Random completely lifting unrelated life updates because I’ve come to accept this log is basically my equivalent of a journal (which is much manlier than saying diary).
- I am planning my wedding. Very excited for that (which I fully believe is the correct response lol.) I know I have alternately said wife and fiancee. To clear any confusion, in true military fashion, my fiancee/wife got married at a courthouse 3 days after I proposed, but are planning an actual wedding for next fall. I like to joke that my marriage is in limbo. The wife/fiancee (or fife, as I call her) is less amused by this pun.
- Idk how to say this without being slightly conceited, but I have always been popular. I wouldn’t say I’m extremely extroverted, but I know how to play the part, and I quickly make a ton of friends in pretty much any social situation. (To include several decade long friends from airplanes lol.) That being said, planning the wedding guest list, I have like 3 friends I want there. That’s really it. I can think of tons of people who would come if invited, but when I really think “who do I want there?” It’s only a few people. My fife, on the other hand, is inviting approximately 27 million people. So I need to invite a few extras to even out the pews lol.
- Why are weddings so expensive? Jesus Christ, let’s start a marriage by financially ruining the couple.
- In direct contrast to the above post, my fife and I had a realization this weekend. We are low key set for retirement. I know that sounds like an odd realization, but hear me out. I check my investments like once a year, when I pay my taxes. And even then that’s only on the taxable accounts, the rest I honestly haven’t looked at in forever. My fife is kind of the same. I have had my investment accounts since I was 16, when I got my first real job. She’s had one since 18 in college. We both had lived well below our means. Well shit, we realized that together we are pretty high 6 figures in our retirement account, probably breaking 7 in the next year. For 27? I could never save another dime and still be pretty secure for retirement at 65. I knew I had saved a lot, and she’s matched me almost dollar for dollar, but honestly we were both a little shocked when we actually looked at our accounts. Very good problem to have, especially for 2 kids who put themselves through school and have earned themselves every dollar they’ve had. Really happy with our financial situation, and marginally embarrassed by how little I was tracking my own progress. I automated everything so I didn’t have to think about it, and I guess that worked lol. Im honestly still a little shocked, and it’s kind of thrown some life plans into question, because I’ve hit some goals I wasn’t planning to touch for years. But also relieved a lot a stress, because while we are still planning to invest as we have been, it’s not something I really need to worry about anymore.
- my fife used to be on the army 10 miler team, and talked me into doing the race with her next year in DC. So I’m not going full marathon mode, but definitely working up the miles until I’m sure I can knock out 10 without trouble.
- Fife visited last weekend, will be at least 5 months until I see her again, maybe longer since getting home from deployments always a gamble. I’ll be honest, I miss her like crazy. Really wasn’t expecting to go on this deployment, and I think mentally I’m still coming to terms with it. I’ve spent over half my 20s at sea at this point, not excited to continue that trend, but very much ready to see what’s on the other side.
- Not saying I don’t care about nutrition right now, but it’s not my priority. As in, I will eat healthy most days. But if a friend invites me out to the bars, I am going. I can be strict on deployment, I’m going to enjoy my time while I can.
- Have mainly planned out my home gym build. Remember when I said no expense spared? Let’s edit that to “higher than moderate budget” lol. It is way, way to easy to build a 20k home gym, and I have absolutely no business doing even half of that lol. When did gym equipment get so expensive? It’s literally heavy circles
- moving out of my apartment in the coming weeks, throwing everything into a storage unit. Should save some cash for deployment, but will definitely keep me busy outside of work.
- Once I get to my next job, I’ll have 2 years left in the Navy. After that? I’m so torn. No bad options, just so many good options that I’m not sure which I want to pick. Part of me wants to go to law school. Feel I’m most qualified for that route with my educational background, and objectively I think I’d be good at it. But I am a bit of a workaholic, and worry law will only further that. Part of me wants med school, I’d love to work with athletes or military, not in a sports performance perspective, but in a general health and wellbeing perspective. I have zero academic background for that, other than some impressive resumes that convey “hey, idk shit about this, but I’m good at learning things.” Part of me wants and MBA, just because I feel like that leads to the best work life balance and financial gain. Then part of me wants to stick with government work and look into some kind of federal law enforcement or intelligence work… so yeah. I have some figuring out to do.