Asking for Too Much Out of Life?

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There is nothing wrong with your list as far as being attainable or not. Lots of people men in the US have similar things (minus the house location and the never working), but it seems as if you are wanting “things”

A wife
3 kids,
a house in the Rockaways (by Jacob Riis Park) in NY,
a dog,
2 cars, and
2 vacations per year-each of them lasting for 6 months. Ok maybe not the last thing

Some of them are mutually exclusive. ie not working all year makes most men not born rich broke and living off others.

lots of men have “a wife” only some of them are happy about it.

3 kids, they could be dysfunctional shits, drug addicts etc.

A house yup, most of the people I work with have one not many are enamored with them.

I know people who absolutely love their dog. In fact I hear way more complaints about spouses from both sexes than complaints about dogs.

2 cars well most American families have two cars where I have visited.

I don’t PERSONALLY know anyone who takes more than one month per year of vacation, and I know a few well off people, but hey, I’m sure they are out there somewhere. Maybe Paris Hilton does.

My point is that the “things” you want out of life except for the last one are easily attainable for a lot of humans. The issue is that getting them is not necessarily going to make you fulfilled or happy. Maybe you should find something you want to do and do it. You may happen to find a partner who you can’t live without who wants to spend her time with you. You may happen to reproduce (or not) and be thrilled with your three kids, etc. etc. You may not

Or you may get all of the specific things you mentioned and hate life.

Yes the universe may hear your request , give you the “things” you asked for and then you may be completely miserable… or not

I would prefer to feel good about the contribution I make to society, have a family that I love, be comfortable enough financially that i am not stressed about my future. The number of kids, cars, home location, vacation time could be kind of a “variable”, but not so important…

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[quote]Professor X wrote:
chimera182 wrote:
jasmincar wrote:
imhungry wrote:
PaddyM wrote:
belligerent wrote:
I think the worst think you can do in life is accept less than what you want out of it.

x2

x3

BUT, it’s also about appreciating what you have right now and enjoying the little things in life. Keep in mind that life can take it all away in a heartbeat.

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Don’t expect anything from life. Don’t expect anything from other people.
But you should expect things about yourself.

A man said to the universe, “Sir, I exist.”
“Yes,” replied the universe, 'But that has not created in me a sense of obligation."

I’ve always loved that quote

Agreed. It seems that those who expect the most…actually contribute the least. Life is way too unpredictable to walk around EXPECTING a fantasy life. Work hard and earn what you “expect”. You have guys right now flunking out of college but “expecting” tons of shit for no reason.[/quote]

An ex-girlfriends dad is the head of down-stream analysis of the Americas for Shell oil. That’s a pretty important job. He and I were in the car one day and he was telling me about he and his wifes humble beginings and how cool it is to look back and see where they came from. As we were talking the topic of luck came up. As he’s driving down the freeway doing 70+ he turned, looked me square in the eye and said “I’ve always been of the opinion you make your own luck”. It’s not the first time I’ve heard that but coming from someone who’s accomplished so much it really made sense.

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[quote]Iron Dwarf wrote:
imhungry wrote:
BUT, it’s also about appreciating what you have right now and enjoying the little things in life. Keep in mind that life can take it all away in a heartbeat.

I’m totally about this!
Too many people feel like it’s their right to have everything they desire. And too many don’t learn simple lessons from those who’ve lost everything (including life) in that heartbeat.

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Damn straight! Good post hungry.