Homosexuality, Choice or Genetic

I reply to them because I feel like it. Perhaps you should’ve been clearer in making your overall point initially.

The tax, legal and estate benefits that go along with marriage do indeed act, at least to some degree, as an encouragement for people (straight people, in the least) to get married, commit to one another and hopefully spend the rest of their lives in a meaningful relationship together. Those laws would also serve, it’s fair to assume, to encourage less risky sexual behavior (i.e. monogamy, or at least much less fooling around than single people). Agreed so far. (Though, to reiterate, I have a feeling that the spread of STDs was never your main concern in this discussion anyway).

NOW, seeing that the act of encouraging pairs of people who love each other and want to take the step of making a lifelong commitment to each other has broad social benefits (less spread of disease, less social and emotional chaos with people sleeping around randomly), etc., why would you not want those same social benefits to be applied to gay people, for the good of society as a whole? You’d have less spread of STDs, less social and emotional chaos, stable households being created . . . Why is that in any way, shape or form a bad thing? Do explain.

Furthermore, by not allowing gay people to marry (or have “unions” or whatever) you are not going to stop those who want to be together from being together anyway, as I’m sure you know, so them not getting married is not going to stop gay “couplings” from happening, whether that involves them living together, or just being in a relationship together, or having sex together, or whatever. It could certainly be argued that taking the formal, legal step of being married to someone makes you willing to work harder to make sure the relationship lasts and doesn’t break up, and makes you less likely to want to break that trust and cheat on your partner, so again, denying them the right to marry might have a slight (though probably marginal) effect on the length and faithfulness of those gay relationships. Again, however, this is a BAD thing for society, NOT a good thing.

So I ask again: Where is the benefit in society meddling in their lives and preventing two people who love and are committed to each other from marrying? Isn’t there benefit in precisely the opposite (i.e. in letting them marry)?

[quote]BostonBarrister wrote:
I don’t know why you bother to reply to my posts, and then go off on your own tangents unrelated to my points…

My point was not before, is not now, and will never be, irrespective of how often you capitalize, that the government can stop people from fucking.

My overall point is, was, and will continue to be, that if the government has a rational basis for encouraging or discouraging a certain behavior, it has the power to use benefits to do so.

So, to cease being too abstract, if the government wants to encourage heterosexual couplings, it can create a package of benefits tied to the condition of engaging in a heterosexual coupling - e.g., marriage. The only requirement legally is a “rational basis,” which means basically any reason that isn’t impossible. Encouraging less risky sexual behavior would pass “rational basis” scrutiny. As would encouraging the creation of children. Or a whole bunch of other reasons.

Um . . . you WERE kidding about Anne Heche, right? Anne Heche is bisexual. She’s been in relationships with men, and she’s been in relationships with women. Her previous relationship happened to be with a woman. Her present one happens to be with a man.

If you ask Anne Heche she will not by any figment of your crazy imagination tell you that she has been “converted” or “straightened out.” She merely broke up with someone and is now with someone else.

Good Lord. Look into things first, would ya’?

[quote]Lorisco wrote:
Damici wrote:
You do realize those efforts by religious zealots to “cure” gay people through counseling are the absolutely laughingstock of the educated world, right? The “failure/relapse” rate is tremendously high. Gee, I wonder why that is . . . ?

Lorisco wrote:
MMG wrote:
Before i start this is not meant to offend anyone.

Yesterday a programe in the UK called ‘make me a muslim’ came on, and on there an islamic preist talking to a homosexual said that he believes that a person makes a conscious choice to be gay, while the homosexual said that it is something you are born with and can not choose.

This got me thinking, and was wondering what other people thought on the topic as to whether you make a conscious choice or are born gay?

I personally dont know and cant get my head round this topic.

Apparently it is a choice for some people as some people do decide not to be gay:

Riiiight! Tell that to Anne Heche and all the others who have changed.

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I’m a lawyer illustrating legal arguments here. Interesting opinion you have there.

I linked this before, but this post sums up some of the traditional conservative (not religious conservative - “be wary of changing things you don’t understand” conservative) reasons to question same-sex marriage:

But if you want to see some interesting arguments against gay marriage from a societal/institutional standpoint, read these:

http://www.gideonsblog.blogspot.com/2003_07_01_gideonsblog_archive.html#105952165206390107

http://www.townhall.com/columnists/column.aspx?UrlTitle=gay_marriage&ns=ThomasSowell&dt=08/15/2006&page=1

Here’s on against gay marriage from the “gay liberation” perspective:

http://www.inthesetimes.com/site/main/article/493/

As for me, I would support a separate civil union for same-sex couples (but one that would not be open to heterosexuals, as I think any civil union would tend to be less binding, which is hardly what the institution of marriage needs) - I’m wary of messing with marriage as an institution

BB,

Thanks for the links. I’ll be sure to check them out.

