[quote]ouroboro_s wrote:
Ruggerlife wrote:
By the way, that’s just my opinion, I’m not trying to bang you or anything. 
Are so.[/quote]
can you blame him? O.o
[quote]ouroboro_s wrote:
Ruggerlife wrote:
By the way, that’s just my opinion, I’m not trying to bang you or anything.
Are so.[/quote]
YEah I would. But would not say it to you. And that is what most guys do. “hmmmm nice what I would do to that” then go one with whatever they were doing before. Its the truth no need to lie about it.
[quote]ouroboro_s wrote:
buckeye girl wrote:
ouroboro_s wrote:
Having said that, I’m voicing this after a period of frustration surrounding training in my sport. It has become increasingly obvious that some of the rather flattering feedback I’ve been getting about my abilities are based in large part on the hope of sex. This isn’t an isolated incident and applies to a number of the women that compete. The underlying attitude seems to be “If I say something flattering, maybe she’ll fuck me.” This has led me to distrust a fair amount of positive feedback that I receive from men in this sport. In the case of a sport, I need to be judged on my real merits to improve and be more competitive. It doesn’t do me an ounce of good to have sunshine blown up my ass in the hopes of a blow job.
The average powerlifter is a big strong guy with way too much test in him. They usually get excited when anything without a penis is around. I learned this a long time ago, and you often have to take what they say with a grain of salt.
Ouro, I don’t know what your experiences have been like, but I feel like a lot of the feedback I’ve gotten has been sincere, and the guys that want some action tend to make that pretty clear. Sometimes its one person saying both things, but not always.
Being a female powerlifter can be complicated. There aren’t many of us, and I think that the guys in the sport become interested sometimes simply because we are powerlifters and around.
The guy that runs my gym has tried to hook me up with just about every guy between the age of 22 and 26 at the gym. Every one of them would be perfect for me because we have the same interests, he reasoned. Its hard to bring boyfriends around because they’re never big enough, strong enough, or just plain good enough.
Now I’m dating a power lifter and it’s all good. Fortunately, he knows where I want to go in competition and won’t spare my feelings and will give me honest feedback. Of course he’ll get laid regardless.[/quote]
Sounds like things are going well for you now, then.
I’m also dating someone that shares my goals and knows better than to just tell me what I want to hear. That doesn’t necessarily make it any easier with the guys at the gym, though. They make their comments to me whether he’s around or not, and bust his balls when he’s in town.
[quote]ouroboro_s wrote:
Ruggerlife wrote:
By the way, that’s just my opinion, I’m not trying to bang you or anything.
Are so.[/quote]
There you go blowing my cover again! And she was so close to jumping on a plane to come here just to have a piece of me because I said something nice. Damn you!
True. I bought the tickets and everything. You spoiled my bonus miles!
[quote]Ruggerlife wrote:
ouroboro_s wrote:
Ruggerlife wrote:
By the way, that’s just my opinion, I’m not trying to bang you or anything.
Are so.
There you go blowing my cover again! And she was so close to jumping on a plane to come here just to have a piece of me because I said something nice. Damn you![/quote]
As a consolation prize, I’ll send your suit slippers back washed and sweat free. Thanks for letting me use them and get them all sweaty and what not.
[quote]ouroboro_s wrote:
Ruggerlife wrote:
ouroboro_s wrote:
Ruggerlife wrote:
By the way, that’s just my opinion, I’m not trying to bang you or anything.
Are so.
There you go blowing my cover again! And she was so close to jumping on a plane to come here just to have a piece of me because I said something nice. Damn you!
As a consolation prize, I’ll send your suit slippers back washed and sweat free. Thanks for letting me use them and get them all sweaty and what not.[/quote]
So kind.
By the way, sometimes we think “Nice, what I would do to that” too. Sorry if it comes as a shock.
[quote]AlisaV wrote:
By the way, sometimes we think “Nice, what I would do to that” too. Sorry if it comes as a shock.[/quote]
do you bite your lip when you think it? that’d be hot.
