[quote]tootles27 wrote:
This place is turning into a creeper fest.[/quote]
x2
I don’t know what the saddest thing is; A guy pretending to stalk people from some internet forum or a guy actually doing it.
[quote]Mad_Duck wrote:
[quote]trav123456 wrote:
[quote]pushmepullme wrote:
Trav, are you a fan of the pickle with more fans than Nickleback on FB? I am.[/quote]
If I was on FB I DEFINITELY would. They’re pretty much the worst thing about Canada.[/quote]
THIS, however is pretty much the best thing about Canada
(if you meet people like this on public transit ever, you probably shouldn’t ask them how much for a shoe shine.)[/quote]
Dude, I’m sorry but that fucking sucked, I want my 5 minutes back.
I just made the best omelet.
-Cooked bacon til crispy
-drained most of the fat
-cooked onions and mushrooms in bacon fat
-crumbled some bacon
-started omelet
-dropped onion, mushroom, and bacon into the center.
-fold, fold, flip.
-no cheese, why you say, because fuck cheese
-smothered in ketchup
-enjoyed
[quote]countingbeans wrote:
[quote]trav123456 wrote:
Beans I don’t know why you bother arguing in all of the idiotic threads that pop up. You do present your point well but fuck I’d get fed up with that shit pretty fast.
I also don’t know why Dankid keeps posting though.
mysteries of the interwebz…[/quote]
Welcome back you sexy bitch
There are quite a few times I hit the back button. Sometimes I just rage fist and four finger type out some diatribe drivel that is posted before I realize I hit submit.
I would say it is mostly my disdain for ignorance.
weakkid is obviously doing this shit on purpose now, he is a follower of the 170lbs guru I spoke of earlier who ruined any respect he deserves by following the ignorance posted on his board. While I have an open mind and read his info, and may very well go his route for cutting, I still think he is a jackass… But I digress.
Cbear, if your having emotional dude troubles I’m great at that shit. I been through some pretty messed up shit as a kid, and spend a large part of my life an emotional mess. [/quote]
[quote]CBear84 wrote:
[quote]WolBarret wrote:
[quote]CBear84 wrote:
[quote]pushmepullme wrote:
I’ve never supported forum suicide…but damn, C…damn.[/quote]
so the vodka is kicking in
(mixing it with pink lemonade crystal light. better than i thought, actually)
edited for stupidity[/quote]
I told you alcohol solves everything. You’re only forgetting the Ignore button.[/quote]
I can’t hit ignore I need this shit for evidence. I wish that was a joke. Mods asked if I wanted that shit deleted. I had to say no.
can we be friends again? I know u like me an I like u too. I just like giving u shit. [/quote]
[quote]countingbeans wrote:
[quote]CBear84 wrote:
[quote]countingbeans wrote:
Cbear, if your having emotional dude troubles I’m great at that shit. I been through some pretty messed up shit as a kid, and spend a large part of my life an emotional mess. [/quote]
ok cool.
help me figure out why he creates his own reality where, “I dont want you to contact me in any way,”
turns into,
“jim said that the real reason you’re upset is because he’s not talking to you.”
and how even though hes moved on with his life he reads my log to check on my training and when i’ll be in town.
fwiw, the last few times ive been offline for a few days, is bc i’ve had company in town. [/quote]
How long had he been contemplating ending it before he said statement A?
Did statement B come from someone he wants to impress and/or have a high standing with?
This is very important:
Did he have a backup/rebound/another chick waiting when it ended? [/quote]
[quote]countingbeans wrote:
[quote]CBear84 wrote:
quoting is too complicated rite now
pcs2- there’s already so much i haven’t been posting, and if im gonna do this shit i wanna be myself… damnit. crazy son of a bitch.
beans- he told me he was moving to CO about 2 weeks before he did. I threw my fit and drank that night, bc I figured it was over, and the next day we talked about making it work and staying together. we were already long distance, and i had school coming up, so it didnt seem like that big of a deal. however, i started coping with my loss at that point. he ended it the day I was sposed to drive down there/he was sposed to drive up here for our goodbye weekend. so, i cant say for sure.
statement B came from a mutual friend via the grapevine. aka, jim said this to person 1 (who i know and trust), who said it to person 2 (also who I know and trust).
because we dont live in the same town its hard to tell. I know he’s been on a date (weeks and weeks post breakup) with someone, and the bet among our mutual friends was how much he would talk about me on his date with her. If he had someone, everyone is doing a very good job of keeping it quiet, but I’m gonna guess no. [/quote]
Based on the details I do know, just be out. Be done with him and chalk it up to lesson learned.