You are indeed focusing on the legal aspects of what the government is and isn’t allowed to do with regard to deciding who can legally “marry.” Which is fine, but it’s a bit beside the points I’ve been making. You’ve been explaining that there is a so-called “rational basis” for the government encouraging heterosexuals to get married. Fair. I am stating that there would similarly be just as much “rational basis” for allowing/encouraging gay people to get married. In fact, I think it looks fairly irrational not to, given the same benefits to society at large that I mentioned earlier.

As for whether the government CAN (currently) limit the legal concept of marriage to straight couples only, of course it can, and it has been – the argument that I and many others would make, however, is that it should change those restrictions and allow gay people to marry (or unionize, whatever) as well.

You had mentioned race, gender and religion as being traits against which the government is not allowed to discriminate. Well, up until a few decades ago race was not included in that group – blacks were not allowed to vote, or in some cases to marry whites, etc. Thankfully, those laws were changed so that blacks are now allowed to vote, and to do everything else whites can do. I would argue that, at least with regard to marriage/unions, the laws should be changed so as to allow gay people to join that group (the group that currently includes race and religion) in essentially all aspects, including the right to marry one another.

Whether people want to call it a “marriage” or a “union,” again, I don’t really care too much. I haven’t given much thought to the semantics.

With all of that said, however, I haven’t read those links that you provided yet, and will surely try to do so soon.

[quote]BostonBarrister wrote:

BostonBarrister wrote:
I don’t know why you bother to reply to my posts, and then go off on your own tangents unrelated to my points…

My point was not before, is not now, and will never be, irrespective of how often you capitalize, that the government can stop people from fucking.

My overall point is, was, and will continue to be, that if the government has a rational basis for encouraging or discouraging a certain behavior, it has the power to use benefits to do so.

So, to cease being too abstract, if the government wants to encourage heterosexual couplings, it can create a package of benefits tied to the condition of engaging in a heterosexual coupling - e.g., marriage. The only requirement legally is a “rational basis,” which means basically any reason that isn’t impossible. Encouraging less risky sexual behavior would pass “rational basis” scrutiny. As would encouraging the creation of children. Or a whole bunch of other reasons.

Damici wrote:
I reply to them because I feel like it. Perhaps you should’ve been clearer in making your overall point initially.

The tax, legal and estate benefits that go along with marriage do indeed act, at least to some degree, as an encouragement for people (straight people, in the least) to get married, commit to one another and hopefully spend the rest of their lives in a meaningful relationship together. Those laws would also serve, it’s fair to assume, to encourage less risky sexual behavior (i.e. monogamy, or at least much less fooling around than single people). Agreed so far. (Though, to reiterate, I have a feeling that the spread of STDs was never your main concern in this discussion anyway).

You’re correct. It was to illustrate a legal point, as I specifically stated above, in the reply below your post that you didn’t quote in your response.

Damici wrote:
NOW, seeing that the act of encouraging pairs of people who love each other and want to take the step of making a lifelong commitment to each other has broad social benefits (less spread of disease, less social and emotional chaos with people sleeping around randomly), etc., why would you not want those same social benefits to be applied to gay people, for the good of society as a whole? You’d have less spread of STDs, less social and emotional chaos, stable households being created . . . Why is that in any way, shape or form a bad thing? Do explain.

Who said marriage was about love - some silly Romantic novelists?

Well, that’s harsh - in our society it is. But the government is not required to provide things to people who love each other. I suppose the government could use that as a benefit qualification or a way of determining property, but I don’t think it would work very well.

I didn’t say it would be a bad thing - but that’s not the point. Actually, I didn’t tell you a preference one way or the other. First, your question has the embedded assumption that both groups would respond the same or substantially similarly to the incentives - not necessarily true. But let’s assume your assumptions are correct. How does that affect whether the legislature had a rational basis for deciding it wanted to encourage heterosexual couplings? If the legislature decided that giving benefits to heterosexuals only would encourage more heterosexual couplings, and that in and of itself would lead to societal benefits, then, voila, it has a rational basis to encourage heterosexual couplings.

Now, a diatribe on my own point.

The point is there is no right to governmental benefits.

The tertiary point is that the government can create a benefit and only offer it based on certain conditions.

But wait, you say, the government can’t discriminate.

