[quote]Jackie_Jacked wrote:
Acquaintances maybe but close friends, I doubt. My experience in past has always been what the article relayed: man has an interest in the female and the female has no clue and therefor feels it’s a “safe” friendship. That’s not to say the reverse can’t happen but I feel that it’s the former, usually.
In the past I’ve had platonic friendships with men but usually I would end up explaining that I don’t like them in that way. Now that I’m married, I would not entertain a true male friendship other than that of with my husband because I believe that it’s playing with temptation on somebody’s part. If I were to look back and think about all of the male/female platonic relationships that I’ve seen, I would have to say that there was an element of flirting on one of their behalf’s.
I don’t have a male that I would “hang out with”, no. Couples, yes. I’m polite to friends or acquaintances of my husbands or say a co-worker but to actually build a friendship with that person, I would not. If I were single I might entertain the idea but would have my guard up so as to not give the wrong impression or to falsely give someone the idea that I was interested in anything other than friendship. [/quote]
Jackie J is a woman?
who would’ve thunk?
huh~[/quote]
She has a baby for an avatar…
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a baby lifting a kettelbell - that could be a man, you never know…
no, you’re right Chris - I should have put 2 and 2 together - [/quote]
Hey, want to come over and talk in my kitchen. We can make cupcakes! By cupcakes I mean work on my engine and drink beer.[/quote]
[quote]Jackie_Jacked wrote:
Acquaintances maybe but close friends, I doubt. My experience in past has always been what the article relayed: man has an interest in the female and the female has no clue and therefor feels it’s a “safe” friendship. That’s not to say the reverse can’t happen but I feel that it’s the former, usually.
In the past I’ve had platonic friendships with men but usually I would end up explaining that I don’t like them in that way. Now that I’m married, I would not entertain a true male friendship other than that of with my husband because I believe that it’s playing with temptation on somebody’s part. If I were to look back and think about all of the male/female platonic relationships that I’ve seen, I would have to say that there was an element of flirting on one of their behalf’s.
I don’t have a male that I would “hang out with”, no. Couples, yes. I’m polite to friends or acquaintances of my husbands or say a co-worker but to actually build a friendship with that person, I would not. If I were single I might entertain the idea but would have my guard up so as to not give the wrong impression or to falsely give someone the idea that I was interested in anything other than friendship. [/quote]
Jackie J is a woman?
who would’ve thunk?
huh~[/quote]
She has a baby for an avatar…
[/quote]
a baby lifting a kettelbell - that could be a man, you never know…
no, you’re right Chris - I should have put 2 and 2 together - [/quote]
Hey, want to come over and talk in my kitchen. We can make cupcakes! By cupcakes I mean work on my engine and drink beer.[/quote]
lol
Actually Edgy likes to cuddle.[/quote]
The whisker burn is almost unbearable, though. Almost.
[quote]Cortes wrote:
I’ve always been friends with a ton of different females, as I have a very sensitive, empathetic, disposition. In fact, as a whole, I probably have more total female friends than male.
But…my FRIENDS have been and always will be men. When it comes to a short list of friends I’d call upon in true emergencies, whom I’d be trust wholly to be there for me and who I’d want to be there, the list is all men.
I have a notion that women tend to bond better with women in general, to have a larger social circle, and are friend-lier than men on the whole; but men form closer, deeper, more lasting bonds than women do. I am blood brothers with my best friend, whom I’ve been friends with for over 20 years now. He still lives in Texas, and we won’t see or talk to each other for sometimes up to a year. Yet, the moment we see each other, it’s like we’re back in high school again.
And before some female jumps my ass about this, well, save your anecdotes. Our relationships really are deeper. Sorry. (^^)v [/quote]
Another perspective on gay friends. I have a few and I tend to be their “date” for events their significant other doesn’t want to attend. They also worry about rumors if they are seen out with other guys.
The last girl who I was just friends with would just help me with my game and I would do the same for her. Meaning she would be my wingwoman and I would be her wingman when we go out at night. We would go into a bar at night and then leave with different people. It worked out great and she was pretty fun to be around. Ended up banging her and now I’m about to propose to her before the end of 2012.
I’m kind of socially stupid, so I try to make friends with anyone that I find interesting. Lately that has been primarily females. A lot of my good friends have moved away in recent years, so I am trying to “relearn” how to make friends. Female friends are complicated, though.
I’m married. They’re hot. Their boyfriend doesn’t want them hanging out with another guy. Crazy shit.
I wish it was easier for me to make friends. Sigh.
[quote]Jackie_Jacked wrote:
Acquaintances maybe but close friends, I doubt. My experience in past has always been what the article relayed: man has an interest in the female and the female has no clue and therefor feels it’s a “safe” friendship. That’s not to say the reverse can’t happen but I feel that it’s the former, usually.