As to why it happened: I have theories, but I’ll refrain as I don’t know the situation well.
Where is head is at now: regret, remorse, indecision, loss of control. All natural things that are very difficult to deal with. If I had to guess he had a lot invested in you emotionally and didn’t really think the break-up through enough.
How old is he? How dark is his past (no need for details here.)[/quote]
mr beans:
First off thank you for handling this in such a classy manner. I am very impressed.
I will keep this short and sweet hopefully it will bring some understadning which will lead to calm.
I was mentally and phyiscally abused by my mother from a very early age untill i moved out on my own at 15 (i will spare your the details but it was not fun). My father would run and hide from her and would try and be super nice to her to try and make her stop, as i am sure you know this made her worse.
So one: I don’t know how to handle someone treating me well in a realtionship it makes me feel very uncomfortable.
Two: when someone is upset with me I feel comfortable, so i do all sorts of nice things for them. The more upset the nicer i want to be.
I have been getting professional help since december and it has been helping but it takes time to undo years of bad programming. it has been very painful and i wouldn’t wish it on anyone.
I have been on dates but they have been more for fun. I have no desire to get into a realtionship untill i am healthy I do not wish to make the same mistakes over and over again.
No I did not talk about the person in question on my date lol
after this is posted i the only time i will be on the site is to update my blog. This is mainly for my own metal well being.
Hopyfull with this info there will be calm
phone calls and flowers are one thing.
harming someone is something I would never do
I have followed all the guildlines set up by her legal council as of dec 24th if haven’t i would have been charged with something by now which i have not.
Thank you for your time and understanding
Jim
[quote]squat1000b700 wrote:
[quote]countingbeans wrote:
[quote]trav123456 wrote:
Beans I don’t know why you bother arguing in all of the idiotic threads that pop up. You do present your point well but fuck I’d get fed up with that shit pretty fast.
I also don’t know why Dankid keeps posting though.
mysteries of the interwebz…[/quote]
Welcome back you sexy bitch
There are quite a few times I hit the back button. Sometimes I just rage fist and four finger type out some diatribe drivel that is posted before I realize I hit submit.
I would say it is mostly my disdain for ignorance.
weakkid is obviously doing this shit on purpose now, he is a follower of the 170lbs guru I spoke of earlier who ruined any respect he deserves by following the ignorance posted on his board. While I have an open mind and read his info, and may very well go his route for cutting, I still think he is a jackass… But I digress.
Cbear, if your having emotional dude troubles I’m great at that shit. I been through some pretty messed up shit as a kid, and spend a large part of my life an emotional mess. [/quote]
[quote]CBear84 wrote:
[quote]WolBarret wrote:
[quote]CBear84 wrote:
[quote]pushmepullme wrote:
I’ve never supported forum suicide…but damn, C…damn.[/quote]
so the vodka is kicking in
(mixing it with pink lemonade crystal light. better than i thought, actually)
edited for stupidity[/quote]
I told you alcohol solves everything. You’re only forgetting the Ignore button.[/quote]
I can’t hit ignore I need this shit for evidence. I wish that was a joke. Mods asked if I wanted that shit deleted. I had to say no.
can we be friends again? I know u like me an I like u too. I just like giving u shit. [/quote]
[quote]countingbeans wrote:
[quote]CBear84 wrote:
[quote]countingbeans wrote:
Cbear, if your having emotional dude troubles I’m great at that shit. I been through some pretty messed up shit as a kid, and spend a large part of my life an emotional mess. [/quote]
ok cool.
help me figure out why he creates his own reality where, “I dont want you to contact me in any way,”
turns into,
“jim said that the real reason you’re upset is because he’s not talking to you.”
and how even though hes moved on with his life he reads my log to check on my training and when i’ll be in town.
fwiw, the last few times ive been offline for a few days, is bc i’ve had company in town. [/quote]
How long had he been contemplating ending it before he said statement A?