Several answers:

  1. Yes it can - but there are certain restrictions: race and, to a lesser degree, gender and religion. And even then it can, but it just needs allowable reasons. Sexual preference is not a protected category in federal law (including Constitutional law - thus rational basis scrutiny), though some states and localities have enacted special protections. However, as most benefits of marriage are available through separate contract, it’s really only the tax benefits that are at issue - and thus federal law is the relevant standard.

  2. In offering a benefit that anyone can claim if that person wishes to satisfy the criteria, the government isn’t discriminating at all - the mere fact that you can’t get the benefits while avoiding the restrictions is not governmental discrimination. Anyone can marry anyone else of the opposite gender - some people just have no desire to do so.

Of course, marriage comes with other restrictive conditions as well - contractual terms, really, regarding the legal rights of the other person to your property. But those aren’t really at issue either.

You’re right - it’s much more fun to just talk about what I want to talk about…

Damici wrote:
Furthermore, by not allowing gay people to marry (or have “unions” or whatever) you are not going to stop those who want to be together from being together anyway, as I’m sure you know, so them not getting married is not going to stop gay “couplings” from happening, whether that involves them living together, or just being in a relationship together, or having sex together, or whatever.

Note: I don’t care.

Damici wrote:
It could certainly be argued that taking the formal, legal step of being married to someone makes you willing to work harder to make sure the relationship lasts and doesn’t break up, and makes you less likely to want to break that trust and cheat on your partner, so again, denying them the right to marry might have a slight (though probably marginal) effect on the length and faithfulness of those gay relationships. Again, however, this is a BAD thing for society, NOT a good thing.

So I ask again: Where is the benefit in society meddling in their lives and preventing two people who love and are committed to each other from marrying? Isn’t there benefit in precisely the opposite (i.e. in letting them marry)?

I’m a lawyer illustrating legal arguments here. Interesting opinion you have there.

I linked this before, but this post sums up some of the traditional conservative (not religious conservative - “be wary of changing things you don’t understand” conservative) reasons to question same-sex marriage:

But if you want to see some interesting arguments against gay marriage from a societal/institutional standpoint, read these:

http://www.gideonsblog.blogspot.com/2003_07_01_gideonsblog_archive.html#105952165206390107

Here’s on against gay marriage from the “gay liberation” perspective:

http://www.inthesetimes.com/site/main/article/493/

As for me, I would support a separate civil union for same-sex couples (but one that would not be open to heterosexuals, as I think any civil union would tend to be less binding, which is hardly what the institution of marriage needs) - I’m wary of messing with marriage as an institution[/quote]

I’m gonna throw this argument out again:

If the following can be considered true:

(1) The government has a responsibility to promote behaviors that will benefit the nation.

(2) The government can use benefits to promote such behaviors.

(3) Over population is a serious problem.

(4) China is over populated.

Then -

China’s government should give more benefits to gay marriages than to straight ones.

How do ya like them apples?

Oh, and it can also be argued that the mental health of homosexuals is at risk if gay marriage is not recognized, so the government should be supporting their mental health ect ect…

The whole “supporting nature” BS is just that… BS :smiley:

[quote]Damici wrote:
BB,

Thanks for the links. I’ll be sure to check them out.

You are indeed focusing on the legal aspects of what the government is and isn’t allowed to do with regard to deciding who can legally “marry.” Which is fine, but it’s a bit beside the points I’ve been making. You’ve been explaining that there is a so-called “rational basis” for the government encouraging heterosexuals to get married. Fair. I am stating that there would similarly be just as much “rational basis” for allowing/encouraging gay people to get married. In fact, I think it looks fairly irrational not to, given the same benefits to society at large that I mentioned earlier.[/quote]

Fair enough. Legally, you’re right - the legislature could decide to pass a law allowing same-sex marriages on the same types of bases. Check out the links, though, before deciding what’s the “rational” (non-legal meaning) position.

[quote]Damici wrote:
As for whether the government CAN (currently) limit the legal concept of marriage to straight couples only, of course it can, and it has been – the argument that I and many others would make, however, is that it should change those restrictions and allow gay people to marry (or unionize, whatever) as well.[/quote]

Indeed - my points above were mostly good for illustration of how a court should/would view a legal challenge to marriage on a discrimination-based claim.

[quote]Damici wrote:
You had mentioned race, gender and religion as being traits against which the government is not allowed to discriminate. Well, up until a few decades ago race was not included in that group – blacks were not allowed to vote, or in some cases to marry whites, etc. Thankfully, those laws were changed so that blacks are now allowed to vote, and to do everything else whites can do. [/quote]

Legal technical argument - I think the Constitution as amended after the Civil War prohibited the government from discriminating based on race under the law. It just wasn’t enforced. Doesn’t matter much as far as history goes, but I think it’s important.

