How to Read Someone Like a Book

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[quote]WanderingAtheist wrote:
I want to be able to look into someones eyes and know what he is thinking.Iknow there are books out there on body language, voice inflection and mentalism So far from what I studied they all have good tricks to help you out, but to really eccell at reading somebody it sometimes just requires raw intelligence and confidence.

Does anyone have anything to add here? been working at it for awhile and unfortunalely all I know is that now I
have a hard time trusting people.

love to hear any advice on this subjuct (no mystycism; I’m sure yoou really can talk to your cat, just not my cup of tea)

I have probably read or at least skimmed through most books you will recommend, but bring 'em on

Thanks, WanderingA[/quote]

Your question is dumb. Just start paying attention if you want to know what is going on.

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[quote]pittbulll wrote:
Professor X wrote:
pittbulll wrote:
It is called extra sensitive perception

Extra SENSORY perception. What you wrote is why emos cut themselves.

I do not why some one would cut them selves, But the ESP I speak of is not some thing that only a few have. It is something everyone has but most ignore. It is partially reading body language, analyzing speech patterns and structure. In the seventies Psychology today did an article on Neuro linguistic programming. It was fascinating, the sum of it was be sensitive to people and do not make snap verdicts of a person unless it is absolutely necessary

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X’s comment went right over your head.

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(in russian accent)You knock them out with chloroform, tie them up in basement, then get out thumbscrews. They always talk with thumbscrews.

(joking, in case you are a moron)

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I hate to break it to you but either your born with it or not. If a person catches you looking to hard at his or her face they may throw a faked gesture to throw you off.

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[quote]kingdpt wrote:
pittbulll wrote:
Professor X wrote:
pittbulll wrote:
It is called extra sensitive perception

Extra SENSORY perception. What you wrote is why emos cut themselves.

I do not why some one would cut them selves, But the ESP I speak of is not some thing that only a few have. It is something everyone has but most ignore. It is partially reading body language, analyzing speech patterns and structure. In the seventies Psychology today did an article on Neuro linguistic programming. It was fascinating, the sum of it was be sensitive to people and do not make snap verdicts of a person unless it is absolutely necessary

X’s comment went right over your head.[/quote]

Well could you explain it to me

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[quote]triple-10sets wrote:
If a person catches you looking to hard at his or her face they may throw a faked gesture to throw you off.[/quote]

I do this all the time…when I’m thinking, ‘I am really going to enjoy eating her cold, dead labial lips one at a time’ and my victim, I mean random woman looks at my face really hard I throw a faked friendly wave at her and make my brain think, ‘I’d like to spend time getting to know her better, I’d like to spend time getting to know her better, gee this latte is smooth’

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[quote]Freaky Styley wrote:
TheBodyGuard wrote:
etaco wrote:
Xen Nova wrote:
shit ton of books reccomended on amazon.com book lists, rumored that certain government orgs have programs to teach people to be ‘human lie detectors’ and the such but probably just a bunch of conjecture.

imo, much easier to project into people what they should/could/will be thinking…

Its a lot easier to guide someone through a conversation than it is to sit quietly and guess whats going on in them… fuck figuring them out… change them!

an untapped resource by most for this kind of research… poker. Learn how to play and play a lot, when you can pick up people’s tells you start to notice other quirks. When you get a guage on them for the truth then spotting a lie is piece of cake.

also you can just pull a Dr. Gregory House and assume that EVERYONE is lying. Thats what i do :slight_smile:

If you look into the poker stuff, the most well known books on tells come from Mike Caro. The real lesson out of poker isn’t how to read peoples minds, but instead it’s to take the small amount of info you get from body language and add it to the large amount you get from deductive reasoning based on the person’s motivations to get the best picture of the whole. The same thing applies generally- find different coherent models of a person’s underlying motivations in a situation and see how well each fit.

as it pertains to the game of poker, reading someone is over rated. the game is a game of math and probabilities. how profitable it is to make a call a bet etc based on your starting hand, board texture and what your opponent is likely to have. reading someone (if possible) is great when you can do it (because good players are deceptive), but does not trump the math.

It’s not overrated. Math will make you a solid player; reading skills make you a good one.

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Untrue; and I play cash games at the casino every weekend. The better players are not easily read and if you could get a read, it may be intentionally deceptive. It is even more difficult to read bad players because they will literally do anything. “Reading” a player has more to do with recognizing betting patterns, past hands played, etc., rather than someone making some made for tv “tell”.

Finally, out of 200 guys in a poker room, probably less than a third know the math. The math makes you a good player. “Reading” someone is the stuff of movies…guess you been watching Rounders too much :slight_smile: I’ll remember not to bring my oreo cookies along next time i plan to lie.

