[quote]The_Rabbi wrote:
I like Rollins because he’s straight. He’s more eloquent than I am about why it’s a good idea to be sober, and he makes it clear that you don’t need to be in some kind of club or clique, or be in AA, or be Christian or anything like that to be sober. The guy’s a total bad-ass and he doesn’t do a thing, he’s the best example of how you don’t need to do drugs, smoke or drink to be cool. It takes more strength to be straight and face all the hardships of life on your own, instead of escaping through drugs or booze.
Haha, it’s like he said himself: I’ve got no time for drug addiction, no time for smoke and booze. Too strong for a shortened lifespan, I’ve got no time to lose! It’s hero time, it’s time to shine.
In addition, he sort of reminds me of myself. We both really just want a good woman in our lives. Seriously, if you read Rollins’ written work, that seems to be the underlying theme behind all of his anger. He’s lonely as hell, it drives him to do all of this stuff, but he’s still lonely and unsatisfied at the end of it all. He can’t find women that stick around or are worth putting time into. I can identify, because trying to find an 18 to 20 year old woman(I’m 20) that doesn’t list drinking as her main outlet for fun is becoming nigh impossible. Which isn’t to say I’m a t-totaller. I’ll drink on rare occasions with good friends, but if you ask me what I do for fun, that won’t be on my list. It’s just not important, and I’m not attracted to women who think they’re going to impress me by letting me know how ‘cool’ they are.[/quote]
nice post. i’m older than you, 37. i’ve been through a lot of what i read in your post and i want to tell you: it get’s better. it is hard to meet a woman like you described at this point in your life. it’s the age when what matters are things that - really - DON’T matter. but, when you are 20-something, you haven’t figure that out yet. well, THEY haven’t. you have, it seems.
years ago i WAS you, man. dating some woman who into stuff i just was not into. but i got into them to be with her. i drank to be with her. i watched her smoke and went to bars and drove drunk and watched her get into drugs. but i kept thinking she was going to change, become the girl i met when we were 18. took me years to realize that THIS was who she was. these were her priorities and i had to get away from her before they became mine.
i went through a ‘fat and drunk’ period when i was with this woman, after she became what she really is. when she started being real with me. it lasted a few years. a few years of stagnation and lost productivity. i’d break-up with her and get back. over and over.
then one day it knew i was done. i KNEW it for the first time and i just walked away. didn’t tell her. just got out. a few months later she figured out i was gone and that i wasn’t coming back this time. she went nuts, of course. promised this and that. i kept on going. she’s still in the same place. a loser. it’s who she is and i saw that and FINALLY got smart.
this was 10 years ago. when i got rid of her i immediately stopped drinking. not a drop in 10 years. i lost 50 pounds of fat and started working out again. got into olympic lifting and powerlifting. never thought i would but i started winning things, accomplishing things. started a new career and in short order became - for me - a great success. met a great, beautiful, educated woman. got married. had a kid. life is great.
be true to what you want and who you are. it may not be my stuff. but you will be happy. i have everything i ever wanted. it started with losing that bitch. don’t even get started with someone you know is wrong just have someone.