[quote]Damici wrote:
I would argue that, at least with regard to marriage/unions, the laws should be changed so as to allow gay people to join that group (the group that currently includes race and religion) in essentially all aspects, including the right to marry one another.

Whether people want to call it a “marriage” or a “union,” again, I don’t really care too much. I haven’t given much thought to the semantics.

With all of that said, however, I haven’t read those links that you provided yet, and will surely try to do so soon.

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I care on the semantics and on preserving marriage as a social norm. You’ll most of my reasons when you click through the links. As I said though, I do think there should be some sort of separate civil union available for same-sex couples - the specific legal parameters of which would be subject to discussion (I’m sure that would be an interesting topic).

[quote]BostonBarrister wrote:
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Sentoguy wrote:

The problem with most of the people who down play discrimination and seem to be so adamantly supporting the immorality of gay marriage/sexual preference is that the majority of them are probably the “norm” and have never had to deal with discrimination themselves. So, they basically cannot, or at least have not ever identified with those who do.

What’s your definition of discrimination? Providing a set of benefits from the government for which you need to take certain actions to qualify?[/quote]

Denying certain members of the population benefits that the rest of the population enjoys, based purely on skin color, gender, sex, class, etc… That could be (but is not limited to) the right to vote, the right to go to certain schools, medical benefits, etc…

Also, as far as sodomy, you do know that the term “sodomy” is actually derived from the bible (as in Sodom) right? So, one could say that the reason that “sodomy” is considered wrong is solely due to the bible. You might however argue that anal sex is considered wrong for other reasons (though I still don’t think anyone has mentioned any good ones).

As far as “converting” gays. Let’s switch the roles and see how the straight guys/or gals reading this thread would feel about the following hypothetical situation.

The government one day comes out and says that from now on it will be engineering all further members of the human race. Therefore, in an effort to eliminate any “diluting” of the gene pool, there will be no more heterosexual intercourse (or even heterosexual activity) allowed. The only sexual activity that will be allowed is homosexual activity (since it does not result in procreation).

Therefore, men must learn to enjoy having sexual intercourse with other men, and women must learn to enjoy having sexual intercourse with other women.

Now for the already gay members of the population, this’ll be no big deal will it? But, come on now, for those of us who are straight (and judging by statistics I’d have to guess that the majority of those reading this thread would fall into that category) how many of those reading this thread would be ok with that?

Headhunter, how would you like having to spend the rest of your life having gay butt sex with Tedro? Probably not too much right? Yet this is what some of you are proposing that the gay members of our society do.

Like I said before, it seems like no one ever takes the time to put the other perspectives shoes on and see things from their point of view. If people did that more, we’d have a lot less bigotry in this world.

hah i enjoy beowolfs arguments

[quote]
Sentoguy wrote:

The problem with most of the people who down play discrimination and seem to be so adamantly supporting the immorality of gay marriage/sexual preference is that the majority of them are probably the “norm” and have never had to deal with discrimination themselves. So, they basically cannot, or at least have not ever identified with those who do.

BostonBarrister wrote:

What’s your definition of discrimination? Providing a set of benefits from the government for which you need to take certain actions to qualify?

Sentoguy wrote:

Denying certain members of the population benefits that the rest of the population enjoys, based purely on skin color, gender, sex, class, etc… That could be (but is not limited to) the right to vote, the right to go to certain schools, medical benefits, etc…[/quote]

There is a big difference here. Anyone in society can marry - no one is denied the right to marry. It’s the right to marry a person of the gender you desire to marry that is denied currently.

[quote]
Sentoguy wrote:

Also, as far as sodomy, you do know that the term “sodomy” is actually derived from the bible (as in Sodom) right? So, one could say that the reason that “sodomy” is considered wrong is solely due to the bible. You might however argue that anal sex is considered wrong for other reasons (though I still don’t think anyone has mentioned any good ones).[/quote]

Yeah, but that’s crap (no pun intended). There were/are societies who have never heard the word “sodomy” who disapproved of anal sex or same-sex sexual relations. I don’t think anyone cares about the stigmatization of the word “sodomy” or the city of Sodom… So as I said, while it may be true that many people in the U.S. who disapprove of sodomy do so for Biblically based reasons, one can hardly say that all moral approbation of gays is due to the Bible.

[quote]Beowolf wrote:
I’m gonna throw this argument out again:

If the following can be considered true:

(1) The government has a responsibility to promote behaviors that will benefit the nation.

(2) The government can use benefits to promote such behaviors.

(3) Over population is a serious problem.

(4) China is over populated.

Then -

China’s government should give more benefits to gay marriages than to straight ones.

