet again… YES, your belief system is based upon the supernatural, dependent upon things which do not exist in the real observable world, and therefore are on equal terms with Peter Pan, the Tooth Fairy, and other stuff we create in our minds and imaginations. This is the truth, ZEB. Sorry.

LOL Yeah! Who do I think I am? What the HELL do I know about science or genetics or any of that crap? It’s not like I work in a medical lab or anything! :slight_smile:

http://www.skeptictank.org/gaygene.htm

http://www.dowling.edu/faculty/Perring/wheelan.htm

http://www.cnn.com/HEALTH/9510/homosexuality_gene/

http://www.cs.cmu.edu/afs/cs/user/scotts/ftp/bulgarians/nih-upi.html

http://www.newscientist.com/article.ns?id=dn6519

And there you go, just a few links for ya. Even an article from newscientist which can explain how and why the genes for homosexuality traits survived through the ages.

You got me. All that research and the articles and whatnot which points to the genetic link in the traits of homosexuality… I just made all that up. I wrote every single one of those articles, falsified all the research, and went back in time to plant those articles in various scientific journals and even CNN just to lie to you.

I’m busted.

I have been wrong in guessing about you in that you DO actually know a gay couple who wants to be married. Sorry, my bad. I just assumed that if you knew any couples like that, you would be able to see them as “normal” like you and me. I guess not. I have an image of you in my mind, but it wasn’t as “preconceived” as you might want to think.

I am more than capable of altering my perspective of you as more information comes to light. That’s the scientific process, ZEB: Hypothesis, data collection, evaluation of data, conclusions. You should try it sometime. Hint: approach problems or ideas with a willingness to be flexible. It helps.

[quote]Yea…I’d have a beer with you lothario and also with your gay friends. Would you have one with my Christian friends? Could you even be in a room with them for 10 min without hitting them with a verbal melt down?
[/quote]

Of course. And if they broached the topic of religion, I would politely steer the conversation towards something else, like how democracy in the Middle East is going to save that region. I’m good like that. :slight_smile:

[quote]Beauzo wrote:
Question: If being gay is “biological”, and therefore some “has no choice, but to be gay”, how would propagation of a species happen?

I believe it is a consious psychosocial decision. It is what someone feels comfortable doing that brings them to this answer that they are gay.

Many gay people say, "Are you crazy? Being gay is torture in society; but wouldn’t that make the choice even easier to be gay? They feel more comfort in the surroundings of other gay people?

What people choose do with their life is their business. Do I approve of it? No. But, I don’t condemn them for it either.

Many christian fanatics continuously pound the hammer, telling gay people they are going to hell and that they hate them, which I find very hipocritical seeing that Jesus taught us to love everyone, and leave the judging to him.

So my feelings are I don’t hate gay people, but I don’t approve of there lifestyle or the fact that they would try to mock the holy sacrement of marriage (which is only reserved for a man and a woman). On the other hand, if they want a civil union, that’s ok by me.[/quote]

re: homosexuality being biological…

I disagree with your assertion… LOTS of people are unable to reproduce, LOTS of people are born infertile, LOTS of people are born with diseases/disorders that leave them unable to reproduce due to the disorder or will kill them before they get a chance…

They all exist and NONE of that is by choice…

Your assertion is incorrect

If the prevalance is low then its very possible… even likely

[quote]lothario1132 wrote:
ZEB wrote:
lothario1132 wrote:
Yes you are a social liberal, but you are a very closed minded one!

Maybe close-minded to supernatural stuff because it isn’t real… yeah.[/quote]

You justify your personal attacks on those of faith because you don’t think their faith is real. However, someone who practiced tolerance, the same tolerance they want for their gay friends, would restrain their nasty remarks. But then social liberals feel empowered toward bigotry if it is not something that they think is correct.

Again…liberal logic.

Glad to see you are now finished with being intolerant toward those who are older than you.

Back in my day again? So you are not done with the whole age intolerance thing…pity you have to be such a closed minded individual.

[quote]#2 : We can’t let gays marry, because then we have to let pedophiles, polygamists, incestuous couples, bestiality, blah blah blah. (This country is going to go to hell in a handbasket…)

#3 : The bible, which I draw my personal viewpoints from, says it’s bad to be gay. (You’re all a bunch of heathens…)[/quote]

Congratulations! You are the king of mischaracterization!

Scroll back and read my post to “soup” in order to gain some wisdom into my reasons for objecting to homosexual marraige.

Could be that. Or, it means that they don’t want gay marriage! Especially in light of the fact that several years ago those who opposed gay marriage were actually a smaller percentage than it is today. That means lothario that you are getting further away from gay marriage not closer.

Do you know why that is? scroll back and reread one of my post to “soup”. I won’t repeat it here.

[quote]The reason why you feel that the above arguments make some kind of sense:

Your generation.

That was my point to bringing up the age factor in this debate. OF COURSE the people you are debating are younger… they don’t have the myopia of their vaunted “wisdom” to hold them back from seeing quite obviously that it doesn’t hurt a damn thing to let gays marry.[/quote]

Okay, let’s do the age thing. I’ll lower myself to your level of debate (deep breath here goes). And the reason that you accept gay marriage is because you are not old enough to even realize (or care) about one of our long standing institutions being changed for a mere 1% or so of the population.