[quote]AlisaV wrote:
By the way, sometimes we think “Nice, what I would do to that” too. Sorry if it comes as a shock.[/quote]
No shock, But most women don’t think “I’m going to say his squat depth is low or he will not sleep with me”
Its cool to think it as long as your not hindering someones goals to have your way.
What I’ve learned:
-You ladies find it difficult to become friends with other women who may be catty and fake.
-You like having men as friends even though a good majority of them want to do you.
-Imhungry is an attention whore.
-Bees are in Nicholas Cage’s ass
Ah, no, I wouldn’t do that.
A guy who can’t give constructive criticism is (unintentionally) being a jerk.
[quote]AlisaV wrote:
four60:
Ah, no, I wouldn’t do that.
A guy who can’t give constructive criticism is (unintentionally) being a jerk.
I think some can – whether or not they have the hots for you. Men have frequently told me to fix my lifting form. They have been objective with me on professional/academic questions. I’ve had pretty good luck in this regard, though I expect that sooner or later I’ll have to put up with the kind of stuff Ouro experiences.[/quote]
Probably sooner. Stalkers never sleep, Alisa.
[quote]ouroboro_s wrote:
imhungry wrote:
ouroboro_s wrote:
AlisaV wrote:
That’s insightful, Ouro, and if it’s true it’s really depressing.
It means I’m scared of building a relationship with someone who has no need to flatter me.
It means I find men “easier” to approach because I’m using sex as a crutch and I don’t have the courage to risk being judged on my real merits.
Fuck.
I think it’s true (for the most part) but it doesn’t need to be depressing. I think we just shouldn’t fool ourselves.
Having said that, I’m voicing this after a period of frustration surrounding training in my sport. It has become increasingly obvious that some of the rather flattering feedback I’ve been getting about my abilities are based in large part on the hope of sex. This isn’t an isolated incident and applies to a number of the women that compete. The underlying attitude seems to be “If I say something flattering, maybe she’ll fuck me.” This has led me to distrust a fair amount of positive feedback that I receive from men in this sport. In the case of a sport, I need to be judged on my real merits to improve and be more competitive. It doesn’t do me an ounce of good to have sunshine blown up my ass in the hopes of a blow job.
I think this applies in great part to being friends with men. It doesn’t have to have the negative spin that I’ve outlined above but I do believe that it is, and always will be an element of it.
See, this is main the reasons why i’ve held back from posting in the T-Vixen and Powerful Women threads. I never wanted anyone to think that any compliments that i’ve given, have strings attached or that I have ulterior motives, when I truly don’t.
I’ve sent PM’s before, complimenting a few women regarding their pics that they’ve posted, but then thought that could be sending the wrong message and come off as being creepy. So, now, I figure ‘fuck it’ I post and in time you’ll see that i’m being sincere. Or, not. Whatever.
MsM had created a thread on this very issue last year, about whether we can have platonic friendships with the other sex. It was a really good and interesting thread.
The above is a recent disappointment. It’s exacerbated in part by the fact that I really am a Pollyanna and believe what people say. It wasn’t e-sunshine but real life with some of the people I train with. Having vented to a number of other women I know that compete and I’ve trained with, it isn’t isolated. They treat feedback with the same grain of salt. I don’t think it’s malicious or intentional. I believe it comes as naturally as breathing to most people and they don’t realise they’re doing it.
However, for those of us that compete and are in a sport to excel, we don’t have time for that bullshit with regard to training. On a social level, it’s fine and can be a lot of fun. When I’m training, don’t tell me my squat looks good when it’s high. Tell me it’s high because sure as shit the judges will.
Sorry for the vent. It’s been a sore spot lately :)[/quote]
To be honest, it surprises me that you feel this way. We train with a lot of the same people and yes, about 99.9% of what they say is sexually related. However, I’ve always found that when I’m actually lifting, I’m getting honest and constructive feedback on whether or not it was a good lift, things I need to do differently to improve, etc. Sure if it’s a good lift, they may kiss my ass a little more hoping I’ll join them in the hottub, but I feel they will always tell me the truth when it comes to a specific lift.