How do ya like them apples?[/quote]

China does not want a birth rate of 0%, thus they would not, and should not reward behavior that has a 0% chance of producing offspring. They should reward behavior that generally produces X number of children.

Now, what X should be and how to reward, without producing any unintended consequences, behaviors that produce X children on average are difficult questions.

[quote]Headhunter wrote:
orion wrote:
Headhunter wrote:
(1) Life must perpetuate itself. If any being acted on the premise of death, it would have died out long ago.

(2) Life perpetuates itself from sex. Humans MUST be designed for this or the species ends.

(3) Homosexual sex doesn’t have the possibility of producing new life. For this reason, it is called a perversion; it perverts the purpose of the act.

(4) A perversion is an anamoly. Since it is not based upon the premise of creating new life, it must be based on the premise of death.

Conclusion: Homosexuality is a subset of death worship.

Leviticus, 4:20 ;D

From an evolutionary point of view you are approaching it exactly the wrong way.

You think homosexuality has no survival benefits and therefore it most be against evolution, i.e nature.

However, exactly because it must have survival benefits for the genes causing homosexuality, homosexuality does exist.

Otherwise homosexuality would be wiped from the gene pool.

In other words, the fact that homosexuality still exists makes it perfectly natural and actually pro life.

That sort of argument could be used to rationalize the existence of diseases and the lack of hot women.

Human beings are not purely their definition. They can have accidental attributes as well. It is for this reason that aberations pop up, like homosexuality. It may be nature’s way of continually weeding out those unfit for survival — give them something that prevents that line from procreating.

My fiance died 2 days before her 23rd birthday of a heart abnormality and a few months after we began having sex. No one knew of this abnormality, though her dad has it. Her beginning to have intense sex may have turned on a ‘death gene’ in her that we don’t know about.

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It could be used to rationalize the existence of genetic diseases (if things that simply are needed rationalization), absolutely, because

a) you do not know if a “disease” really is a “disease” and does not have any hidden benefits and

b) the mechanism alone that gives us “bad” mutations has also provided us with every “good” mutation so the mechanism that allows change is more important than the occasional genetic accident.

So the point remains, if homosexuality or the mechanism that allows homosexuality had no benefits it would go the way of the Dodo.

Then, homosexuality is not only far too common to qualifiy as a disease it also does not fit any reasonable definition of a genetic or mental disease.

[quote]Damici wrote:
Suppose you’re sitting on your couch comfortably, shoes off. Your shoes are sitting on the floor right next to you. You see a giant cockroach start walking across your floor. You grab one of your shoes. BAM!!! Cockroach killed. Problem solved. This was not the shoemaker’s intended purpose. But did it effectively solve your problem? Yes indeed. Was any harm done? No!
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Ah, but you forget the purpose of the shoe — an article of clothing. Let’s not forget ‘purpose’. If you chose to wear your shoes on your hands, it might make driving a tad more difficult.

As a sideline, do you see your education at work here? You were taught that reality is plastic and that things don’t have defining characteristics. The purpose in teaching you to think this way was to enslave you — if you have no defining characteristic, then you can be put into any old straightjacket that the system allows. Our system thinks that humans won’t mind paying ever increasing taxes. What allows them to think that way about other humans? Our system thinks human society is more stable when engaged in endless wars. What allows them to think think that way about other humans?

If there are no definitions, then man can be anything they choose. So, we can be treated as cattle.

[quote]Beowolf wrote:
Oh, and it can also be argued that the mental health of homosexuals is at risk if gay marriage is not recognized, so the government should be supporting their mental health ect ect…

The whole “supporting nature” BS is just that… BS :D[/quote]

Both of your arguments assume that there is some sort of ‘society’ over and above the members of that society. There is not. There is only one group of individuals with a monopoly on force using that force against another group.

The ‘good of the community’ is meaningless over and above every member of the community. ‘Community’ is a made up word having no meaning when seperated from every individual in it.

A shoe is an article of clothing. It has a definition and a purpose. If you attempt to use shoes for gloves, you’ve got trouble, esp when driving. Being homosexual is like trying to drive with shoes on your hands.

A lot of the trouble in the world comes about because modern Philosophy denies that a definition can be assigned to a human being. So, social scientists like Marx propose bizarre theories based upon the assumption that humans are infinitely malleable.

But humans have definite properties, the primary one being rationality, ie. we think by forming concepts from our percepts. It is this idea that society want you to forget. How can they treat you like cattle if you know that you are not?

We are taught to be open to anything, any perversion, or vile crap. People who taught you this want to get away with something. That’s why they’ve taught you to be accepting of gays. (I leave them alone as long as they don’t flaunt by me btw.)