Did statement B come from someone he wants to impress and/or have a high standing with?
This is very important:
Did he have a backup/rebound/another chick waiting when it ended? [/quote]
[quote]countingbeans wrote:
[quote]CBear84 wrote:
quoting is too complicated rite now
pcs2- there’s already so much i haven’t been posting, and if im gonna do this shit i wanna be myself… damnit. crazy son of a bitch.
beans- he told me he was moving to CO about 2 weeks before he did. I threw my fit and drank that night, bc I figured it was over, and the next day we talked about making it work and staying together. we were already long distance, and i had school coming up, so it didnt seem like that big of a deal. however, i started coping with my loss at that point. he ended it the day I was sposed to drive down there/he was sposed to drive up here for our goodbye weekend. so, i cant say for sure.
statement B came from a mutual friend via the grapevine. aka, jim said this to person 1 (who i know and trust), who said it to person 2 (also who I know and trust).
because we dont live in the same town its hard to tell. I know he’s been on a date (weeks and weeks post breakup) with someone, and the bet among our mutual friends was how much he would talk about me on his date with her. If he had someone, everyone is doing a very good job of keeping it quiet, but I’m gonna guess no. [/quote]
Based on the details I do know, just be out. Be done with him and chalk it up to lesson learned.
As to why it happened: I have theories, but I’ll refrain as I don’t know the situation well.
Where is head is at now: regret, remorse, indecision, loss of control. All natural things that are very difficult to deal with. If I had to guess he had a lot invested in you emotionally and didn’t really think the break-up through enough.
How old is he? How dark is his past (no need for details here.)[/quote]
mr beans:
First off thank you for handling this in such a classy manner. I am very impressed.
I will keep this short and sweet hopefully it will bring some understadning which will lead to calm.
I was mentally and phyiscally abused by my mother from a very early age untill i moved out on my own at 15 (i will spare your the details but it was not fun). My father would run and hide from her and would try and be super nice to her to try and make her stop, as i am sure you know this made her worse.
So one: I don’t know how to handle someone treating me well in a realtionship it makes me feel very uncomfortable.
Two: when someone is upset with me I feel comfortable, so i do all sorts of nice things for them. The more upset the nicer i want to be.
I have been getting professional help since december and it has been helping but it takes time to undo years of bad programming. it has been very painful and i wouldn’t wish it on anyone.
I have been on dates but they have been more for fun. I have no desire to get into a realtionship untill i am healthy I do not wish to make the same mistakes over and over again.
No I did not talk about the person in question on my date lol
after this is posted i the only time i will be on the site is to update my blog. This is mainly for my own metal well being.
Hopyfull with this info there will be calm
phone calls and flowers are one thing.
harming someone is something I would never do
I have followed all the guildlines set up by her legal council as of dec 24th if haven’t i would have been charged with something by now which i have not.
Thank you for your time and understanding
Jim
[/quote]
Jim, fwiw i’ve been in TOO many relationships where it was the women who were abused by their father/step father and had very similar issues. Part of them longed for a healthy relationship, but they instincively found ways to derail it, eventually. It’s a mind-fuck for both parties.
In any case, I wish you the best of luck.
no need to explain yourself man, this isn’t easy for either of you. (Although I understand why you would want too)
Thing is you guys had a serious connection, which is obvious from what I have read thus far.
Pretty soon this whole mess will seem like another lifetime. Good luck with the professional. And good luck with your training.
thanks guys
best of luck to you as well
beans I am very impressed you are one classy dude
[quote]squat1000b700 wrote:
thanks guys
best of luck to you as well
beans I am very impressed you are one classy dude [/quote]
I been through a lot of filthy shit in my life man, I tend not to judge emotional reactions. Some of us are just broken, but the fact you are taking the heads on approach is going to make this much easier for you.
Two things i would repeat to myself when things were very rough:
What will be, will be
and
Let me be me
let me free
let me be
let me free
Ghey, I know, but it helped to think that the pain was out of my control, but managing it, and creating joy was in my control.
