How Is Your Life?

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[quote]CaliforniaLaw wrote:
Some more advice…

Also, money matters. Do not let anyone tell you differently. I know what it’s like to talk someone out of cutting off your power. I also know what it’s like to not have to set up “budget” for my supplements and to just order what I want. (I don’t know what it’s like to own a Rolls Royce. I’ll report back when I do.)

Open a Roth IRA. Today. Just start saving some amount - even if it’s only $20 a month. I could not be more serious about this. That money will grow towards retirement. It make will you freer sooner. Or if something bad happens, it will be there for you when you need it.

Think about ways to make money. You do NOT want to work for someone else all of your life. Very few people who work for others are happy. Find a way to work for yourself.

Work. There is no reason even a college student cannot work a part-time job. You are not missing out on anything by working. When young, it seems like Friday nights are just so cool. They are not. You are not missing out on anything by working. Make that money.

Read widely. Read everything. Read something that makes your brain hurt. Then put the book down and read Maxim. Your knowledge should be diverse. You should be able to, if need be, talk to both the upper and lower classes.

Pick up a fighting art like thai boxing or Brazilian jiu jitsu. There is much to be said to know that you need not be afraid of going places others might be afraid.

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Good post man.

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[quote]CaliforniaLaw wrote:
Some more advice…[/quote]
I especially agree with the following two:

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Open a Roth IRA. Today. Just start saving some amount - even if it’s only $20 a month. I could not be more serious about this. That money will grow towards retirement. It make will you freer sooner. Or if something bad happens, it will be there for you when you need it.

Read widely. Read everything. Read something that makes your brain hurt. Then put the book down and read Maxim. Your knowledge should be diverse. You should be able to, if need be, talk to both the upper and lower classes.[/quote]

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I lit my candle at both ends. Rock and roll and heroin. The intensity nearly killed me.

Live life to the best of your ability one day at a time. That’s all anybody has anyway.

And keep only one flame under your burning desire. You’ll live longer that way.

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[quote]medog11 wrote:
Do you like your life? Its unfortunate that many people live lives that they don’t. As a matter of fact its just flat out wrong. Thats why prozac and zoloft have become household names.

Many men(and women) live their lives trapped in a cycle of work and sleep, hoping to free themselves by playing a round of golf before going to Home Depot for some new curtains, then maybe even Bed Bath and Beyond…if their is enough time.

I see people who flat out hate their lives everyday. Its not just the blue collar, its even the doctors and lawyers who live their lives to support an over inflated overhead.

I’ll go ahead and put it out their- I’m 19. I realize I know nothing about anything being my age even though I would consider myself intelligent.Quite simply I don’t want to end up like these people.

I won’t let society break me like a wild horse. I won’t let a woman cage me into a life of a castrated financial provider. And I am trying my best to find what I am ultimately passionate about in order to not live a life without it.

My open-ended-as-hell questions for everyone are:

How is your life?
Why?
Advice you would tell your 18-19 year old self…or me!

(on a side note, I have been reading these forums for over a year now. I am very interested in everything that is said here on nutrition and training. We really have access to a brilliant resource here.

What I have come to notice is that this site is more than that. My girlfriend asked me what it was because she always sees me reading from it. The easiest way I could describe it to her, " You know what Oprah is for you? Thats what TC is for men. And all the doctors and trainers that write articles, those are like the quests on the show."

Please don’t think less of me for comparing TC to Oprah, but thats how I explained it. This forum has become more than a training website. Its like the town meeting for testicles where ways to preserve our values and ideologies can be discussed. And the reason I believe the above question is appropriate.)

Long read…but hopefully a good topic of discussion.[/quote]

I am no older than you but I truly believe that a little nugget of understanding has been given to me.

In this life, you must find God. I was born and raised in a very conservative Christian environment around many people who believed they were the only people on the planet that had His number. Do not buy into this mindset and never take what you are told about Truth at face value.

However, I think that something beyond us exists and its understanding is key to fulfillment.

For me, the most important thing I did in this was to study Jesus. I am doing my best to ignore all the fundamentalist bullshit in the world and just examine the person at the center of my fucked-up religion. For me, this has been riveting because I never previously realized how many lies, mistruths, half-truths, and nonsensical anecdotes I had been pushed into.

But, hey, I’m only 19 myself so take this with a grain of salt.