[quote]BostonBarrister wrote:

There is a big difference here. Anyone in society can marry - no one is denied the right to marry. It’s the right to marry a person of the gender you desire to marry that is denied currently.

[/quote]

And thats exactly the problem. Denying marriage to people based on gender is just as wrong as denying marriage based on race or religion. Try these out:

“No one is denied the right to marry. If a black man wants to get married, he just has to marry a black woman.”

“No one is denied the right to marry. If a jew wants to get married, he or she just has to marry another jew.”

Do either of those seem fair or legitimate?

[quote]CappedAndPlanIt wrote:
BostonBarrister wrote:

There is a big difference here. Anyone in society can marry - no one is denied the right to marry. It’s the right to marry a person of the gender you desire to marry that is denied currently.

And thats exactly the problem. Denying marriage to people based on gender is just as wrong as denying marriage based on race or religion. Try these out:

“No one is denied the right to marry. If a black man wants to get married, he just has to marry a black woman.”

“No one is denied the right to marry. If a jew wants to get married, he or she just has to marry another jew.”

Do either of those seem fair or legitimate?[/quote]

No one is being denied the right to marry based on gender.

Race has noting to do with it. Any man of any race can mary any woman that would have him of any race.

[quote]CappedAndPlanIt wrote:
BostonBarrister wrote:

There is a big difference here. Anyone in society can marry - no one is denied the right to marry. It’s the right to marry a person of the gender you desire to marry that is denied currently.

And thats exactly the problem. Denying marriage to people based on gender is just as wrong as denying marriage based on race or religion

“No one is denied the right to marry. If a black man wants to get married, he just has to marry a black woman.”

“No one is denied the right to marry. If a jew wants to get married, he or she just has to marry another jew.”[/quote]

Those comparisons has been made many times on this forum and every time they’ve been shot down.

And here’s why:

A black man cannot change the color of his skin (not suggesting he’d want to). It has yet to be determined how someone becomes a homosexual, or should I say bisexual as approximately 87% of all “homosexuals” have had sex with someone of the opposite sex (before you attack that figure as being something society forced them to do ask yourself how many purely heterosexual men could have sex with another man). Either way, it is a fact that many of them have indeed changed from homosexual-bisexual to heterosexual.

Trying to place them in the same category as a racial minority group is just not accurate.

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BostonBarrister wrote:

There is a big difference here. Anyone in society can marry - no one is denied the right to marry. It’s the right to marry a person of the gender you desire to marry that is denied currently.

CappedAndPlanIt wrote:

And thats exactly the problem. Denying marriage to people based on gender is just as wrong as denying marriage based on race or religion. Try these out:

“No one is denied the right to marry. If a black man wants to get married, he just has to marry a black woman.”

“No one is denied the right to marry. If a jew wants to get married, he or she just has to marry another jew.”

Do either of those seem fair or legitimate?

Zap Branigan wrote:

No one is being denied the right to marry based on gender.

Race has noting to do with it. Any man of any race can mary any woman that would have him of any race.[/quote]

Pertinent Excerpt:

[i] Why is marriage considered to be any of the law’s business in the first place? Because the state asserts an interest in the outcomes of certain unions, separate from and independent of the interests of the parties themselves.

In the absence of the institution of marriage, the individuals could arrange their relationship whatever way they wanted to, making it temporary or permanent, and sharing their worldly belongings in whatever way they chose.

Marriage means that the government steps in, limiting or even prescribing various aspects of their relations with each other – and still more their relationship with whatever children may result from their union.

In other words, marriage imposes legal restrictions, taking away rights that individuals might otherwise have. Yet “gay marriage” advocates depict marriage as an expansion of rights to which they are entitled.

They argue against a “ban on gay marriage” but marriage has for centuries meant a union of a man and a woman. There is no gay marriage to ban.

Analogies with bans against interracial marriage are bogus. Race is not part of the definition of marriage. A ban on interracial marriage is a ban on the same actions otherwise permitted because of the race of the particular people involved. It is a discrimination against people, not actions.

Justice Oliver Wendell Holmes said that the life of the law has not been logic but experience. Vast numbers of laws have accumulated and evolved over the centuries, based on experience with male-female unions. [/i]

Underlining added by me.

ADDENDUM:

To tease it out a little further, your analogy is flawed because a gay man can marry a woman of any race - he just can’t marry a man. But no other man of any race can marry a man either. No heterosexual man can marry another man. No woman can marry another woman, heterosexual or homosexual.