The same can’t be said for people I know casually from meets or that I only train with on rare occassions… they’re kissing ass and blowing smoke hoping for a bj… but I think the guys at my club are pretty straight forward when it comes to white lights versus red…
[quote]Court wrote:
To be honest, it surprises me that you feel this way. We train with a lot of the same people and yes, about 99.9% of what they say is sexually related. However, I’ve always found that when I’m actually lifting, I’m getting honest and constructive feedback on whether or not it was a good lift, things I need to do differently to improve, etc. Sure if it’s a good lift, they may kiss my ass a little more hoping I’ll join them in the hottub, but I feel they will always tell me the truth when it comes to a specific lift.
The same can’t be said for people I know casually from meets or that I only train with on rare occassions… they’re kissing ass and blowing smoke hoping for a bj… but I think the guys at my club are pretty straight forward when it comes to white lights versus red…[/quote]
To be honest, I train with a fair number of people outside of the group you are referring to. I certainly train with them fairly regularly and they are upfront and have been extremely helpful. However, I wouldn’t assume that they represent everyone. Like I mentioned in an earlier post, I don’t think most people do it deliberately or maliciously. It’s more of an unconscious thing that can be very frustrating. There are, however, some people out there that do it deliberately and set out to cause trouble and stir up dissension.
[quote]ouroboro_s wrote:
buckeye girl wrote:
ouroboro_s wrote:
Having said that, I’m voicing this after a period of frustration surrounding training in my sport. It has become increasingly obvious that some of the rather flattering feedback I’ve been getting about my abilities are based in large part on the hope of sex. This isn’t an isolated incident and applies to a number of the women that compete. The underlying attitude seems to be “If I say something flattering, maybe she’ll fuck me.” This has led me to distrust a fair amount of positive feedback that I receive from men in this sport. In the case of a sport, I need to be judged on my real merits to improve and be more competitive. It doesn’t do me an ounce of good to have sunshine blown up my ass in the hopes of a blow job.
The average powerlifter is a big strong guy with way too much test in him. They usually get excited when anything without a penis is around. I learned this a long time ago, and you often have to take what they say with a grain of salt.
Ouro, I don’t know what your experiences have been like, but I feel like a lot of the feedback I’ve gotten has been sincere, and the guys that want some action tend to make that pretty clear. Sometimes its one person saying both things, but not always.
Being a female powerlifter can be complicated. There aren’t many of us, and I think that the guys in the sport become interested sometimes simply because we are powerlifters and around.
The guy that runs my gym has tried to hook me up with just about every guy between the age of 22 and 26 at the gym. Every one of them would be perfect for me because we have the same interests, he reasoned. Its hard to bring boyfriends around because they’re never big enough, strong enough, or just plain good enough.
Now I’m dating a power lifter and it’s all good. Fortunately, he knows where I want to go in competition and won’t spare my feelings and will give me honest feedback. Of course he’ll get laid regardless.[/quote]
I’m giving up on power lifters, all fucking crazy.
FML
[quote]dianab wrote:
ouroboro_s wrote:
buckeye girl wrote:
ouroboro_s wrote:
Having said that, I’m voicing this after a period of frustration surrounding training in my sport. It has become increasingly obvious that some of the rather flattering feedback I’ve been getting about my abilities are based in large part on the hope of sex. This isn’t an isolated incident and applies to a number of the women that compete. The underlying attitude seems to be “If I say something flattering, maybe she’ll fuck me.” This has led me to distrust a fair amount of positive feedback that I receive from men in this sport. In the case of a sport, I need to be judged on my real merits to improve and be more competitive. It doesn’t do me an ounce of good to have sunshine blown up my ass in the hopes of a blow job.
The average powerlifter is a big strong guy with way too much test in him. They usually get excited when anything without a penis is around. I learned this a long time ago, and you often have to take what they say with a grain of salt.