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you’ll find that you can’t live with out money. every one goes through your stage but the reality is you need a job.

you can’t have food, shelter, clothing etc with out one. people without jobs are bums. they get a bowl of watery soup a day, they have no friends and they wear the same clothes day in day out, while sleeping under bridges.

doctors are much happier than bums, even if they hate their jobs.

if you are going to spend hours every day working, you may as well make those hours as worth while as possible.

nobody will live a perfect life. everybody will have aspects they dislike. it’s a part of it.

you are as happy as you make yourself be.

you can not make everything positive.

i love my life.

i’m in my early twenties, i have a girlfriend i really like, i graduate college in december and i have a sweet career lined up.

i’ve worked service jobs, retail jobs, labor jobs etc while going to school. i can’t wait to have a high paying career with unlimited oppurtunity for advancement and raises.

in no way do i feel any more shackled than i would if i spent the hours with a shitty hourly wage at a shitty job instead.

no one can be truly free. even in ancient socities, people were bound to the land, the weather and the wild game availability.

sew your wild oats while you are young, but don’t be so philisophical that you shoot yourself in the foot in the long run.

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Read Carlos Castaneda he’s great when it comes to secrets of belief and self-realization that are valid for us all.

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[quote]mr_slick wrote:

Without family,friends,and someone that loves or cares about you,you truely have nothing.[/quote]

Without food you truely have nothing too. Love yourself bastard these people dont know what laughter is

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[quote]malonetd wrote:
Life can get better if you let it. I’m not going to sit and paint a pretty picture of roses and sunsets on the beach, because, for a lot us, that just ain’t life. But occasionally you will find yourself sitting on a beach staring at the setting sun. And that one good moment creates a memory that cancels out so many bad ones. Life’s funny that way.
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Dude,thanks,This is really inspirational.

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To me, life is for the most part about perspective. Right now, I wouldn’t consider my life to be all that great or enjoyable. I have money problems, I work for a family business that is going down the tubes, I’m kind of at odds with my family(not about the business) and my gf’s family. But I still consider myself to be quite happy in general.

Yeah, I got some shit on my plate, but being miserable isn’t going to help anything. I have a bad day here and there, hell sometimes I lock myself in the bedroom and turn off the lights and cry like a baby because I let my guard down and let it all consume me. Thankfully, those days are few an far between, and the good outweighs the bad.

IT could always be worse, and I know my problems pale in comparison to others. You just need to keep your head up. Life will kick your ass all over the playground if you let it.

No one can tell you the key to happiness imo, because that answer is different for everyone.

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[quote]vroom wrote:
However, if you don’t like being alone, then you’d better make sure you aren’t always looking for things to bitch about, express your opinion on, or otherwise cause strife and drive everyone away.
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So what you’re telling me is that I can’t have fun and have friends, too? Life DOES suck.

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I’m 20 and about to make a big change. Why should I be unhappy because I made a crappy decision right after turning 17? I don’t want to be a fucking engineer. I’ve never liked my school, but when you’re offered $28k a year in scholarships, what can you do? Well, I’ve realized that I’m not the sort of person who can do something he doesn’t enjoy just because it pays well or because he’s good at it. Also, I don’t really get along with the people at Stevens…I’m not like them. With one year left, it’s time to get out.

My buddy’s in a similar situation. He says he hates his school and wants to join the Navy. So for a year, at least, we’ll be going to school locally, going to the gym together, and hanging out on the weekends.

Socially I’m doing a lot better; I’m not all that anxious, I’m more comfortable in casual conversation, and I really enjoy meeting new people. I’m looking forward to starting over. Frankly, I’m fucking excited.

The hardest thing at this point will be to figure out what I want to do. I’ve started working on my portfolio; I’m leaning toward graphic design. My other option would be something in exercise and/or nutrition. And I always have the culinary arts in the back of my mind.

So things are certainly looking up. I’m in no position to give you advice, obviously, but I will say that you should try to make a living at something you enjoy. Also, family is awesome, so don’t take it for granted. And for goodness’ sake, invest! I’ve read that if you put away 20% of your salary starting at age 20, you can retire by the time you’re 40. Maybe that’s a bit extreme, but you should at least take full advantage of tax-deferred plans such as the 401(k) and Roth IRA. If you consider the time value of money, you really can’t afford to waste any time.

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[quote]nephorm wrote:
vroom wrote:
However, if you don’t like being alone, then you’d better make sure you aren’t always looking for things to bitch about, express your opinion on, or otherwise cause strife and drive everyone away.