To go with Thomas Sowell’s point on the definition of marriage, think in terms of discrimination law. If there is a difference in treatment (the dictionary difference of discrimination) or in measurable effect (a more legal definition of discrimination) based on the nature of a job, then it is not violative of anti-discrimination laws. Thus to be a firefighter you need to be able to lift X lbs., and it doesn’t matter whether many, if not most, women can’t lift X lbs. And that is for a legally protected category.

The state can define marriage as a particular kind of legal union between a man and a woman, and give tax breaks or other benefits to support that particular kind of union.

Essentially, the only benefits provided by marriage that can’t be dealt with contractually are tax benefits. You can recreate the property allocation, the decision rights, joint ownership, etc. through contract.

And the government doesn’t come knocking at your door to enforce anything - unless you’re fraudulently claiming tax benefits. A gay couple can have a church ceremony, call itself “married,” live together and have all the relations they want without worrying about governmental interference - a far cry from an analogy to historical bans on interracial marriage.

That, of course, and the feeling that you have some sort of “societal stamp of approval” on your relationship.

But of course, approval is one thing you can’t force. See: The Right Coast

Thanks for the info.

From what I understand:
Every cell in our body has the same genes except for reproductive cells which have only half the chromosomes.

If you play the guitar and plucking the string produces calluses on your fingertips. That is an example of the genes being expressed in order to produce tougher skin. Same genes, but the phenotype or product that is expressed changes.

Genes are highly influential, but we have some leeway with phenotypic expression.

In terms of homosexuality and heterosexuality:

It’s in the period that we start to grow visually in terms of developing eyesight and more advances brain stuff behind it that what attracts us becomes more formed in our heads.

In the case of a straight male, you have your own ideal woman who turns you on. Fuck the “blonde boobs and a nice ass” looks good to everyone. I’m talking when you see a woman who is your ideal in looks, you react with a gut-level reaction that makes you feel more masculine and dominant.

That’s your ideal genetic matchup in a partner. That’s set around the time of visual development from a combination of genetics and influences on the genetics - (what influences it?) that result in a straight phenotype with an archetype of an opposite sex mate as most desirable.

With homosexuals and bisexuals, it’s from the influences and expression of genes as a result of the influences that produce a homosexual or bisexual phenotype with a same sex or both ideal of what is most attractive.

Something I might add is I’d love to be bi and fuck men if it got me off like fucking a woman. With women, there is a big factor of fear of being taken as a slut which isn’t the case with gay men. But it’s not a choice. I’m stuck straight.

In any case, gay or straight, we all have our types that attract us most. I don’t think you will find a gay man attracted to every man just like a straight man won’t find every woman his exact ten. Yet too often the social ideal and concerns with what others think of who you are bonking pop up and infect our perceptions of what turns us on.

EDIT: You as a straight man cannot choose what is your ideal type looks-wise in a woman. That is, as long as you can’t mistake your ideal woman for a tranny with blonde hair and boobs. And I’m not talking fat women or deformed women or some shit like that. You each have your type looks wise that you react to on initial first sight much more strongly than with other women. You can’t choose to react that way with that particular woman. You also can’t choose to react that way to for instance some Britney clone or some other type that people generally SAY is hot at a social level.

epitome.

[quote]BostonBarrister wrote:
I summarized this once before in a previous thread - it’s an excerpt from an article by John Derbyshire:
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What causes homosexuality?

In the first place, the main point I was making was not about homosexuality, but about current attitudes, and the metaphysics that underlies them. Whether homosexuals are indeed “born that way” is one question; whether it is “taken for granted” in modern society that they are is a separate and independent question. Either could be true without the other’s being true. That the second is true seems to me too obvious to be worth arguing. Even the Roman Catholic Church, while condemning homosexual acts as sinful, concedes that the predilection to such acts may be inborn, in which case homosexuals “are called to chastity.” (Article 2359 of the current Catechism.)

Leaving that aside, what are the causes of homosexuality �?? the predilection, not the acts (which I assume to be caused by free will prompted by the predilection)? I can list a baker’s dozen of theories that I have heard or seen written up at one time or another. In very approximate order of scientific respectability, as best I can judge it, the theories are:

u Satan.[/u] Homosexuality may be a manifestation of Satan’s work. While the least scientific of current theories, this one is probably the most widely believed, taking the world at large. Most devout Muslims, for example, believe it, and so do many Christians.

u Social Construction.[/u] There is no such thing as homosexuality. There are only heterosexual and homosexual acts, which different cultures regard differently. The notion of “homosexuality” as a personality attribute is a 19th-century invention.

u Brain damage.[/u] Some insult to the tissues of the brain, perhaps at birth or in infancy, causes homosexuality.

u Choice.[/u] People choose to prefer their own sex over the other.