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[quote]TheBodyGuard wrote:
Freaky Styley wrote:
TheBodyGuard wrote:
etaco wrote:
Xen Nova wrote:
shit ton of books reccomended on amazon.com book lists, rumored that certain government orgs have programs to teach people to be ‘human lie detectors’ and the such but probably just a bunch of conjecture.

imo, much easier to project into people what they should/could/will be thinking…

Its a lot easier to guide someone through a conversation than it is to sit quietly and guess whats going on in them… fuck figuring them out… change them!

an untapped resource by most for this kind of research… poker. Learn how to play and play a lot, when you can pick up people’s tells you start to notice other quirks. When you get a guage on them for the truth then spotting a lie is piece of cake.

also you can just pull a Dr. Gregory House and assume that EVERYONE is lying. Thats what i do :slight_smile:

If you look into the poker stuff, the most well known books on tells come from Mike Caro. The real lesson out of poker isn’t how to read peoples minds, but instead it’s to take the small amount of info you get from body language and add it to the large amount you get from deductive reasoning based on the person’s motivations to get the best picture of the whole. The same thing applies generally- find different coherent models of a person’s underlying motivations in a situation and see how well each fit.

as it pertains to the game of poker, reading someone is over rated. the game is a game of math and probabilities. how profitable it is to make a call a bet etc based on your starting hand, board texture and what your opponent is likely to have. reading someone (if possible) is great when you can do it (because good players are deceptive), but does not trump the math.

It’s not overrated. Math will make you a solid player; reading skills make you a good one.

Untrue; and I play cash games at the casino every weekend. The better players are not easily read and if you could get a read, it may be intentionally deceptive. It is even more difficult to read bad players because they will literally do anything. “Reading” a player has more to do with recognizing betting patterns, past hands played, etc., rather than someone making some made for tv “tell”.

Finally, out of 200 guys in a poker room, probably less than a third know the math. The math makes you a good player. “Reading” someone is the stuff of movies…guess you been watching Rounders too much :slight_smile: I’ll remember not to bring my oreo cookies along next time i plan to lie.

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Those guys and gals practice not giving any signals to read or to give the wrong signals

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[quote]TheBodyGuard wrote:
Freaky Styley wrote:
TheBodyGuard wrote:
etaco wrote:
Xen Nova wrote:
shit ton of books reccomended on amazon.com book lists, rumored that certain government orgs have programs to teach people to be ‘human lie detectors’ and the such but probably just a bunch of conjecture.

imo, much easier to project into people what they should/could/will be thinking…

Its a lot easier to guide someone through a conversation than it is to sit quietly and guess whats going on in them… fuck figuring them out… change them!

an untapped resource by most for this kind of research… poker. Learn how to play and play a lot, when you can pick up people’s tells you start to notice other quirks. When you get a guage on them for the truth then spotting a lie is piece of cake.

also you can just pull a Dr. Gregory House and assume that EVERYONE is lying. Thats what i do :slight_smile:

If you look into the poker stuff, the most well known books on tells come from Mike Caro. The real lesson out of poker isn’t how to read peoples minds, but instead it’s to take the small amount of info you get from body language and add it to the large amount you get from deductive reasoning based on the person’s motivations to get the best picture of the whole. The same thing applies generally- find different coherent models of a person’s underlying motivations in a situation and see how well each fit.

as it pertains to the game of poker, reading someone is over rated. the game is a game of math and probabilities. how profitable it is to make a call a bet etc based on your starting hand, board texture and what your opponent is likely to have. reading someone (if possible) is great when you can do it (because good players are deceptive), but does not trump the math.

It’s not overrated. Math will make you a solid player; reading skills make you a good one.

Untrue; and I play cash games at the casino every weekend. The better players are not easily read and if you could get a read, it may be intentionally deceptive. It is even more difficult to read bad players because they will literally do anything. “Reading” a player has more to do with recognizing betting patterns, past hands played, etc., rather than someone making some made for tv “tell”.

Finally, out of 200 guys in a poker room, probably less than a third know the math. The math makes you a good player. “Reading” someone is the stuff of movies…guess you been watching Rounders too much :slight_smile: I’ll remember not to bring my oreo cookies along next time i plan to lie.

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Read this: http://www.amazon.com/Thursday-Night-Poker-How-Understand-Enjoy/dp/0812974913/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&s=books&qid=1208445321&sr=1-1

It’s pretty good. One of the only books that doesn’t focus on professional poker.

There are different kinds of poker games and different kinds of players, with different motivations.

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i just downloaded like 50 books on the subject… toorgle.com search for “social interactions”

books from dale carnegie to robert levine.

have fun