How can this take place with ongoing emotional blackmail, gaslighting, and ad hominem attacks thrown at people making intellectual arguments, as flawed or plausible as they are? I now consider these forms of lack of self control and/or statements to shut down conversation altogether and/or used when someone has nothing further to say but wants to win or cannot handle the fact that all inhabitants of the world don’t want to think, act, and live in the same way!
Oftentimes these come up out of nowhere! Several times I’ve said things on these boards (not just PWI) and IRL and I’m lead into topics that had nothing to do with what I was talking about and then wonder, “How the hell did this person go there?!”
For example, a man might be discussing women and make an unflattering remark about them, and then, boom, mention of the Middle East, Sharia Law, burqas, etc., etc.
Other examples are, “You sound like Hitler,” “that’s like the Nazis,” “that’s what the Nazis did,” and other mentions of National Socialist Germany.
One can mention a time in the West that he thought was a more peaceful and prosperous time, say 1950’s America, and he must be reminded, “Yes, it was good except for the racism/sexism/segregation/etc.” I once had a talk like that and asked the guy, “why was that the first thing your mind went to? Why are you reminding me of this?” For me, such talk implies the person might be attempting to set someone up, and it creates distrust, and a sort of whiny moral grandstanding.
Oftentimes terms such as racist, incel, bigot, farright, fascist, homophobe, sexist, anti-Semite,and so on are used incorrectly and don’t even fit the person one is talking to and there are sentiments made up for people who don’t even fit them! For example I once said I don’t have a side in the current war; I have a neutral stance for reasons and info I have mulled over in my head and someone said “it seems like you picked a side?”
Get that: I said I don’t have a side and someone replies, “you picked a side.”
If someone is attempting intellectual argumentation against X activity, media, policy, constructs, etc., using popular shock terms, which I now consider slurs if used incorrectly, is uncalled for, and again, I believe shows lack of self control. It is jarring to the person and is an attempt to make him appear hateful, unreasonable, and nuts! And someone using unrelated subjects (eg, Sharia Law and NS Germany) for shock effect and to be presented as extreme and moral grandstanding is is silly too!
What do you think?