Looking for an opinion here and figure some of you guys could help. A guy I work with has a younger sister who’s 27 and has a kid. Oh yeah, she’s cute too. While I knew her on a very casual level for the past few years I recently got divorced and began talking to her. He kinda acted like an ass about it so I let it go, until a month ago. I gave her my number and put the ball in her court and she called me. Since then I have been talking to her almost every day and usually for hours at a time. We get along real well, similar sense of humor, education, intelligence etc. however he has NO idea we have been talking. She’s nervous about him finding out and kinda feels like we have been lying to him by not telling him, and this is an obstacle in things moving anywhere in a relationship sense too. Question 1: Am I lying to him or did I not need his permission to talk with another adult who happens to be his sister considering what a dick he had acted like the three months ago. Question 2: How can I now tell him that I have been talking to her for the last month?
Don’t be a choad. No you don’t need his permission. You can do what you want. But then you’re a choad if you can’t respect your coworkers. Mention to him that you’ve been talking to her and leave it at that. Aforementioned girl can mention to her brother that you aren’t a creep ass and it should be fine. But if you drag this on for many months and then invite him to the wedding, then he’d have a good right to be pissed.
You’re probably at the right time to mention it to him. It’s not serious… But it’s not like “Oh yeah… I called you sister the other night. I just wanted it was cool if we could have a conversation between two consenting adults. Cause like… You know… you own her and all.”
Tell him, but not in any way that implies you need his permission. If he even goes there, mention that you both ARE adults, and that she can make her own decisions.
Is he a friend or is he a guy you work with? Those are two different discriptions.
By the way the subject should have read “Friend’s ‘little’ sister” I don’t know how I left that out. Actually the guy is both. From what she has said it sounds like no guy she talks to is good enough in her bro’s eyes. He gives her crap about anyone she talks to. Even if it’s just a friend or a guy in her classes.