For a long time, and I can’t help but think you are sort of the same, I was only comfortable when I was miserable. I promise man, happy is worth the journey. It fucking hurts like a mmotherfucker to get there, and is a long ass road, but it is so worth it. I would imagine it is a difficult as a 1000lbs squat. 
Thanks Beans
That is how a dealt with all the negativity in the weight room, and in sports. No it is time to deal with it on the most important playing feild the brain and soul.
Thanks for the tips
Jim
[quote]countingbeans wrote:
Thanks man, what did you used to run?[/quote]
not quite sure i follow. if you’re talking about actual running, then the 100m and the 200m.
[quote]WormwoodTheory wrote:
[quote]countingbeans wrote:
Thanks man, what did you used to run?[/quote]
not quite sure i follow. if you’re talking about actual running, then the 100m and the 200m.[/quote]
no what was your back day like that got your lower lats to pop like so? Sorry for the confusion
seated close grip low rows and pull ups for days and days. a lot of people swear by bent over DB rows, but i’ve done them once in about two years.
most importantly, you gotta feel it. i’ve always thought that was paramount to back growth. there’s so many different muscles back there and they’re all so close together, it seems easy to overcompensate with one group and under work another.
oh and a lot of my grip and core training centers around hanging from things for extended amounts of time. that’s helped lat development too.
The chick in the 5th element movie is hot.
[quote]countingbeans wrote:
The chick in the 5th element movie is hot.
[/quote]
PMPM I will PM pictures of mah pajamas if you post in this outfit.
IDEA: all teh birds in this thread have a 5th element outfit post off. Good times indeed.
[quote]countingbeans wrote:
[quote]countingbeans wrote:
The chick in the 5th element movie is hot.
[/quote]
PMPM I will PM pictures of mah pajamas if you post in this outfit.
IDEA: all teh birds in this thread have a 5th element outfit post off. Good times indeed.[/quote]
I only have a purple wig.
[quote]pushmepullme wrote:
[quote]countingbeans wrote:
[quote]countingbeans wrote:
The chick in the 5th element movie is hot.
[/quote]
PMPM I will PM pictures of mah pajamas if you post in this outfit.
IDEA: all teh birds in this thread have a 5th element outfit post off. Good times indeed.[/quote]
I only have a purple wig.[/quote]
Yeah, but the matching dye job on the carpet was excellent.
ATTENTION ALL AMERICANS!!!
I would like to offer a pre-emptive apology for any trash talking and abuse I may be hurling at you & your hockey team once the puck drops. I’m a little concerned about the David Backes factor in tonight’s game, things will depend on European/NHL reffing.
COPIOUS beer, whiskey & barbecue is about to begin at our place, so again, I thought it best to ask that you take nothing personally tonight.
[quote]Mad_Duck wrote:
[quote]pushmepullme wrote:
[quote]countingbeans wrote:
[quote]countingbeans wrote:
The chick in the 5th element movie is hot.
[/quote]
PMPM I will PM pictures of mah pajamas if you post in this outfit.
IDEA: all teh birds in this thread have a 5th element outfit post off. Good times indeed.[/quote]
I only have a purple wig.[/quote]
Yeah, but the matching dye job on the carpet was excellent.
ATTENTION ALL AMERICANS!!!
I would like to offer a pre-emptive apology for any trash talking and abuse I may be hurling at you & your hockey team once the puck drops. I’m a little concerned about the David Backes factor in tonight’s game, things will depend on European/NHL reffing.
COPIOUS beer, whiskey & barbecue is about to begin at our place, so again, I thought it best to ask that you take nothing personally tonight.
downtown vancity is going to be NUTS tonight
Duck, go ahead and talk shit… I don’t even know what hockey is
FFFFFUUUUUUUUUUUUUU-
didn’t properly warm up for chest tonight. just warming up with 135 on bench, and i feel a pinch. 1 hour later and there’s a marble sized lump in the middle of my right pec and i have limited to no movement in my right shoulder without chest pain.
top it off with a weird nerved pain in my left hand and i’m ready to cry in a dark room while cutting my thighs.