In the past I’ve had platonic friendships with men but usually I would end up explaining that I don’t like them in that way. Now that I’m married, I would not entertain a true male friendship other than that of with my husband because I believe that it’s playing with temptation on somebody’s part. If I were to look back and think about all of the male/female platonic relationships that I’ve seen, I would have to say that there was an element of flirting on one of their behalf’s.
I don’t have a male that I would “hang out with”, no. Couples, yes. I’m polite to friends or acquaintances of my husbands or say a co-worker but to actually build a friendship with that person, I would not. If I were single I might entertain the idea but would have my guard up so as to not give the wrong impression or to falsely give someone the idea that I was interested in anything other than friendship. [/quote]
[quote]blake2616 wrote:
I’m kind of socially stupid, so I try to make friends with anyone that I find interesting. Lately that has been primarily females. A lot of my good friends have moved away in recent years, so I am trying to “relearn” how to make friends. Female friends are complicated, though.
I’m married. They’re hot. Their boyfriend doesn’t want them hanging out with another guy. Crazy shit.
I wish it was easier for me to make friends. Sigh.
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This is treading in dangerous water. Find some male friends or you will find yourself knee-deep soon.
[quote]RRibber wrote:
The last girl who I was just friends with would just help me with my game and I would do the same for her. Meaning she would be my wingwoman and I would be her wingman when we go out at night. We would go into a bar at night and then leave with different people. It worked out great and she was pretty fun to be around. Ended up banging her and now I’m about to propose to her before the end of 2012.[/quote]
The first time I actually had a wing woman was quite a surprise, completely unexpected and it got me attention and a girl by the end of the night.
If she can get across to the other girl that she isn’t into you then its a win/win scenario, you could not possibly screw it up unless you throw a drink on her.
Its funny how much attention you get when you’re with another woman, women actually stare at you or try to eye fuck you and they get really keen if you flirt with them a bit. Must be a missing link for me these days.
[quote]blake2616 wrote:
I’m kind of socially stupid, so I try to make friends with anyone that I find interesting. Lately that has been primarily females. A lot of my good friends have moved away in recent years, so I am trying to “relearn” how to make friends. Female friends are complicated, though.
I’m married. They’re hot. Their boyfriend doesn’t want them hanging out with another guy. Crazy shit.
I wish it was easier for me to make friends. Sigh.
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This is treading in dangerous water. Find some male friends or you will find yourself knee-deep soon.[/quote]
^ This. I have problems making friends (not through work) and I was fortunate to make some through the gym.
Mrs Dwarf (“Lacey”) and I were best friends for over 3 years before we finally got together.
We both were already in relationships, but seeing Lacey at work everyday (especially in summer, working in a non-air conditioned “sweatshop”, she always went bra-less in tanktops) was so tempting and frustrating. Finally after 2 years my GF cheated on me, I split, and within a month Lacey and I got together, and married 10 months later.
But for essentially what amount to two arranged marriages, I would have probably never have gotten a date.
The only women who I managed to pick up at bars or the like in school/army were crazy Lebanese/Syrian/arab/Turk women who got back at their families by screwing Jewish men.
Oh, and the occassional assigned asian lab partner who would suddenly confess love/lust about 3/4 through a semester.
[quote]blake2616 wrote:
I’m kind of socially stupid, so I try to make friends with anyone that I find interesting. Lately that has been primarily females. A lot of my good friends have moved away in recent years, so I am trying to “relearn” how to make friends. Female friends are complicated, though.
I’m married. They’re hot. Their boyfriend doesn’t want them hanging out with another guy. Crazy shit.
I wish it was easier for me to make friends. Sigh.
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This is treading in dangerous water. Find some male friends or you will find yourself knee-deep soon.[/quote]
Concur. Married folk especially don’t need opposite-sex friends.
I don’t have any opposite sex friends. Even friends girlfriends I try not to spend too much time talking to. We’ll exchange pleasantries, a hug, maybe a pic if its a special occasion then I move on.
Most of my friends date decent to good looking girls, so during mid conversation my thoughts will quickly change to picturing what it would be like to be on top of them.
[quote]blake2616 wrote:
I’m kind of socially stupid, so I try to make friends with anyone that I find interesting. Lately that has been primarily females. A lot of my good friends have moved away in recent years, so I am trying to “relearn” how to make friends. Female friends are complicated, though.
I’m married. They’re hot. Their boyfriend doesn’t want them hanging out with another guy. Crazy shit.
I wish it was easier for me to make friends. Sigh.
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This is treading in dangerous water. Find some male friends or you will find yourself knee-deep soon.[/quote]
Concur. Married folk especially don’t need opposite-sex friends.[/quote]
I’m slowly coming to that realization. Probably will still try, though. At the very least, I can learn from the experience. If not… maybe some side poon, 'nah mean brah?