So what you’re telling me is that I can’t have fun and have friends, too? Life DOES suck.[/quote]

LOL. I was like that. I couldn’t let shit go. Life is so much better now. This is a very good piece of advice.

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incoherent post alert

I am Jack’s overwhelming sense of dread for replying.

You are not a beautiful and unique snowflake.

How is doing shit on the weekends with your family “trapped”? Some of Those Guys have low T-levels, and are existing just like we are. Except we “free ourselves” with Iron. Some days I get a session of HIIT and then if there is enough time i’ll get a lift in that day too. Same shit, different choices.

This site is far from Oprah for me. Oprah is commercial and provides empty informational ‘calories’ for people who are lost and need a TV personality to tell them whats right and wrong. This site is like Oprah’s nut sack. Its big and nasty and stinky and no one wants it to get out in the wild. The Uber Powerful Bean Bag that could expose truth.

What would you do without being broken like a wild honeymoon stallion? Be a fucking bum? Because those guys do not give a piss what you society thinks. You can contribute to society and make the world a better place through your work effort and goals. Do what makes you feel complete as a person.

It seems to me you already feel trapped or your GF is dropping hints about marriage. If you don’t want to marry her or be married period then lay it out for these chicks. Most these broads move to some emo with daddy issues without giving two shits about you.

I am married, i am 29 and have one child. (so far) Ive been married for six years, together for 10. I have about 2 semesters of college to my name, i have an awesome well paying job doing what i love, and do not regret a damn thing. I have to go to home depot some weekends and then if there is time go to bed bath and beyond. I can tell you its not bad, its actually pretty fucking awesome. Why? Because i know that I have a wonderful family, I have my health and best of all when the baby is sleeping i can go train. On top of all that i know i can make the world a better place teaching my son how to be a man. Making sure the same stupid mistakes aren’t repeated.

It’s not for everyone, but i knew the second i had my son that nothing else mattered. Not what i did for a living, not having to go to the fucking drug store at 2:00am for vaseline, etc…

I would get rid of your TV and cable, you don’t need that shit. Plus you could be doing something MUCH better. Learning to play an instrument, or reading a book, or getting an extra beat off session in before your GF comes over.

Write Down (or email yourself) what you want to do in life and how you want to accomplish said goals. Try to be as specific as you can. Then check that list every six weeks.(set it up as a reoccurring meeting with yourself.) If you are not make progress towards your goals then you are never going to do what you want.

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Check the “cool tips” for today. How perfect.

"Today’s tip comes from Dave Tate:

Don’t Get Pulled Down

You only go around once, so you may as well make the best of your time here by living the life you really want to live. “Well, Dave, I’d like to but…” But what? Do what you gotta do! There are many people out there who live “but lives,” “I shoulda lives,” and “I coulda lives.” These people are easy to find. They’re the ones we call critics: those who’ve become masters of the “have not” and love to spend their time telling us what we can and can’t do. They make up 90% of the people I’ve met. Avoid them! They love to pull you down. "

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I’m happy with my life but I wish I was better with the women. The last girl I was with weighed more than me.

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My life is getting better. And compared to most people in the world, my life is amazing. I’m basically a very, very rich man. Not financially, but my life has been blessed.

I have an awesome loving family, a beautiful wife, a child on the way, great friends, food, a house, a job, I basically have it all.

I do have some regrets in life, mainly two, but in the grand scheme of things, they are irrelevant.

I have never known true hunger or thirst. I have never had to worry about where I was going to sleep at night.

I feel very fortunate and am a lucky man.

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Have a plan and be honest with yourself when formulating it. Know your strengths and weaknesses.

That isn’t to say that your plans won’t change; mine certainly have. But if you decide you want to be a DJ, or a writer, or a starving artist, or a drifter, or a doctor, or whatever else, consider carefully what your life will be like. Not just the good parts, but the bad parts as well. Are you the kind of person who likes being comfortable? Do you like being able to afford nice things? How important to you is that?

And wanting to believe that you are so rugged and independent that you don’t need anything but the basics just doesn’t cut it.

Do you care about getting married? There are exceptions, but many women do want a guy with ambition. Not that you have to be rich, but they like the idea that you’re making progress.

And that’s a big trap of the minimalist lifestyle; oftentimes it is initially motivated by a desire to pursue a passion - which is good - but slowly, the passion dies, or you get sidetracked, and you find yourself complacent, stagnant, and poor.

Also: you can pursue your dreams and have a career at the same time. It takes more effort and more dedication, but you can do it.