[quote]JayPierce wrote:
[quote]pat wrote:
Maybe not initially, but there are all kinds of love. Like, ‘love your enemy’, it’s a choice. You sure as hell do feel like loving them. But you choose to do it. That’s certainly not based on feeling when every fiber of your being wants to hate, you choose to love.[/quote]
Probably the one rule I have the most trouble with, personally. My love for Christ and the Father causes me to act in a loving, forgiving manner toward those I would consider to be my enemies, but I don’t feel any love for them, as far as affection goes.[/quote]
Exactly, which goes to the heart of the matter. You cannot help how you feel, you can only help what you do.
Let’s look at what Jesus says about it in Matthew:
“But I say to you, Love your enemies and pray for those who persecute you, so that you may be sons of your Father who is in heaven. For he makes his sun rise on the evil and on the good, and sends rain on the just and on the unjust.
(Matthew 5:44-45 ESV)”
Well, you cannot force yourself to have affection for your enemy. However, you can pray for them. That’s one thing you can do to follow what Jesus says.
It has happened to me. I had a bitter enemy at work. This lady did everything she could to get me fired. She spread vicious and untrue rumors about me, etc. I hated her badly. She was making my life a living hell at work.
Needless to say I had to defend myself, and it even went as far as HR. I technically won the battle in terms of our conflict. To this day I do not know why she singled me out to give hell, aside from the fact that I was the new guy. But that’s not the point of this story, the point is now she is my buddy. We totally rely on each other and help each other out all the time.
At the time, I had the opportunity to ‘do’ things to her to mess her up and hurt her job, if not get her to lose her job. My goal wasn’t to ‘stick it to her’, it was just to get the harassment to stop and to stop her from affecting my job. So despite the opportunities, I did not put her job in peril. I didn’t take advantage of the opportunities I had to do that. I also, while praying for ‘it’ to stop, I prayed for her as well.
The reason I behaved the way I did in this case, was directly because of that gospel. It’s not that I was naturally a good guy who have done that anyway. I decided to follow what Jesus said and it worked. Like I said, now she is my ‘work friend’ and we help each other all the time.
I chose to act this way but I didn’t feel any love towards her, at all. After all she was screwing with my lively hood and that’s not something I take lightly. It’s just that I didn’t feel any love toward her, I chose do what the gospel said, that’s all.
That’s why while love can have very strong emotions attached to it, there is more to it than just emotion.