Ouro, I don’t know what your experiences have been like, but I feel like a lot of the feedback I’ve gotten has been sincere, and the guys that want some action tend to make that pretty clear. Sometimes its one person saying both things, but not always.
Being a female powerlifter can be complicated. There aren’t many of us, and I think that the guys in the sport become interested sometimes simply because we are powerlifters and around.
The guy that runs my gym has tried to hook me up with just about every guy between the age of 22 and 26 at the gym. Every one of them would be perfect for me because we have the same interests, he reasoned. Its hard to bring boyfriends around because they’re never big enough, strong enough, or just plain good enough.
Now I’m dating a power lifter and it’s all good. Fortunately, he knows where I want to go in competition and won’t spare my feelings and will give me honest feedback. Of course he’ll get laid regardless.
I’m giving up on power lifters, all fucking crazy.
FML
[/quote]
fucking crazy for crazy fucking. hahaha.
I’ve run into a few real winners.
i like being around women if theyre hot.
like, where i work the women usually outnumber the men like 4:1
i’ve had nights i was the ONLY guy working
now you might think, wow thats really cool you work with a ton of chicks…
well it would be if i was the bouncer at a strip club
but these girls arent hot and playful theyre just bitchy and caniving. sometimes its just nice to have a couple guys around so you can do guy stuff, like spot out hot girls and talk about how hot they are, or make rediculous sandwhiches, or see who can shoot the paper ball in the trash barrel from 20 feet away. OH SHIT KING JAMES!! ! !
[quote]AlisaV wrote:
That’s insightful, Ouro, and if it’s true it’s really depressing.
It means I’m scared of building a relationship with someone who has no need to flatter me.
It means I find men “easier” to approach because I’m using sex as a crutch and I don’t have the courage to risk being judged on my real merits.
Fuck.[/quote]
Yeah but at least you’re realizing it now. That’s a very mature thing to tackle.
I served in the Navy with girls that were the same way. They’d hate on each other big time but would always hang with the guys. There was a big difference in population ratio, granted, but you’d rarely see girls hanging out strictly with other girls. The guys are more complimentary, but mostly because they wanted to bang them
[quote]ouroboro_s wrote:
dianab wrote:
ouroboro_s wrote:
buckeye girl wrote:
ouroboro_s wrote:
Having said that, I’m voicing this after a period of frustration surrounding training in my sport. It has become increasingly obvious that some of the rather flattering feedback I’ve been getting about my abilities are based in large part on the hope of sex. This isn’t an isolated incident and applies to a number of the women that compete. The underlying attitude seems to be “If I say something flattering, maybe she’ll fuck me.” This has led me to distrust a fair amount of positive feedback that I receive from men in this sport. In the case of a sport, I need to be judged on my real merits to improve and be more competitive. It doesn’t do me an ounce of good to have sunshine blown up my ass in the hopes of a blow job.
The average powerlifter is a big strong guy with way too much test in him. They usually get excited when anything without a penis is around. I learned this a long time ago, and you often have to take what they say with a grain of salt.
Ouro, I don’t know what your experiences have been like, but I feel like a lot of the feedback I’ve gotten has been sincere, and the guys that want some action tend to make that pretty clear. Sometimes its one person saying both things, but not always.
Being a female powerlifter can be complicated. There aren’t many of us, and I think that the guys in the sport become interested sometimes simply because we are powerlifters and around.
The guy that runs my gym has tried to hook me up with just about every guy between the age of 22 and 26 at the gym. Every one of them would be perfect for me because we have the same interests, he reasoned. Its hard to bring boyfriends around because they’re never big enough, strong enough, or just plain good enough.
Now I’m dating a power lifter and it’s all good. Fortunately, he knows where I want to go in competition and won’t spare my feelings and will give me honest feedback. Of course he’ll get laid regardless.
I’m giving up on power lifters, all fucking crazy.
FML
fucking crazy for crazy fucking. hahaha.
I’ve run into a few real winners.[/quote]
Hello,
I’m still here! I can read what you’re writing about me!