u Family influences in childhood.[/u] The Freudian belief is that having a weak father and/or dominant mother can form the child’s personality in the direction of homosexuality.

u Social stress.[/u] Rats kept in overpopulated environments, even when sufficient food and access to females are available, will become aggressively homosexual after the stress in the environment rises above a certain level.

u Imprinting.[/u] The individual’s early sexual history can “imprint” certain tendencies on animals and humans. Many homosexuals report having been same-sexually molested in childhood or youth.

u Socialization theories.[/u] The high levels of homosexual bonding in some ancient and primitive societies suggests that the common mores of a culture have some power to socialize large numbers of people into homosexuality.

u Genetics, direct.[/u] Homosexuality is the expression of some gene, or some combination of genes.

u Womb environment - too much of a good thing.[/u] The presence of certain hormone imbalances during critical periods of gestation can have the effect of hyper-masculinizing the brain of a male infant. Paradoxically - there are plausible biological arguments - this might lead to the infant becoming homosexual.

u Infection.[/u] Homosexuality may be caused by an infectious agent - a germ or a virus. This is the Cochran/Ewald theory, which made a cover story for the February 1999 Atlantic Monthly.

u Genetics, indirect.[/u] Homosexuality may be an undesirable (from the evolutionary point of view) side effect of some genetic defense against a disease �?? analogous to the sickle-cell anemia mutation, a by-product of genetic defenses against malaria, negative to the organism but nothing like as negative, net-net, as susceptibility to malaria.

u Womb environment - too much of the wrong thing.[/u] Here the effect of the rogue hormones is to feminize the brain of a male infant. (I assume that there are theories corresponding to 10 and 13 for female infants, though I have never seen them documented.)

Note that theories number 9, 10, 12, 13, and conditionally (depending on the age at injury or infection) 3 and 11, could all be taken as saying that homosexuality is “inborn,” while only two of these six theories have anything to do with genetics. The confusion between “genetic” and “inborn” is epidemic among the general public, however, to the despair of science writers. To readers suffering from that confusion - an actual majority of those who wrote to me suffer from it - I recommend the purchase of a good dictionary.

Which is it?

Which of these theories is true? In the current state of our understanding, I don’t believe that anyone can say for sure. From what I have seen of the scientific literature, I should say that numbers 12 and 13 currently hold the strongest positions, with much, though I think declining, interest and research in 9 and 10, modest but growing interest in 11, and some lingering residual attachment to 6, 7, and 8. The other theories are not taken seriously by anyone doing genuine science, so far as I know. If anyone has information to the contrary, I should be interested to look at it �?? though I should only be interested in research written up in a respectable peer-reviewed journal of the human sciences.

My own favorite is the infection theory, number 11. I favor it because it seems to me to be the most parsimonious �?? always a good reason for favoring a scientific theory. Until an actual agent of infection can be identified, however, the infection theory must remain speculative and the evidence circumstantial.

The theories involving genetics all suffer from mathematical problems. Homosexuality imposes such a huge “negative Darwinian load” on the affected organism that it is hard to see how genes inclining to homosexuality could persist for long in any population. Various ingenious theories have been cooked up in attempts to finesse the issue, but nobody has been able to make the evolutionary math work. Which is baffling, because there are persistent nagging hints, in identical-twin studies for instance, that homosexuality does have some genetic component. Science is full of conundrums like this, to the delight of unscientific cranks, who leap on them as evidence of supernatural intervention. History shows that these puzzles always get resolved sooner or later in a natural way, however, sending the “God of the Gaps” traipsing off to find a new place where he can hang his starry cloak for a while.

The “socialization” theories, while not scientifically contemptible, do not hold up well under rigorous examination. It is indeed true that large numbers of men and women, deprived of the companionship of the opposite sex by confinement or social custom, will form erotic bonds with their own sex. As soon as the constraints are removed, however, the great majority revert to heterosexuality. Graduates of English boys’ boarding schools marry and raise families; the convict who spent his sentence bullying weaker inmates into giving him sexual gratification will, upon his release, immediately seek out old girlfriends. Lab studies �?? measuring sexual arousal caused by various kinds of images, for instance �?? confirm that the great majority of people everywhere are, in their inner lives, heterosexual, however they may express themselves under the constraints of their immediate environment.

The “choice” theory, which most of my correspondents seem to cleave to, has as its main supporting evidence the fact that some people have been “converted” from a homosexual lifestyle to a heterosexual one, usually by counseling, often by religious conversion. I don’t myself find this very impressive. The numbers involved are small, and these conversions seem to fall into the category of fringe phenomena you are bound to get when investigating something as complex and variable as the human personality. [/i][/quote]