Further, you don’t have the extended experience that age automatically gives you. You are limited by your few years on this earth. And might I add somewhat niave. (I think that covers it).

You have a few friends who are gay, big deal! Want to talk about myopic?

lothario, your world is so tiny that you don’t care about the greater good of a society. All you care about are a hand full of your homosexual friends.

Wow, you are so enlightened…I have to put on sun glasses to even read your posts!

You need to grow up!

As I said if it were such an advantage to be a twenty something then why the age limit to run for President? And in fact why is the country and most of the world run by those who are over 40?

The older you get the more wisdom that you get. The more experience you have to draw on. (except for me-Because I oppose gay marriage I must be stupid-watned to say it before one of your liberal wonder boys jumped in :slight_smile:

If it went the other way we would all be taking orders from 12 year olds. Hey, I bet you can convince most 12 year olds that gay marriage is the way to go. After all they only know what you tell them, they have even less experience(s) than you!

You are the very epitome of someone who is closed minded. But, since you are closed minded about Christianity and not homosexuality you can be viewed by your liberal brethern as “open minded.” That’s how it works in your little world…

And you are so closed minded you don’t even realize that everyone believes in something. You for example have bought the kool-aid that the world has sold! You embrace certain traditions and customs of your own. But you are influenced make no mistake about it! You refuse to think beyond the latest junk science and pop culture.

You have hitched your wagon to a moving post. You will find that out someday (I can do age stuff now because you started it right? LOL) when you get a little older and have more experience. Until you do I know you will continue to be closed minded and intolerant regarding other peoples faith. Just make sure you keep up the humor, that’s the only way you will stop from looking like a nasty bigoted person!

[quote]LOL Yeah! Who do I think I am? What the HELL do I know about science or genetics or any of that crap? It’s not like I work in a medical lab or anything! :slight_smile:

http://www.skeptictank.org/gaygene.htm

http://www.dowling.edu/faculty/Perring/wheelan.htm

http://www.cnn.com/HEALTH/9510/homosexuality_gene/

http://www.cs.cmu.edu/afs/cs/user/scotts/ftp/bulgarians/nih-upi.html

http://www.newscientist.com/article.ns?id=dn6519

And there you go, just a few links for ya.[/quote]

Oh lothario, you disappoint me. You know that there is no PROOF either way that Homsexuality is nuture or nature. It’s still very much up in the air.

However, this is the part of the debate where we both post our favorite links to show how smart we are and to show up the other guy (JimmyTango likes to do that). Then when we get done posting them the other guy has to attack the source. And so goes the Internet debate…

Okay, my turn:

This one states that "Columbia Professor of Psychiatry Dr. Robert Spitzer who was instrumental in removing homosexuality in 1973 from the American Psychological Associations list of mental disorders wrote a study in 2003 October issue of Archives of Sexual Behavior.

He contends that people can change their Sexual orientation from homosexual to heterosexual!"

Oh my…he should know that this is not politically correct! Don’t worry he got in trouble with many of his liberal colleagues. (Feel better now?)

The good Dr. Spitzer interviewed over 200 people. Most claimed that through “reparitive therapy” their desire for same sex partners either diminished sigificantly or they changed over to heterosexual orientation.

Now how do you suppose that happened if it is totally genetic as you claim?

Have you ever seen a woman suddenly change into a man?

Have you seen a black man suddenly change into a white man?

No I guess not. Do you see the difference now between a genetic trait and a BEHAVIOR? I hope so…

Here is the link:

There are other links which support the theory that homosexuality is not in fact genetic:

http://www.christianpost.com/article/editorial/286/section/new.genetics.study.undermines.gay.gene.theory/1.htm

http://www.narth.com/docs/istheregene.html

As you know it has not been proven yet either way. But that does not stop you from wanting so very badly for it to be genetic.

That is called wishful thinking. And you accuse me of believing in things that are not there. (shaking head)

(By the way I tried not to “out link” you. I thought it would be bad form on my part :slight_smile:

See, you can be wrong. What if you are wrong about God? Do you think a “my bad” will work? Oh my…

I do see them as “normal.” That’s one reason why I have employed openly gay men in my business. You see lothario (for the 10th or is it 100th time?) I am not intolerant of others who happen to be different than myself. Unlike you who attacks people for age and their faith in God, I’m a tolerant guy. the social liberals need to learn more tolerance for others point of view.

Yes, that is the scientific process. It’s a shame that you don’t use that process to determine how people become homosexual. I know, it’s just easier to take a political position as you have done, and then find data to back up that opinion at the exclusion of all other information. You see, that’s NOT the “scientific process!”

You are a walking contradiction! On the one hand you want me and our entire society to change in order to accommodate your gay friends. On the other hand you continue to attack those people who believe in God. And when questioned on this you dismiss it by claiming that God is a “fairy tales”. How flexible of you! LOL…the word “intolerant” comes to mind…again.

Well in that case let’s meet up and have that beer!

[quote]DOMK wrote:
The_Grim_Reaper wrote:
My opinion: homosexuality is abnormal. Although I’m not a bible freak,I believe God made Adam and Eve.Not Adam and steve. Reaper.

lmfao Really? Tell me, how did Adam and Eve transform into primates? Magic maybe?[/quote]

What do you mean? I thought humans were all primates.